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Background information: For anyone wondering why I am still in contact with my ex, it's because we have children together and coparent on a weekly basis. It has been more than 2 years after separation and sometimes, certain conversations still spark huge discussions and arguments about the ending of our relationship and everything that went wrong and the reasons why he left me. Why do we still do this?
My ex (30M) and I (29F) still argue about the ending of our relationship and what went wrong 2+ years later?
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I think you're still having these arguments because he's stuck blaming you, and you keep engaging... or vice versa. At this point, it's just dragging out drama that should've ended with the relationship.
Wow girl, that sounds so frustrating and stressful to still be arguing with your ex about all that after so long. Coparenting is never easy when you broke up, but fighting all the time isn't good for anyone, especially your kids.
It's good you guys are still able to communicate to coparent, but I get why bringing up the relationship drama again still makes you upset. Maybe you could set some boundaries though, like not rehashing the whole breakup anytime you talk. That's in the past, you know?
At the same time, he needs to let it go too if he's the one still starting arguments about it. Like dude, you left her, it's been years - stop dragging it back up! Y'all broke up, nothing is changing that now. Might help if you can keep conversations focused just on kids stuff and not let them wander into relationship territory.
Easier said than done, I know. But constantly fighting about old junk isn't solving anything and is probably just making things harder than they need to be. Maybe suggest keeping things cordial for the kids? Like don't be besties but keep itsurface level nice when talking kid stuff. Worth a try if you wanna keep the peace! You've both moved on now, maybe remind him of that too.
I would disengage from the arguing. Let him vent and just go about your life being happy.