My ex and I still argue about the past and how our relationship went wrong even 1 year after breakup?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean if my ex and I still argue about the past from time to time and fight about the cause of the ending to our relationship that happened a year ago? Before you ask why we are still in contact, him and I have 2 kids together that we coparent so we are in constant contact and see each other all the time. We usually only talk about our kids but every once in a while, the past will get brought up and we will argue about who did what and what went wrong. Why are we still doing this?

[glennos89]

That you both are blaming eachother for the mistakes they made in the relationship instead of self reflecting on the things you yourself did wrong during the relationship🤷‍♂️

Pointing fingers at someone else before you blamed yourself for your own mistakes is not going to help the situation and neither will it help you to change to become a better person yourself.

Which eventually will result in you taking the same problems you have with you in the next relationship while you also could have worked on your own issues 🤷‍♂️😇🙏

[Anonymous]

it means you have a lot of resentment built up and it'll take years and years to recover from. resentment, hatred, regret, wasting time, etc, all a recipe for disaster for mental health. you both need therapy and to just let it go. it's not healthy for your kids either, even if you are broke up or not. what is the point of still arguing when it's over? i think you two should stay away from each other as much as possible, of course only when dealing with the kids you should communicate. that's it. strictly kid talk. after that, that there shouldn't be any talking of any kind.

[boobliker]

then you still love each other shams its ended for you

[Asker]

he was the one that ended the relationship a year ago yet insists every time we bring up the past that it was the right thing to do and that he is over it and does not love me anymore...

[NotInterestedSorry]

That doesn't sound like love at all.

[boobliker]

I take it from that you still love him so I would say is move on with your life and I hope you find someone who will love you back.

[In_Trance]

stop interacting with your ex