How to proper leverage this? Advise?

[Altheavas]

1- There’s a dream job I want to do at a company. I couldn’t start because I was going through a painful divorce. I really don’t want to give up in accomplishing that part of my goal. I don’t want to regret later.

2- but at the company there’s a guy that I like/had crush on. He is almost unavoidable. I want to return to start the job but I am not looking for a relationship.

Assuming he has an interest. I am having a hard time accepting he ever did.
If he doesn’t give a damn and moved on. It would help that I try to get ready and settle mentally, and heal. I am emotionally unstable, it aches, I’m happier right now staying single, it’s peaceful.

Updates

6 mo

I could go to another branch of the company in a different state, but the odds, and commute are not quite in my advantage. I don’t want to do all of these because I’m trynna avoiding someone I used to have a crush on either. It’s immature, my goal is more important.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Just remember that you are their to work and not entertain yourself with other people.

Say hello, hi at end of shift thank you good bye 👋.

And keep it simple it's all in your mind what you choose to be and how you act.

You will find 100a of people attractive and they might return the favour that necessarily doesn't mean you have to keep thinking of it.

It's all about where you really want your energies to be put into that's all everything else is an excuse.

It might be tough but just let it be and focus focus focus on work.

[NathanDavis]

don't give that someone way too much power over you and over nothing...

if a "crush on a guy" is all it takes to stop your dreams... then you don't really want it enough, so if you mean, then go and get it... lol

[Altheavas]

The “lol”is not funny at the end!
It’s really a problem!

[NathanDavis]

it should not be... that's the point

[ohsheeT]

Honestly when I read what I read I think you still have hopes or thoughts in your subconscience maybe 🤔

I mean is the question about your dream job and your goals

Is that what you is that what you want to leverage


Or is it about him maybe wanting you and you don't know how to do with that even though you say you do

I learned a long time ago when you're good at something I mean really good at something you can get a job anywhere and I mean anywhere

So if you're happier than you've been and your peace why go back to a place that is going to take that away from you why not just move on why not create a business of your own doing the same thing

[Altheavas]

Well I want to pursue my goal, being part of that company is something I’ve always wanted to be part of for years.
First of; he has never said, “he wanting me” I’m not gonna assumed something that was never communicated to me. Basically, all that is coming from me, I just found myself around him a lot and he trained me.

Ps: I rather direct communication, than assuming with “maybe” when it comes to certain things.

Oh yeah that part, I haven’t start anywhere yet with careers or experience. I only have some degrees and a graduate degree in progress. They are way better than me, and they’re just giving me a chance. It’s not that I wasn’t happy, I have an RBF, and I don’t like being too jovial I feel like a clown. I’ve noticed they’ve made adjustments to help me feel welcome, and relax a bit even though I can’t get out of my head against the majority.

I think I might be my own problem!

[ohsheeT]

Yes maybe but. I can feel your words.

Maybe since he trained you.
And maybe spending that time next to him you could just feel that energy from him and you like his technique how he does things and if you're not sure of yourself that would pull you in closer to him too

I think maybe boost your confidence a little bit just within yourself it doesn't matter if other people are better than you or if you're better than other people it is what it is and you're all there to help each other become the best

That is one of the great things about working for a great company is that if you make everybody shine

Or help everybody to shine it's just going to build your name up too

I don't know I think maybe you ought to go for it I mean if it starts getting out of hand all you have to do is say can we talk and just straighten things out

Focus on you and what you want in business before anything else would probably be the best thing

And no matter which direction it starts going just don't jump into it too fast because in a romantic business job adventure LOL it's really not that good of an idea just for the fact that if something was to go wrong and somebody breaks up either both people are going to get fired or one person's going to get fired and neither one of you guys need that probably

And if you don't do it you're always going to wish that you did do it so you absolutely have to go for it no matter what and just concentrate focus commit and have the confidence to be the best you can be because nobody likes to work for other people I mean one day you might have your own business or you could

But no matter what this is a stepping stone to whatever direction you want after this

[WindAtMyBack]

I don't entirely understand the question.

But what I do know is that opportunities come and go. Once they are gone, they usually stay gone.

It's a bad habit to pass up opportunities. You can get by with it every now and then, and probably be OK. But if you do it too often, one day you'll end up looking back at all the lost chances and wish you hadn't.

You apparently are going through a lot right now. Maybe your head is just not in the best place to pursue this. Only you can know your limits.

[Altheavas]

Yes I am going through a lot right now, and time is not much in my favor with my endeavors. Like you said “ But what I do know is that opportunities come and go. Once they are gone, they usually stay gone. It's a bad habit to pass up opportunities. You can get by with it every now and then, and probably be OK.“
I know understand that statement way too much. Either I cower with life obstacles, or I move steadfast with my life and pursue my goals. I have no reason to limer on them, how far am I going to go like that.
I am going to pursue it, and face everything, I will not loose anything! If I lose something, I already loss it in the pass. Now, I get a chance to do better moving forward.

Thanks for your point!

[Cheerfull009]

You avoid him, if he chases you then tell him , I prefer my career than relationship

[Anonymous]

Just ignore the guy and focus on your job

[Altheavas]

I definitely tried that, he didn’t do anything. He was just doing his job, He tried to train me. I don’t remember shit he said, my brain just froze!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah there’s a good chance he’s not into you. Just focus on your job and not on him.

[Altheavas]

I don’t even care if he was into me, I never even acknowledged he was/would. I am not trying to find a match. I choose to be in denial of any possibilities.
I just need to work and focus without any obstacles coming from anyone or myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. You just need to tune this guy out if he ends up working in the same space as you are

[DerekC321]

Either single or find someone better.

[Altheavas]

I am not looking though. I didn’t say he wasn’t better or not. I’m just not looking.

[RedInnocent69]

Huh?

[Altheavas]

Whelp…?

[RedInnocent69]

I’m afraid of my dream job because a guy there might like me?

[Altheavas]

😂😂😂 thank you, best answer ever!😶‍🌫️