How do I approach this?

[daniz2601]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now and today we were walking back to my home and I was complementing his voice and his accent, but then he turned to me and said I sounded aggressive. Now he’s white and I’m a black girl so being called that really hurt, especially from him. This isn’t the first time he’s made a racially insensitive comment either, he described his then permed hair as being an ‘Afro’ that he needed to ‘sort out.’

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To add more context, I did speak to him about his previous comment at the time and he did apologise

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I'm so sorry he said something so disrespectful and hurtful. That was totally out of line. You didn't deserve that.

This type of behavior is a red flag and doesn't seem like it will change. He should know better by now not to use those kinds of racist stereotypes, even "jokingly." It shows you how he really sees you deep down.

My advice would be to drop him for good. No amount of superficial apologies will make up for intentionally making you feel "the other." You deserve a man who respects you fully for who you are.

Please don't let his casual racism undermine your self-worth. Block and delete his number - you don't need that kind of trash in your life, girl! Hold your head high.

It'll hurt for now, but you'll heal and come out stronger. Don't look back - there are tons of guys who would worship the ground you walk on without putting you down. Go find one of them! You've got this.

[Badgirlnatalia]

Warn him it's wrong or there will be consequences