Was taking a break in a relationship really healthy or has it ended it?

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I have been having some problems with my boyfriend for 3 years, they are actually minor problems but they grew bigger as they were ignored. And we both decided to take a break from our relationship by mutual decision. Do you think this break is actually a practice for breaking up?

Gwendoline · Accepted Answer

A break in a relationship shows he relationship is doomed in the long term.

From what I've seen of couples who do it it is usually the woman who pushes for it. She wants to be free to see other guys and usually has another guy in mind that she wants to start seeing or is already with but want to keep her previous guy around just in case it doesn't work out so by calling it a break it mean she isn't cheating because she wasn't with the her previous man at the time she was with the other guys so he will maybe be willing to get back with her because if she was cheating on him with another man he would maybe not. And saying you are on a break the other guy won't think you are cheating with him on another guy because sure he will be willing to sleep with you but long term not willing to committ. Saying you are on a break also stops reputation damage because cheating damages a woman's reputation and makes it very difficult to find a good guy willing to ever committ seriously to her.

I've never heard of a guy say he is on a break usually it's the woman who pushes for it and of course all us girls know exactly what's going on when another girl tells us that she's on a "mutual break" from her boyfriends though we say nothing.

My advice is to walk away and start looking for a good guy who is going to be there long term you know marraige and kids because there is litteraly nothing better than being a wife and mother.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Taking a break in a relationship usually means the end of that relationship.

Most of the time, those breaks reveal a gap in compatibility and people decide to make that break a permanent one. It is always difficult to start anew, knowing that sooner or later, another break will be necessary and another and another because people never learn from their mistakes and keep making them over and over again.

It is best for both parties to end that relationship in a mutual agreement and leave on a friendly basis rather than to try to patch up something that is broken only to realize later that the glue is not holding and to separate on bad terms.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Is it an actual break, or just an excuse to fuck other people without having the "cheating" label applied?

That question of mine and the assumption of mine is usually what I'm thinking about "taking a break" because 2 people can easily quit fucking with each other and not "take a break." Even best friends run into conflicts, but managing a conflict without turning it into a big deal is what grown people do.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Accepted Answer

The problem with taking breaks in a relationship is that it gets you into the habit of running away from the other person whenever something goes wrong.

If you're in a relationship with someone, you two are supposed to be helping each other when stuff goes wrong.

So it kinda seems like you two are moving in the direction of breaking up.

knight · Answer

Taking a break can be a good way to gain perspective, but it depends on how both of you handle it. If you’re just using the break to avoid dealing with the issues, it might just be delaying the inevitable. Communication and effort are key to deciding if it’s worth continuing.

piano · Answer

Taking a break can be a healthy way to gain some space and perspective if both sides agree and communicate well. It's not necessarily a sign that it's over, but if issues are ignored and left unresolved, a break can sometimes lead to a breakup. It really depends on how both of you handle it.

sage2021 · Answer

Ha! My husband and I "took a break" but it was really vacation time for him and he met someone else and off he went into the sunset.
I know one thing for sure. I have been in relationships where we argued, like you two, and I have been in relationships where we didn't argue at all and we were married.
Guess which one is better? Yep! The one where there aren't any arguments and you have fun and play with each other and laugh a lot together.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It's fine as long as neither one of you is using it as a free pass.. Sometimes getting away from each other is good for your head plus it gives you time to miss them and think about the issues you been having with them in a clear space. But since you are on this track and if you want it to work out I would suggest getting into couples counselling or it will most likely be doomed.

Miristheiss · Answer

LoL.

Take a break? What misguided fool thinks that is a thing? There is no such thing. One may want a "break" to go have sex with someone else. What loser sits around for the other to decide if they want you or not?

If someone wants a break then just move on and date others. It is over.

comedy · Answer

But it can also be a sign that things aren’t working. It’s important to use the time apart to reflect on what you both want and whether you're willing to put in the effort to resolve the issues. It could go either way.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

personally, if a relationship needs a break, it's over. no exceptions. All this would tell me is there a fundamental base issue in the relationship.

Your partner should always be your oasis who you run to not from.

Anonymous · Answer

If you need a break you should probably just end it. Reach the point of lacking respect is reaching a point you'll always have rough feelings about. That's a big crack in the foundation of a relationship.

TheorionMage · Answer

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" (of someone else new!) They were seeking to 'test drive' ;)

Nikki1989 · Answer

“I need space” is your first clue the relationship is falling apart.

the29thhuman · Answer

You can’t make a decision on your own that involves two people coming to a conclusion.  If you find yourself deciding on your own, then that’s a clear sign

Anonymous · Answer

He will find he is happier with more peace in his life. You will find you're not as dateable as you were 3 years ago.

jahaims · Answer

If you have to take a break you shouldn't be together

LiamJHayden · Answer

I consider a "break" as an "I want to test drive other models" and proceed accordingly.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Taking a break always leads to just ending things. Just end it now.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

You want a pimp to make you a star and he wants a hooker to arouse him giving him endless orgasm

EtherealQueen01 · Answer

My boyfriend and I did it, it helped a lot actually and made us better understand what we really wanted and he needed to take it seriously, we’re much better for it and I’m thankful really.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably ended it. No self respecting guy is going to do that.

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

3 Yeats? LOL aren't u smart 🤣

strateguy632 · Answer

It ended it.

Was taking a break in a relationship really healthy or has it ended it?

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