I'm in the early process of getting a divorce... But it hurts and don't know how to process these emotions?

[Anonymous]

I've been married to my husband for a year and a month. We have agree that we will be moving forward with a divorce. As our relationship has emotionally and mentally drained our sanity.

The sad part is.. We have considered couple counseling. But with the two difference in religions (regarding having remorse for the trauma in our relationship) and trauma I've endured. We both realize that couple counseling probably won't help... At least it'll be difficult on me as I've tried to compromise for him a lot...

We have been crying ourselves in this realization all night. Just hugging each other and comforting one another when needed... It seem like we barely got any sleep... We still kissed each other good bye for work. Say we still love each other. That it's gonna be fine...

But the fact still remain. It hurts.. It really does... How does people handle with the reality that your love is ending?

[AviatorTom]

My then wife and I divorced after 20 years of marriage. We each took it as a positive step, to move on to other things. Each of us is married, for the second time, to someone else.

Please look to your positive future. Divorce is not a failure, it's a step to something else, something better.

[Sevenpointfive]

i don't know why people get married. i guess it's more a commitment to a child more than the partner because women need babies when men really don't. but sometimes the hormones of the female don't have anything to do with it. they fall in love. everything aligns and life happens. communication fails and all that's left is this repetitive song.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/EF0amwwGoVQ

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your opinion and the song. Somehow your remark about marriage is ironic... Not sure how to feel the later statement. But thank you for sharing your thoughts on it.. I'll remember your words too on life.

[Sevenpointfive]

i know you. don't quote me boy cuz i ain't said shit

[Vevv123]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s really tough, but time definitely heals. Allow yourself time and don’t be so hard on yourself. For me, I was in an abusive relationship, so all I had to is flashback to some of the things that happened to me to remember why he wasn’t a good person. Remember why you made the decision in the first place.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your insight on your experience and encouragement. I'll do my best to remember the reason for this decision... I'll try to be gentle to myself...

[missindiana93]

I would say go to marriage counseling but if that isn't gonna work then just move on after your officially file. Move to different cities or countries even. Helps with coping heartbreak and also not to run into them.

[Asker]

Thank you for the encouragement... But I know I wouldn't be able to do the second suggestion as my work is stationed to where I live... But I will travel when it is possible... It just happened yesterday so I will take it easy...

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach here to sprinkle a little hope, let me say you're not alone in this emotional rollercoaster. Ending something that was once filled with love is tough; it's like flipping a bittersweet page in life. Embrace support from friends and family, shine a light on self-care, and understand that healing takes its time. Explore journaling or meditation to ease the storm of emotions. Remember, love may end, but your journey is forever valuable. Keep shining amidst the heartache! 💔✨

[Mrtcn01]

look my friend.. no one is married to divorce, so divorcing is realy hard for everyone- no one can manage but everyone get used to it. sometimes it takes 6 month sometimes it takes 6 years but at the end of it you have to be though and move on.. feel your pain dont press it. cry be upset but do not cut the rope of real life.

[jahaims]

Love only ends if you let it. It's literally a choice. You should always make sure your morals and values line up prior to dating let alone marriage. You are both too immature for a healthy relationship if you guys couldn't figure it out.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your opinion. As stubborn as it sounds. Your words to me is a bit mixed in my case; but I understand I haven't said the full story. So I will take it in... A remainder of this love.