Why do men always seem to blame divorce rates on women in the US?

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Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Why not? Women blame everything on men. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
Unfortunately for women, the statistics support men’s perception. Half of all marriages end in divorce and women initiate divorce more than twice as often. Women would have us believe that’s because all men are trash. Yet this isn’t medieval Europe. Those women CHOSE the same men that they are divorcing. Which any rational adult knows accounts for at least 50% of the responsibility. Simultaneously, feminists are fighting tooth and nail to prohibit DNA testing mandates at childbirth. An entire gender morally committed to upholding deceptions that females exclusively perpetrate. And we’re supposed to believe they’re the nobler sex? 😂😂😂
There’s a bunch of liars in the comments perpetuating lies about abuse too. If you’re actually interested in the truth of the matter:
https://www.cdc.gov/intimate-partner-violence/about/index.html?CDC_AAref_Val=https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html

The most comprehensive amalgamation of research on IPV shows that the vast majority of cases involve mutual abuse. In the minority of cases involving wholly one-sided abuse, women are more likely the abusers. None of this is actually news either. Erin Pizzey wrote about this decades ago. When the first woman to open a shelter for abused women tried to open another one for men, feminists threatened to fire bomb the shelter with her in it, and they actually did k*ll her pets. The truth about how wicked women can be has been suppressed for generations.
So, yeah, sometimes a sh*tty dude compels divorce. But that woman chose that dude to begin with. And more often than not, a sh*tty woman compels a divorce too. So all the feminist rhetoric about women can do no wrong and men can do no right is propaganda. It’s 2025 and the statistics don’t support your bullsh*t. It’s time to take responsibility for your lousy behavior.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Statistically, women call time on their marriages more than men.

In the US specifically, where no-fault divorce is legal in all 50 States, some estimates put the figure at 70%, Higher in some States, Lower in others.

Heidi Kar, a psychologist and expert on domestic violence at the US-based Education Development Center, explains, it’s no coincidence that the rise of divorce has coincided with women’s liberation.

“Because economic independence is an imperative before a woman can attempt to leave a marriage, either alone or with children to support, it’s extremely difficult for women to leave a marriage unless they have some way to make money on their own,” she says. “Also, because gender roles become more complicated as women start to gain financial independence, more marital conflict naturally arises.”

Still, increased economic independence alone doesn’t explain why women have become so much more likely to initiate divorce than their husbands. Yet, the percentage of women initiating divorces has continued to rise – and the reasons are manifold.

For many women, the expectations they have when they enter marriage may fail to match up to reality. Experts say that they often have a higher expectation of how a partner will meet their emotional needs than men, which can lead to disappointment post-wedding.

Gilza Fort-Martinez, a Florida, US-based licensed couples’ therapist, who specialises in conflict resolution, says because men are usually socialised to have lower emotional intelligence than women, this can lead to female partners feeling unsupported and doing much of the emotional labour in the relationship.

Of course, filing for divorce isn't the same as ending a marriage. Research shows women in heterosexual marriages are more likely to initiate the break-up,

https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_gender_of_breakup.pdf

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

Because they want yo deny responsibility for their part of the divorce. Yes, women may initiate more, but that's because there are issues within the marriage that the husband is unable or unwilling to fix.

It's easier for men to deny their responsibility and put it solely on women because those types of men (and I'm not saying all men here) do it for everything under the sun. Divorce rates, birth rates, men's loneliness rates... you name it and it's always the woman's fault to those with incel mentalities.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Who else are they gonna blame, eh? CERTAINLY not themselves… so if it’s not the Sons of Adam at fault it’s gotta be the Daughters of Eve (baring their own mothers, of course… bc their mothers are also all angels… even the ones who torture their DIL till the couple breaks up).

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Most likely that is based on the fact that women initiate the majority of divorces in the US.

OneViewpoint · Answer

The divorce rates indicate women initiate 70-73% of all divorces in the US. A lot of men stop there (because it's self serving) and don't go any further to ask why 7 out of 10 women are filing for a divorce. They fill in the missing information with things like...

Women are unfaithful.
Women cheat.
Women lie.
Women are shallow.
Women blow money on frivolous things.

What these men don't want to face into is men's part in this...

Women get physically abused and threatened.
Women get abused mentally.
Women get subjected to controlling behavior like hovering over her. Not being allowed to have her own friends. And basically becoming a prisoner in her own home.
Women find out they married an alcoholic or a drug addict.
Women find out their "provider" just wants to sit on the couch and play Xbox and he's still in a low level job after 10 years.
Women find out her husband doesn't value her or her contributions.

Both men and women can be accused of not choosing wisely in the first place. But you really have to look beyond "Who" is filing to "Why" they are filing to understand the trend.

Anonymous · Answer

Because there's a lot of truth to that.

Women do tend to initiate divorce in relationships far more often than men.

Now, a lot of people will say, "Just because women INITIATE divorce, doesn't mean women are CAUSING divorce! If men were better spouses, women wouldn't NEED to initiate divorce!"

That's a fair objection, but we can actually test whether it's true or not. All we have to do is look at marriages between lesbians, and at marriages between gay males.

And when we look, what do we find? Lesbian marriages, with no men involved, have the HIGHEST rate of divorce. While marriages between gay men, with no women involved, have the LOWEST rate of divorce. Heterosexual marriages, with one man and one woman, are right in the middle.

So whatever is causing divorce, it seems to be mostly on the female side.

https://freedomforallamericans.org/lesbian-divorce-rate/

Caroline91 · Answer

Research indicates that 25-40 percent of women initiating divorce do so be cause of domestic abuse. Men are unlikely to initiate divorce when they are abusing their wives. In all fairness, I think this needs to be acknowledged. So if a man isn't abusing his wife, the statistics on divorce go way down.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Divorces typically only happen in abusive relationships. Men are slightly less likely to report abuse than women are, do to how men are expected to be tough, and do to how men are usually punished in a divorce by having their money or assets taken far more often than women are. As a result, women initiate divorce over abuse more often than men do, whereas men will more often just put up with it and start drinking or doing other self destructive behavior, or cheating out of resentment or escape.

There is a silent suffering with men, its not like with women where the whole community supports them when they suffer.

Cormac995 · Answer

because statistically 70% of all divorces are initiated by woman. that's 20% over 50/50. When you take that percentage and then factor in 1/3rd of all marriages ends in divorce and it's no wonder marriage is dead and men blame woman. I wouldn't marry even with a prenup, and I don't even have anything to lose. I do rings, I'll do a ceremony I'll be exclusive partners for life and cut off all other woman from potential mates but that pen ain't hittin paper.

RHK36 · Answer

Because the stats and research says that's how it is. Women grow up and take accountability. It's facts no feelings this is what the numbers say. Look at the divorce rate among lesbians is even higher. If you deny the numbers and the research then why ask, delulu goofy af women... especially if you in the comments thinking you aren't the problem.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Because, in a majority of cases, it’s women who initiate the divorce process. While this is true, they’re only doing this because they know their male partner is subpar at best and the men refuse to admit fault in this “problem” of women leaving them to find someone better.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Statistically speaking, nearly 75% of divorce are initiated by women and the divorce rate for lesbian couples is double that of gay men. So it seems that men are more likely to try to work things out in a marriage

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Because they think that women being the majority of the divorce filing rates means they're the problem... which makes no sense at all... think about it what are the top reasons for divorce? Infidelity, financial issues, and abuse. 2/3 statistically more likely to be committed by a man and the other one a joint issue.

Miristheiss · Answer

Math.

They divorce the vast majority of the time. Many times it is not for infidelity but "I am not happy", "I have fallen out of love".

So what. Emotions cannot be trusted and always change and their are low times. You have to tough those out and work on it.

No, I will just rip the family apart.

waguy · Answer

This discussion really makes me appreciate Hamlet:

"Go to, I'll no more on't; it hath
made me mad. I say, we will have no more marriages:
those that are married already, all but one, shall
live; the rest shall keep as they are. To a
nunnery, go."

dustybiker2 · Answer

I don't think anything that is all men or all woman. And blame is usually ignorance. The smart person keeps their own council because they know they aren't perfect either. Nobody is.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because most men hate to take the blame for anything. A large chunk of women who initiate divorce do so because of domestic abuse.

The-Stud · Answer

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beenherebefore · Answer

Because women tend to be the ones initiating the divorce way more than men. And is Not only in the US I believe it’s global.

hannamontana · Answer

Because it’s easier for some men to shift the blame than to look at the bigger picture.

Likes2drive · Answer

Maybe because women file for divorce 70% of the time? Since I’m experienced in the matter, women change and men usually don’t and women are not happy so they usually are the ones that file for divorce

msc545 · Answer

This is probsbly because women file about 90% of divorces. Is that a good enough reason for you?

demonics · Answer

No clue

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's very easy to blame women for everything.

Chocolatetwopointtwo · Answer

bc they can never take accountability. (are we really surprised?)

Anonymous · Answer

Because the fucking bitches are the ones who start the majority of divorces.

Herofin · Answer

Stats prove it's women's fault

LiaRaven · Answer

Who said that

Anonymous · Answer

It's mostly women that want the divorce.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Both are equally responsible i think

In_Trance · Answer

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