If a partner of a year breaks up with you out of the blue do they owe you an explanation of why?

[Anonymous]

Yes they do

No they don’t

[Noredcarpet]

As much as I can agree that it is the socalled right thing to do I would say it is actually a waste of time, at least as far as me and my exes were concerned because I had raised the issue before we were having because of how he chose to act, and they didn't change.

I left my relationships in an emotional way, I can't til this day remember the whole start to finish scenary of it, blank. I have short images, memories of what they looked like, said, but after that I don't remember. I remember the instant strong emotion I had, after that blank. One I realized I had no belongings with me, and my ex was sitting on that. I didn't even take a key with me. The point I am trying to make here is that even for the one who's leaving it can be very emotional distraughting and you are fed up to again to deal with deaf ears and explain like some professor why you left when it was minimized before and now you reached a point of no return. To me it was like a line in the sand. I think my exes were surprised in a way as I was this good girlfriend, fiance and they had it too good with me, actually. I did not have their tempers, I never complained about other stuff, it wasn't in my nature, not much got into my system to rattle me. I do not, with all do respect, believe you do not know the reason she/he left, there had to be signs before. I was even told through others an ex said I had ghosted him, which was untrue, there is a difference between a relationship being over, we had talked minimum as I arranged for the last practical stuff before I could be out of his life for good. He would try to talk to me as this was going on, but I chose to focus on the practical. I did not want to look or engage. Could be I came off as cold, but that was how I needed to be to have distance. There was too him thinking he had many rights when it was over. I was suppose to help him with closure, not "ghost' him, be his friend, etc. I had enough to deal with on my own and the quilttrips he and others tried to inflict on me did not work. I gave silence in return. I did not care what he and others thought. I knew my truth and I knew my value. I was not to waste my energy, my vulnerability, my triggers any more in hope I would not be judged by him or anyone else. To tell the truth all I wanted to say was f. u, and f. u too (the others). The signs were there, trust me, go back in memory lane of the relationship, that's where you'll find it.

[KBird]

No one owes anyone an explanation... but it would be appreciated.

[OneViewpoint]

Thy don’t “owe you an explanation. But they’d be an asshole if they didn’t explain their reasons. Unless of course you’re not being totally about this being “out of the blue” and they have very obvious reasons for ending it.

[AviatorTom]

Breakups are emotional, not logical. No one owes anyone an explanation other than "It's time to move on."

[Bitter_Sweet94]

They don’t “owe” you a novel, but yes, they owe you clarity.

When you share a year of your life with someone, vanishing without explanation isn’t kindness, it’s emotional laziness.

Closure isn’t about dragging the relationship back up, it’s about leaving things in a clean, honest place so both people can move forward without confusion or self blame.

A mature partner can say
“This isn’t working for me anymore, and here’s why.”

A coward avoids the conversation.

You deserve at least the truth, even if it’s brief.

[Phoenix98]

They don't owe me one but I'd like to think after being together, sharing our lives together I'd like to think that I at least deserve an explanation, some closure, why? Did I do something wrong? If so what?

[Nikki1989]

No, they don't have to give an explanation but it is just the right thing to do.

[Likes2drive]

Probably should but doesn’t mean they will

[In_Trance]

Nothing like this happens out of the blue.

[OneViewpoint]

It does for people who are clueless and/or living in denial.

[In_Trance]

That doesn't mean this isn't planned and well orchestrated