Should I break up with my boyfriend if I feel unappreciated?

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He never appreciates me. I feel so under appreciated and let down in this relationship.  Should I break up with him?

William7489 · Accepted Answer

You know, without knowing a little bit more it’s almost unfair to give you an opinion. I would say one thing and that is maybe try talking to mutual friends or a therapist? You never know your partner may feel the same way. This could be an easy fix. Or maybe it’s something you could be doing? I’m not saying you are I’m just saying it’s not really the best idea to bail on a relationship when you start to “feel” and appreciated. Because the sad part of things in life is that you’re always going to be unappreciated. And that includes in relationships at times. Like I said, I don’t know the whole story, and maybe you’re completely justified in bailing. I just don’t know more. Good luck.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

The respectful thing to do is to have a talk with him first and express your feelings of concern , if nothing changes for the better after your conversation with him , then dump him , but if it does change for the better , then the right thing to do is fix your relationship with him

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

Well, first thing. Have you talked to him about this? If this has been a recurrent conversation, and he still does not change, then leaving him may be your best bet.

But if you have not had any conversations about this, ending the relationship may be should not be your first plan of action. Express your concerns and allow him to have a chance to change his actions.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

If you are feeling underappreciated I would first have a conversation with him about it. If he continues to make you feel that way, then I would find a guy who does know how to appreciate you. You deserve to be appreciated! 👍🏼

Purpleronnie · Answer

Feelings are  not facts  , being in a relationship needs to incorporate communication of how you feel with your boyfriend and others too if appropriate and wanted. Also , you have given us no understanding or context of why you think you are under appreciated or what specifically hasn’t happens that you feel should have.  In my relationship I don’t do things for my lady to get approval or appreciation , I do them to support her and because I love her. Not everyone shows vocalises appreciation for some it may be reciprocal acts etc  Need more context !!

wkozak · Answer

It depends on what do you consider as appropriation, many men don't have a clear way to show it loudly but their work and their efforts to provide you with dates and gifts and essentials can be seen as a form of appreciation, it also depends on their love language, some people tend to show their love by gifts, some others show it by time they spend with you, others show it by helping and giving advices and putting a hand on the problems and solving it, some people love to talk a lot about their feelings and how they love you, some would like to show you by cuddles and kisses, maybe your love languages don't match, try to see again if he really doesn't try or he does but in a way you didn't notice.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I make effort to produce the changes. Probably quite a bit of arguing. Some guys really are stupid and need trained. Or maybe he just doesn't value you, himself or anyone else yet.

It's unfortunate and I hope you get the respect you deserve as a person and woman.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I think you should make it clear if you haven't already, once you know with 100% certainty that he 100% is aware of how you feel and he continues to make you feel this way then you make bigger decisions, if he already knows then you might be at that crossroad already

khyabaldwinn1 · Answer

I’m sorry you’re going through this you deserve to be feel appreciated.. if that’s not what you’re boyfriend is doing I would consider having a talk with him and tell him how you’re feeling if he is dismissive or doesn’t care about your feelings etc. then consider breaking up with him

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Follow your heart. You're not giving us a lot to go with here but talk to him if you haven't. Some people express themselves differently than you want them to. If it's a lost cause and you've done this then do what makes you happy.

NathanDavis · Answer

if you're asking yourself if you should break up, then yes... the answer is always yes... and you should break up

4ngelic · Answer

try talking to him about it before thinking about breaking up. in many cases just talking can fix a lot of things

lilBigPotato · Answer

Too little information to give real advice. Talk to him and discuss what bothers you and how to solve it. After that you can still break up.

Spencer10 · Answer

I think if this attitude goes on for a long period of time you have a reason... still you need to communicate first.

thegreenyogi · Answer

Of course you should. Especially if it doesn't make you feel good.

In_Trance · Answer

A little more contacts would help.

Have you talked with him about it?

What are your contributions in the relationship?

What are the things that you do consistently above and beyond the normal that should be appreciated?

BCRanger10 · Answer

Have you thought about why you feel that way and talked with him about it?

MrChinaski · Answer

You have not provided enough context for me to offer a view. But, yes, feeling appreciated is important.

Abbycado · Answer

If he never does, then yeah. I would not be with someone that didn’t appreciate me.

msc545 · Answer

It depends on what you mean by unappreciated. And why do you feel that way? Perhaps if you said a little more about that here, we could help you make a better decision.

Smile_empty_soul · Answer

have a conversation first. if he doesn't change than yeah, break up. No one should be unappreciated, No one should feel taken for granted.

jahaims · Answer

You aren't mature enough for a healthy relationship if you think bailing is what you do over communicating

whosnumber_1 · Answer

I think if your asking this question you already know the answer. Life's too short to settle for less.

Mike_Hum · Answer

yes, since you seemingly aren't happy and wasting your fertile years.

genericname85 · Answer

are you unappreciated? or do you just feel that way?

Grond21 · Answer

I am sorry you feel that way. There is too little info to answer your question

Anonymous · Answer

Please explain how he makes you feel under appreciated?

LC75LC71 · Answer

Why are you asking other people? If you want out, get out!

Anonymous · Answer

What do you feel he should do differently or more of? And do you think he feels as appreciated by you as he would like to?

Sammy098 · Answer

Talk to him about it. If nothing changes then end it.

molonski2 · Answer

If unsure , just leave do not provastinate.

OneViewpoint · Answer

If he doesn't make you happy, leave.

slatyb · Answer

Yes you should. You deserve better.

RHK36 · Answer

Yes, why wouldn't you

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I guess so yes. Get yourself a White boy 😉

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, move on girl

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes.

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes.

dudeinohio · Answer

sure

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yep.

oldman26 · Answer

Yes you should

Grilo · Answer

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