Should you ever go back to an ex, and how do you rebuild trust?

[Extragirlfriend]

Would you consider going back to an ex?
What would make you trust that person again?
A ex is a ex for a reason right?

[NathanDavis]

I have never really considered something like that

I didn't end up in bad terms with my exes or anything like that either... we just completed the cycled and moved on as we also grew up and changed as people too, well... with the girls from high-school and college, that's how it was

with the two more recent exes, and all of us being adults... things ended well too, and for the reasons being that we wanted different things from life and also at very different places (even in countries apart, lol) and so...

there's isn't really a thing to "go back to" and in reality... we just moved up to being friends, great friends (with the long time ones) or in good terms, but not as close friends really (with the recent ones)

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Looking around, it seems to be a common enough activity lol. And I don't think people are rebuilding trust or something, relationships look much less ordered than that.

In theory, I could do it, because I've seen a few relationships ending due to circumstances more than personalities. If trust was the issue, that seems extremely unlikely I'd would be that adventurous to try again

[SueShe]

No, you never ever go back to an ex. He/she is an ex for one or more very good reasons and going back simply means that you haven't learned your lessons and that whatever reason were for the breakup, those same reasons will lead yet to another breakup.

People should realize that one does not change overnight, not even in 10 or more years. What is part of your character and personality stays for you an entire life. Why go back to the old routine and make the same mistake again?

Sure, in the beginning, everything seems to work out but as soon as routine sets in, the old bad habits take over and you find yourself where you were before the first breakup.

[Extragirlfriend]

You are right !

[Abbycado]

My ex and I broke up amicably. Even so, I wouldn’t go back with him.

[Extragirlfriend]

You broke up for a reason right? I get that

[Abbycado]

Yeah, he was a year older and chose a school on the other side of the country. I had a year left. We knew

it wasn’t going to work. It also wouldn’t be fair for me to lie him down in a relationship when we wouldn’t see each other for 3/4 of the year.

[Abbycado]

Ty for mho!

[ShellyB]

Probably not but I guess it’s possible. It depends why we broke up and what changed. And as for rebuilding trust that also depends what happened. If he cheated I would have a lot of trouble ever rebuilding trust but I guess it is possible, I have seen people do it. JMO!

[lilBigPotato]

If we broke up it was for a good reason. No point in going back.

[Extragirlfriend]

Yes that’s so true !

[Spencer10]

Probably not... she is my ex for a reason right?

[Extragirlfriend]

Right !

[AngryCarl3]

Would you ever go back to a burning building to pick up your smelly unwashed laundry?

[Extragirlfriend]

Good point !

[Calyptomaniac]

Lack of trust is probably something that would stop me. That doesn't tend to come back but if the reasons for the breakup no longer exist then I'd think about it.

[MissSunshine2]

Well, for me, most of them dumped me, so I wouldn't want them to come back just because they'd obviously failed with everyone else. So, no.

[queenofcardio]

I never have. Once I'm done, I'm done. Some situations just aren't worth repairing.

[DryGermanGuy]

Usually, no. Unless that one, big reason that lead to the breakup has been remedied?

[AgentG111]

Going back once was one of the worst decisions I ever made

[dudeinohio]

I would never go back to an ex. The same issues that caused the breakup will still be there.

[ZameerAnsari91]

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[Anonymous]

Nope.