How do I make my ex regret leaving me for an older coworker?

[fiesty_rider]

I've had been with a guy for over 4 years and a live in for the last 6-8 months leading upto breakup and i found out he had a relationship with a woman 6 years elder to him ( his Assistant manager) and he left me for her. I told the woman the same, she was shocked but took the boy back anyhow. " How do I make him regret this real bad for leaving and what exactly would you as boys think of such a girl had you been in his position?"

[HollyK21]

Older, younger, what’s it matter? He still decided to choose someone else over you, and that’s what matters most. I’d genuinely suggest you put your time and focus into healing than trying to exact revenge. You’re just giving him more rent free time in your head, except now it’s going to be all day every day because you’ll be fully invested in trying to hurt him how he hurt you. That’s not going to change anything, it’s not going to make you feel better. The best thing you can do is glow up, and live a great life. Show him how perfectly fine you are without him. That’s relationship will fall apart on its own, cheaters can never prosper.

[loveslongnails]

You live your best life and don't contemplate shit like you're doing now. WHY do you care... because he hurt you and you want revenge? That's a stupid ass waste of time and effort, especially when you fail. Not IF you fail, but when, because you will. He doesn't think about you or miss you, he's moved on.

You need to do the same, because right now, girlfriend... he's winning. He's winning because you're still thinking about him, INSTEAD of being glad as a good shit that you found out sooner than later.

The best thing you can do is realize you dodged a bullet, and not make the same mistake again. All you're doing now is the old adage "crying over spilt milk". Your best shot at the worthless task you think will benefit you is to get to a place where, if he said hello to you on the street, you could look up and say "who are you" and mean it.

[fiesty_rider]

Thanks. That's a good one.

[DonaldDarko]

You can make him regret it bad but you'll go to prison. What I'd think of her depends on if she knew I was with another girl and persued me. I'd think she was a scum bag for that. She can express interest but she can't keep chasing a man who's with another woman.

[fiesty_rider]

More so, I got to know, that my
ex boyfriend always pretended to be single and let people know he's available for the last 4 years while we were together. Why do guys do that and what would you think of that?

[DonaldDarko]

That changes things I didn't know that. He's jusy a dumb thug his brain knows only jungle law. Guys like that will always be that way. He's probably commted some petty crimes too or he probably will.

[fiesty_rider]

Thanks. You're a relief to talk to. 😌

[DonaldDarko]

In the future it's best to avoid street trash like that. No point in even being angry if someone like that cheats on you any more than if a dog pissed on your car tire. He's basically an animal.

[HarveyLaw]

I have learned that in life, the best and sweetest revenge is happiness. When we overcome adversity, seek and find our own happiness, and get stronger and successful in our own lives, frankly, we don't even remember the stones that were thrown at us—except as a part of our history that made us stronger.

Flip the bird, move on, and use what you've learned to find a better partner who loves you for real.

[Alex-Snow]

The best thing to do is to leave it behind you and move on with life. One day he will realize his mistake. Just block him on socials and look for a guy who is more mature. How old is this guy? Was your relationship solid sexually before he started cheating?

[fiesty_rider]

Yes. it was solid but in the end I got to know he pretended to be single all along and never let people know he was taken ( not just girls but boys as well)

[Alex-Snow]

Ugggg well it is his loss.

[Anonymous]

First of all we need more context. Why did he leave? You’ve given a scenario where it makes it sound like you did nothing, you were perfect, you cooked, cleaned, took care of him. Rodrick after 4 years, left? There’s more to this story.

[fiesty_rider]

Yeah. I might've let Him stay w me when he lost his job and as we were in a live-in - I did LITERALLY cooked and cleaned and catered to his needs. More so, I became too available and didn't notice any signs or was dumb enough back then to ignore the red flags like him hiding his phone all along and still giving him the benefit of doubt. Cuz I applaud his audacity of sleeping beside me and lie to my face cheating on me

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the context. As far as the revenge. You move on. You live your best life, you upgrade your life not to push it in his face but to make your life better. I won’t lie, chances are it’ll bother him especially if you can move on w out letting this bother you. But keep in mind we improve our lives for ourselves, not as a way to get revenge on someone.

[DryGermanGuy]

You want to lose more dignity trying that? Keep your distance and move on. 🙄

[Abbycado]

You can't, because obviously he doesn't if he left. You just be an adult and move on.

[whosnumber_1]

Ooooor she could leave a flaming bag of dog poo on his porch and p put sugar in his gas tank. Then he'd have done regrets! Lol

[whosnumber_1]

Some..

[bowenw]

Don't waste anymore time on him. Move on with your life and find happiness.

[Just_Ken]

By living your best life.

[Kvass]

Move on baby move on.

[MasterKS]

Make a better boyfriend than him, easy!

[Anonymous]

How do you 3 look?

[In_Trance]

You don't.
Move on