Miss my ex girlfriend and want her back but she has a new boyfriend.

[split]

I dated the only woman I loved for almost 4 years. We had a great relationship but towards the end it got rocky. She says she still loves me and misses me but has a new boyfriend. She started seeing him really soon. It has been 3 months since we broke up. Wondering if I should fight for her or let her figure things out? one of 2 things will happen she will realize we had true love or fall in love with this new guy. We have had limit contact. What do I do?

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+1 y

So I found out the guy she is seeing is not her boyfriend. Just someone she has been hanging out with. Am not gonna give up until I know 100% that it is over.

[Anonymous]

The best you can do if your ex is seeing someone new is quit the field. I know it's hard, but you really need to let go, at least for now. I don't think there's much point in fighting for her. She is your ex, and she is in a relationship; getting involved wouldn't be right.

Now, this doesn't mean that you'll never get her back. But I think that regardless of her relationship status, both of you need more than three months to process the break-up and think about things.

My ex is seeing someone new. In the beginning, it bothered me a lot, even though I'm not sure if I want him back. But then I figured that most relationships fail anyway, and I also figured that right now, I don't want him back because I want to work on myself and my life. So I let him do his thing.

If you are the right guy for her, then things will work in your favour anyway. But I suspect that by pressuring her and getting involved you'll only alienate her and push her further away. Stay in contact with her, but not too often, keep it casual.

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[helpthepeople]

You definitely should move on. How in the world can someone jump into a new relationship only 3 months after a breakup? I doubt she was really in love.

[prophecy]

you forget about her and move on and find someone else. that's what you should do.

golden rule #293082345

you get one chance per woman per lifetime.

do you really think there were problems maybe last few months before the break up? she was over you half a year before that. this is how things usually go. that's why she's able to date again so "soon."

you're history in her mind. those "i still love you"-s are nonsense. there's no love. you don't leave someone you love. use your logic.

move on buddy. stop wasting your time. start your recovery with banging a few hot chicks and forget her.

[thedudejones47]

I'm in the same boat, desperately in love with the only woman I loved, now an ex of 4 months, she's also seeing some new older guy, started dating him the day after we split. I too considered fighting for her, both literally and figuratively, but realistically, she wants to be left alone to her new relationship. I too am afraid she'll fall for this new guy. All I can do is make myself the best I can be so she'll want to get back together. Keep your contact limited but remain close enough to show her what she's missing.

[split]

Ya the contact between us has been limited and it has only been by her. Its defiantly the hardest thing I have had to do. Read some things online and they say to just let her be and accept the relationship she is in which is hard. Never thought we would be going through this. We will see. good luck to you.

[Racez]

Just let her go. She's already in a relationship.

If you try to fight for her, you'll just lose her both as a friend and a potential girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

If you want her back, you need to fight.

Women need to be wanted. If she doesn't think you want her, she's not leaving him for you.

[Anonymous]

You need to let go and move on. She's a history now and also in a relationship with a new guy. You need to get over her and let the time heal.

[rastagrandpa]

On one hand, girls love to be fought for. It makes us feel wanted/loved.

But on the other hand, if you truly love her you should give her space to figure stuff out. And you should really try to get over her in the process.

[winherback]

Fight for her. Don't regret what could have been.

[temptationfalls]

Suck it up, and move on.