Basically, me and my ex were together for 3 years 8months before she broke up with me. We were experiencing a Long Distance Relationship for 9months and she came back for a month before she broke up with me. Her reasons being she cannot tolerate me at times and she lost the vision of the future with me and the only vision of the future she saw with me was her being very upset. But she said she wishes to be friends with me. Why does she still wants to be friends with me? She had been initiating a few conversations with me, once or twice per week, and I know that she still cares for me. But the breakup seem to have no effect on her at all.. I mean, she said she is still functioning and happy and she never miss me at all and thus do not regret the breakup. Is it possible? We broke up for about a month by the way. She seem to be very unaffected by it. Why is it so? Thank you girls and guys for your much needed advice...
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When someone breaks things off they usually have thought about it. So the impression of her being fine could be her feeling free. Once that "I'm free" feeling goes away, she could be lonely, or misses your attention. It's hard just to walk away and not miss someone from a relationship that lasted years(she wouldn't be human if she didn't) so she could be fine however, deep down she still misses you. Maybe not enough to get back together but knowing she can still get or feel some love from you is what could help her move on. Some people just like being liked.
From my experience after about four to six weeks the freedom doesn't feel as good and you start to wonder if you made a mistake. It's human nature to want something you can't have so now that you are not there, she could have expected you to beg her. Please don't. She could just need your attention to make herself feel better and build her confidence so she can find new guys. The possibilities are endless when it comes to an ex. But you know her better than anyone here.
Try not to focus on her and what her intentions are. If you feel that this will slow down your moving on process, leave it alone and don't respond. It's okay to be friendly but just remember that she wanted this, so what you do now is no concern of hers. Work on you and friendship with her will come with time if her intentions are genuine.0