Why does my ex girlfriend text me everyday?

[Anonymous]

we had dated for 3 months and she broke up with me because i was mean to her and hurt to her.( i never cheated on her) After 3 days, i sent a message on Facebook. she told to me that she's so hard to trust me from everything happened so she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. But it can change in the future. And also, she said : she was glad to talk with me. after a few day, she wanted to Skype with me so we did and she told me she missed me a lot, she always has missed me. she always starts to talking to me first. she asked me that can we hang out when she has no work. i already said : i'm giving your space and i'm waiting your answer. Is she trying to be friends with me or trying to get me back slowly? because she has a friend who was her ex. I'm so confused now.. i always try to stop texting to her ( like, Focus on homework or work! bye~). but she always says we can still talk !! why does she want to talk to me? does it mean she doesn't want to lose me or she wants to be friend?

[sweatgirl]

I personally would have no contact with her. if she told you that she can't trust you that is not a good way to start a relationship. if she told you this because of something you did during the course of the relationship that would be one thing. Three months of being with someone is not long enough where you should feel the need to have to ask a question like this. once trust is broken it is hard to fix.

[Asker]

I really want to get her back.. No contact will help me to get her back?

[dodgypirate]

No contact will help, it will make her miss you.

[hlab3]

I honestly don't understand why you even want her back. She fucking with your head, and going around the bush. If she can't simply tell you what the hell she wants, then quit wasting your damn time trying to talk to her. And since her friend is her ex, then that's just another reason to kick her to the curb. That plain and simple.

[Asker]

Yeah i understand, but i exactly know why she broke up with me and she cried for 2 times..she just got tired of me so i just wait the answer, her answer might help me move on and forget about her..

[hlab3]

Exactly the reason why you shouldn't: you made her cry, hurt her, etc. Why would she want to go back to the same guy that hurt her and made her cry? It's a red flag. Don't wait for her answer. Just move on with yourself. Quit with the pity talk, and do your own thing. She's just messing with you.

[Asker]

Yeah...i know i'm stupid..I can't wait when she text me..

[hlab3]

*Shrugs off* Your call.

[Luna-o3o]

Date her again if you want, but I promise you it won't work. She doesn't know what she wants. She wants to back with you for what ever reason, but doesn't trust you. Nonetheless, her actions don't make sense.

[Asker]

So..you mean it's already over?

[dodgypirate]

Don't listen to this OP, it can work out so long as you erase the hurtful stuff from your past relationship.

Go into a new fresh one, don't bring up anything from the last one, unless it's unavoidable - a clean slate.

It might not work out, but if you put the effort - if you both put it - it will.

[Asker]

I really want to get her back..I can't move on and can't be her friend...she told me that she really feels bad for your waiting..so i respond that i'm okay, i'm enjoying my space and i'm not waiting only the answer..after that, she told me that if she has free time (she's 20 and has a lot of homework and work), can we see each other? i really don't know how she's feelings now..

[Luna-o3o]

Just go out with her again. There's no one, really, to stop you, and you don't seem to change how you feel. You're just going to have to see for yourself then.

[Luna-o3o]

Remember, you might put everything behind, do the best you can, but she might not. If you're really going back with her. Make sure you are both on the same page, really make effort to start new, to make it work.
Also, she'll need to trust you again and you stop being mean to her.

[Asker]

Thank you for advice..:) Yeah, i will try my best. And if she wants to be together, i will never be mean to her.

[Hannah591]

"But it can change in the future"
Sounds like she wants you back but she's messing you around a bit. Probably a revenge thing for being mean to her. Even if you got together, it wouldn't work out.

[Asker]

so she's playing my heart? she just wants to see me as a friend?

[Hannah591]

I think she wants more but she's playing you about right now. We have no time for people who play us about.

[Asker]

What is the best way to get her back? NC?

[Hannah591]

I don't know why you would, but it seems like everything is on her terms, as in if she doesn't want to date, she won't. But if she wants to mess you about, she will. I don't know, tell her you won't speak to her unless she's interested in dating again.
There's no point going back to her though. She sounds manipulative and there'd be no trust.

[Asker]

Does she just want to make her feel better?

[Hannah591]

Yes. You might even find that you do all this and she says she never wants to get with you ever again and mean it. She likes playing games with people = not a great girlfriend.

[Asker]

I'm so stupid..she never had sex with anyone. and i'm pretty sure she really liked me more than i used to. i can't believe that she's playing my heart...I just feel really sad...

[Asker]

And when i tried to stop talking each other, she always asks do i bother you? does it bother you that i text you everyday? like this stuff..and when we broke up, she said : if i didn't care about you, i would keep talking to you. she also said : I was scared you were done with me..

[princess9089]

because she misses you very much!
If you want nothing to do with her tell her upfront that she won't go threw heartbreak again lol

[Asker]

I really want to do anything with her if we can be together and she likes me again..

[Asker]

And i don't know why she wants to hang out with me, she lives almost 2 hours away from me by a car..