He got mad when I asked him if he is cheating on me!!!!

[Anonymous]

I suspect that my boyfriend is cheating. I heard rumors, he acted strange on the phone lately, has a password on his phone and he never has time for me. I asked him and he got REALLY REALLY MAD. I don't know how to deal with his reaction. I'm not good in human psychology, but what does this mean?

[faberfan]

There's really not enough info to suggest whether he is or isn't. I'll go in further detail since I'm bored.

You suspect he is cheating, and that in itself is a dangerous point to reach, because now you will doubt him whenever he is not with you. I think at this point, it's safe to say this relationship you two have will not remain the same, and it's probably best to end it.

You see, rumors are funny. Sometimes the rumors are true, but usually they aren't. I go with my heart and head when it comes to rumors, and most of the time I disregard them. Of course, I have been hurt by this method. So when it comes to rumors, you can't always believe them unless evidence of some sort is given/proven.

His behavior on the phone could be a reflection on multiple things: such as stress, guilt, busy, etc. However, it's still a bit shady, especially if this behavior is constant.

A phone password. That's...odd. He obviously has something private on there. It's definitely a flag, maybe a yellow one.

Never having time for you...well maybe he's just not that into you? I mean he'd make time for you if he was, right? So he could be seeing someone else and neglecting you. It's possible, hell it happens all the time.

Getting mad isn't representative of anything. He could be angry because he was caught and accused, or he could be angry because he hasn't cheated. He could be a very crafty manipulator, and he could be trying to swing some guilt onto you despite his cheating.

So, I really can't say either way. But my gut usually is right, and yours probably is too. So if your gut tells you this guy is cheating, then you might be wise to listen. Or you could apologize and explain why you felt like he was. Worse comes to worse, you could follow him or spy on him(I don't advise it but you might get peace this way).

[DuggieFresh]

If he looks up and to the right when you are questioning and also if his pupils dilate, then he probably isn't telling the truth.

[Deeplove55]

He is definantly cheating on you and the fact that he got mad you questioned him about it, totally confirmed it. Hon, if you feel in your heart that he is cheating on you, that is your intuition, your instinct and it never lies. He is doing everything a cheating person would do. They change and spend less and less time with you and funny against you making you feel like they are not into you anymore. Don't ignore these signs because you love him and want to believe him. No. Its you talk and tell him he is not paying you much attention anymore and that you want time with him if you haven't told him. Now, if he does not change, then he does not want to and wont. he is seeing someone else for sure and you should not have to stay with him if he is not giving you what you need. Be serious with himabout this. that he needs to change his actions now or your gone, to either admit it or not that he's cheating. So girl listen your heart. what does it tell you?

[pearl1979]

If a guy gets mad when you question whether he is cheating he definently is. If he wasn't he would sit down with you calmly and talk with why you in would think that and clear those doubts with you.

[prickly]

Actually, good cheaters can be dead calm, they can look you in the eye and reassure you that you are # 1, they are not with anyone else, and they love you forever. However, a genuine bloke will, as you say, neither confirm or deny but ask you, speak to you and sort out your stuff as well as his. If he does that, he is OK.

[victoriajm]

He's either cheating or isn't and doesn't like the fact that you don't trust him.

[StrykerJ]

Acting like that...sounds like a cheater -_-

[obligations]

it means he's cheating. duh.