So, not really a guide for surviving but hopefully for thriving. It's a landscape that in many ways mirror conventional dating and so hopefully it holds some value in both settings.
What Makes You Hot: NOT BEING BORING
I have found this to be phenomenally important when it comes to hooking up, but also when meeting someone new and getting something started. Yes, this can be taken into overdrive and you can be seen as manic or gay, but simply having funny, witty things to say constantly and having a larger than life personality (even talking passionately about uncharted 4 can work if done right) goes a MUCH longer way than some other guys superior jaw line (assuming you both matched.) While things are changing it still seems to be this general trade--she will work to look very good but you need to give her in return a really fun personality to be around.
What Gives You Confidence: NOT CHANGING FOR ANY GIRL
It's tempting on Tinder especially to try to play the chameleon. If she responds well to your jokes you keep making them if she seems to hate nice guys you give her a little crap if she seems to hate your bluntness you say sweet things. This does not work overall because you have no core truth that she can sense off of you. When a girl can tell a guy believes in something that is where confidence shines out of. Of course, this means you can't get every girl you match up with but it's important to "pick a side" as it were and stick with it. There will always be other girls who like it.
How You Stay Drama Free: SCREEN SCREEN SCREEN
A big part of working with people towards the common good (sex) is knowing what the right questions are to ask. You want to know how often she uses tinder, how many guys she's met, and how long it took to meet them. The reason you want to do this is a) so you don't waste your time and b) so you can reduce the potentiality of triggering the creep factor.
See, you can be a good looking seemingly normal guy but if you press too hard for a number or even ask for a number before she is ready it will take her out of the moment and make her remember hey, tinder is not such a safe playground as it looks. To you you're like wait but I'm normal I'M NORMAL! but again in order to work with someone you have to see it from their point of view as well as your own.
How To Keep From Getting Down: HAVE GOALS
It can be tough on tinder probably more so in the sense that you'll encounter senseless rejection though you'll experience much less vulnerability so that'll help. The thing that gets you to actually meeting great girls though is a clear, definable goal that you WANT. Say you're looking for a girlfriend on tinder, the failures will be stepping stones instead of reasons to quit. Say you're looking to get so good at flirting that you get good hookups constantly, say you're just looking to improve your flirting in a safe space, say you're just looking for a friend of the opposite gender...everything gets put in a context.
Everything is "worth it." Every success feels like you earned it and every failure is a learning opportunity. When you float with no goal and just do tinder because people talk about it and hey you like girls then of course when you fail it will feel like you're pathetic and useless. OR you'll use it casually and not care about it and suck at it--a preferable option to getting depressed over it but still not unlocking the potential. Figure out what you want and if it's important to you to get it and if not then just let it go.