Your chances of having a second date can be dependent on the success of the first one. How do you possibly increase the chances of making a second date happen anytime soon? You can do that by making your first date count.
How do most dates flop? Most dates flop simply because of incompatibility.
What may have caused that incompatibility? Communication.
Especially when you're talking about the wrong topics.
Basically speaking, topics that can spark negativity and antagonism are topics you need to avoid.
In addition, there are overly subjective topics coated with stereotypical implications pertaining to its worth and status that should not be brought to your dinner table or to your comfy couch with your partner.
Here are ten of them that will break your chances of having a second one:
1. Former Romantic Relationships
No. Just no. This is definitely a no-brainer.
Refrain from disclosing matters about your former love interests with your current one; it might bring out the vibe that you're comparing him/her to your former lover(s).
2. Plans for the Future
Hold your horses, folks. Refrain from using "we will..."
From the name alone, future plans are indeed intimidating topics to discuss on the first date— marriage, children, having joint bank accounts. Calm down, for goodness' sake and keep those ideals to yourself for a little while.
You are supposed to enjoy the moment first and condition the moment in the present time, so make that first date count. That is an important aspect you need to consider for it to be worth remembering in the future.
3. "Serious" Politics
I've heard about one couple who talked about "fun" politics— making fun of every politician's physical appearance, their accent, and such. They had a good time until... they started talking about "serious" politics— political parties, corruption, fund allocation, scarcity of jobs, crippling economies, etc.
A first date is one of the least feasible occasions for couples to talk about their political stances.
If you do not want to turn your date into a heated debate, steer clear from this controversial topic. A difference in political affiliation might cause conflict because of dissimilar beliefs and ideals. Conflicts are never welcome in a first date!
4. Deal Breakers
Your first date should not discuss a lengthy conversation about your "terms and conditions".
This will be really awkward because I believe deal breakers are better learned through exposure. When there is an experience that'll give the chance to let that deal breaker be shown, it will be learned and adapted naturally. You have to get used to his/her company first to really know what his/her deal breakers are.
5. Troublesome Family and/or Friends
"I have this friend who used to..."
"Gosh, my brothers tend to be really annoying sometimes."
It's too soon to discuss about misunderstandings in your family and friends.
People who even know you for a short amount of time wouldn't even understand the reason why you despise your relatives, why you find your mother irritating, or why you refuse to go to a party thrown by your ex-best friend.
Instead of being fascinated, talking about the bad side of your family on a first date seems uninviting because your partner would be learning about them and not you.
6. Bragging about Money
Since I am a/an [occupation], I'm known to make much more money than my colleagues!
See this? I bought this watch for $100.
This will give your partner a vibe that you're eager to shoulder the expenses on your first date.
If you want your date to be a job interview simulator, go ahead; talk about cash.
This is an ego booster, hence making it a rather sensitive topic since majority of the population could be considered as financially impoverished. Talking about money will come off as a conceited thing to do since you're depending your worth to something tangible. That's something negative, to me.
You cannot genuinely captivate someone's love, trust, and adoration with money alone. Don't even think about bragging as it would result to a non-existent second date.
7. Bragging about Grades
This goes for students who are more likely to have this as a topic on their first dates.
Same with money, this is an ego booster.
Talking about grades is more likely to give your date a vibe that you're taking pride in a personal achievement that has nothing to do with him/her.
The success of your first date will be heavily reliant on the conversations you will be having. Don't be nervous about that or you'll mess up even more in the actual occasion. As long as you go on the flow and stimulate interest, that first date will be a success and you'll better off having another one!
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