I may be preaching to the choir, but it occurs to me that a lot of men seem to think that being a great boyfriend is better than being a great "player" for lack of a better term. Why is this? Who told you this was the truth and what was their argument for it? I say NO!!! Gentlemen, answer just one question--
Which is harder?
Funny enough, a man benefits far more from a relationship than does a woman in many respects. Sure, he's expected to buy her gifts and take her out every once and a while, but this proves far less expensive than taking girls out all the time especially if she doesn't want to scare her new boyfriend a way by coming off a gold digger.
And off that, the central reason a relationship is better for a man than a woman is because women value relationships more. So doesn't that mean she gets more out of it? No. Because it's a goal, a status symbol, she knows more about relationships than she knows why she wants them.
In a relationship, women are the envy of other women. They want her man. They're jealous that a man loves her and only her and yet they are alone. What does that mean? Is she more of a coveted woman? Does she deserve love more? I she more loveable?
With those things accomplished, look at what she's willing to do and put up with to build and maintain it:
-She gives the man constant sex so he won't stray.
-She builds him up gets him dressing nicely and well groomed so that he can be even more the stuff of envy and she can rock the perfect boyfriend (though this can backfire once more and more women show him attention than ever before)
-She essentially gives him a lifeline in case he ever decides to seriously screw up by introducing him to her family thus showing that there's hope she won't die alone. Once he does screw up she won't want to admit defeat after he's already so deeply entrenched
-She can't go through his phone his social media or surprise him for fear of looking crazy making it easy to cheat on her
-i'm sure you could add some more
So then, we can say that it's easier for a man to be in a relationship than to be a player. Let's look at what a player has to endure by contrast
-He gets virtually no validation from women. Instead, he typically only knows women long enough for them to give him shit tests and, if he passes, sex.
-more insults can arise in the form of last minute doubts (i usually date guy bigger than you, taller than you, hotter than you. I've heard this happening to hot guys with 9 inch dicks...the shaming is their fun and I believe another shit test to see if you can take it as well as a way of calming her nerves surrounding her own insecurities at the moment) I suppose she feels she's giving you a stranger quick sex she doesn't have to give you respect on top of it
-He constantly has to navigate around her own allergy to being slutty (especially strong among minority women it seems who tend to carry more insecurities in general)
-He wastes a lot of time talking to girls who are just not down for sex but are good at making it seem like they might be
-He constantly hits on girls with boyfriends and sometimes the boyfriend is just in the bathroom leading to some very awkward moments
-He gets texts from girls during dates and has to figure out a way to respond in a somewhat timely fashion especially if she's that really hot girl he's been working on for weeks
-no matter how good he is he's reduced to a numbers game. some women feel his shit and others don't skill is largely irrelevant after a point
-he has no one to tend to his occasional lonliness and need for spooning. Well, he does, but he doesn't want to with his hoes
-he constantly looks like a dick to his friends because he's always ignoring calls from girls who haven't yet gotten the message
-he puts his dick in five girls in a week and yet that one who treats him like he's not good enough for her frustrates TF out of him
-no one respects the marathon sprint of dating he does all the time and he has to endure how great a boyfriend David is while David sits on his ass does whatever his girlfriend says including when they have sex.
So, gentlemen, if you choose the path of the player take pride. Most men could never walk in your shoes.
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