You Think Men Are Players? Think Again

[Anonymous]

I give some people advice and insight on there relationship issues and dating here on GirlsAskGuys. What a lot of the girls tell me is "Does he seem like a player?" or "I don't want to get played" i see this a lot, and it seems to be a worry a lot of girls have before dating someone or taking things to the next level. But is this worry justifiable? I think it is.

When woman are worried about getting played its usually for 3 reasons.

1. They have been played before, and feel as though all men have the same intentions of manipulating feelings in order to get what they want.

2. They know the guy is a player, but they like him anyway. Players keep girls interested and worried, they are able to make the girl think about them 24/7. These girls understand they are getting played but play along.The reason why they hate this and worry about it is because, they want to win. Which leads me to reason number:

3. Women are Players and they are better players than men; so when they know they are getting played they dont want to lose. They aren't used to it and lets be honest, why play a game if you know you will lose?

Girls are very emotionally invested and understand men's desires. They understand the value their body has and how they can use it to manipulate men for their sexual needs. But they can also use this to manipulate men emotionally and financially. That's fine, they are taking advantage of the situation. Women PLAY men because they understand most men will go out of their way for some sex.

Girls also have the upperhand with options. Most girls have a phone with numbers, full of men who will give them what they need. As a man, when you are in a relationship with a girl, There are 3 needs, that need to be met. Emotional needs, sexual needs, and financial needs. Different girls will prioritize these differently.

If a man keeps failing to provide his woman with one of these needs she will look elsewhere for it, and she won't have to look far. I often hear about men who provide for their wife, treat her right but are too busy too give her good sex. One need is unfufilled for long enough, and she will cheat on his ass. Same thing goes for the man who treats his girl right and gives her great sex, but lacks that financial status and security. Plenty of girls have left a man, because he was broke. They will go for a man who is older and more financially stable.

A girl will play several men in order to fufill these needs. Thats right, you ever been friendzoned and dealing with a girl and her abusive boyfriend and think, "Why is she with this guy?" she is with him because he is fufilling her sexual need, buying her shit, taking her out. But she is still with him, because she can go to her friendzoned man, and get her emotional needs fulfilled. If you want to stop getting played in the friendzone, dont be that girls friend. Simple and plain, maybe when she finally leaves his ass, she will go to yours.

Girls will play on your insecurities. Women are good at reading signs, they know what you are insecure about. So if you piss her off in anway she will try subtle ways to make you feel like shit by playing on these insecurities. Are you insecure because your money ain't right? well guess what she will be extra flirty with her boss, or other men who exuberate wealth, and she will do it in front of you to get a reaction. You are insecure about your height? She will be touchy feely with tall guy at the barbacue to get an emotional response from you. She has a degree and you don't? She will belittle your intelligence, in order to get a response from you. Don't let her play on your insecurities. You know how you win this game? You walk away from it. She is flirting with the dude who has a mercedes, tell her to find a way home. She is touchy feely with the tall guy? She better find her own way back home. She just made you feel inadequate due to her degrees? leave her ass sitting there.

All these girls are worrying about being played, because they themselves are players. It makes sense that they would be afraid of getting used, for something. What I ask ladies to do is look at themselves and ask, "Am I player" because I guarantee you most women have a phone full on contacts, and got a man ready to take them out, a man ready to make good love to them, a man ready to cuddle them and make them feel special. Guess what girls, that's called playing. And Players, play. It's fine to be a player, its ok to use others to fufill your needs, but dont get pissed because you got played, read the signs.

We are all players, people have different play styles, some are more genuine than others, and some play the game for selfish reasons. It's up to us men to understand that girls can be players too. So be on your toes! It's not the players fault, they just understand the game. It's your fault for allowing yourself to get played.

[Ozanne]

There are a lot of men and women who are just asking for one simple thing in relationships: Please don't fuck me over.

People a lot of times nowadays are even accepting of mediocre treatment and lacking in some things a relationship is supposed to be in order to be fun and fulfilling. But when you scrape the bottom of the barrel and just ask the person, "Look, I can tolerate this and that, but could you at least not fuck me over?" it sounds like many people are just accepting that people these days are shitty and just take what you can get as long as you're not screwed.

There was a time men and women used to have a laundry lists of wants in a partner. Now, people are so busy being full of bitterness and defense even before meeting someone - as if that's a real attractive quality - and then complain when they get nowhere with someone.

Let's face it, relationships are an investment and before you assume money - wrong. You invest your time, you invest in emotions, you invest the person in to your family as a potential partner, things money can't buy - and certainly things you can't ask for back when it's over. Relationships are a risk, period.

When people are all worried about being "played" whether it's a man or woman, that's just natural, but it's also debilitating if you focus on being alone and continue to be bitter of the things that "might" happen.

I really don't care if people want to remain single because of their fears or hatred of what might go wrong. That's their choice. When it's inflicting the enjoyment and happiness of others to spill their personal "revelations" on to others, then it's intrusive and unpleasant.

I understand your Take, if you're going to be a player, don't be surprised if people have their guard up with you too and play you right back. Both men and women need to stop being hosebags to each other and figure it out, only to wonder why and become bitter against those of us who really did figure it out and found happiness being with someone without all these expectations.

And for the record, my husband is fucking miserable with money. He was in debt and I helped him get out of it. So I am an exception I guess, where 2/3 "needs" were met. LOL I didn't even care. Part of spending my life in love with him was accepting there were going to be things to get through together. :)

[myTake Owner]

Haha thanks! :)
I wrote this for players...

And regarding the needs thing, yeah if someone is taking care of you, emotionally and with good sex lol!
You might not care about the financial situation

I am happy to hear that you helped your man get out of his financial slump! thats what a good partner should do
good partners should help each other out

[Humping_Tornadoes]

You should have proofread before publishing a myTake, that's why I don't do these because I know I will fuck up my grammar, as minimal as the errors might be.

With that out of the way, I thoroughly enjoyed your take and I agree with almost everything in your development. However, I'm still unsure of your conclusion.

I liked that yes, most people play with others and instead of bitch and whine all over the internet you should just walk from those situations. But I don't think we are all players. And we shouldn't succumb to those silly games.

Flirting is a dance, we all play that, true. But I really believe that when you are with someone who you are 100% comfortable with you stop the pretending and just interact naturally with the other person.

Working on a relationship means stop looking for imperfections and stop looking at what the others are doing, just focus on perfecting what you already have. If someone doesn't do this and keeps up with the act then that person won't be any good for you.

[myTake Owner]

Haha thanks man... yeah should have proof read

Yeah some people aren't Players or dont want to play
I think when you find that special someone, and there is a level of trust you dont have to be guarded because you know their intentions will benefit your relationship

[LightsOff]

Why do guys keep thinking that girls literally have guys falling at their feet left and right, phones blowing up with phone numbers and texts from guys, guys asking them out on dates 24/7...

I've been asked out once. Most of my friends have also only been asked out once or twice in their entire lives. Or 0 times. I have 61 contacts in my phone, the majority of those are female friends and relatives. Only a handful are guys. And a number of those guys are guys that I'm not even in contact with anymore. They probably don't even have my number saved in their phone either. As far as options go, I'm pretty sure that I'm on the same level as the majority of guys. So are my friends. Only recently have a few of my friends gotten into serious relationships, but the majority of us still have no luck.

Honestly I don't know a single normal guy that would jump through some crazy hoops just to get laid. Guys know just as well when a girl is trying to seduce him with her body just because of his money or whatever. Only desperate guys are willing to waste a shit ton of money or do a shit ton of favors for a girl just to get laid once. And I'm not talking about paying on a date once or twice or agreeing to help her out with some trivial task, I'm talking about being her personal butler and credit card, constantly running errands for her and constantly wasting money on crazy expensive gifts.

I'd also like to add that while women generally seem to be more empathetic and in touch with their/other people's emotions, it doesn't automatically make them insecurity-bloodhounds or mind readers. We don't always know your deepest, darkest fears just by looking at you... nor do we actually give enough of a shit to make you feel bad about them. Only bitches with too much time in their hands do something like that. A minority.

"One need is unfufilled for long enough, and she will cheat on his ass."
Again, you're talking about a small minority but you're trying to make it seem like this is something all/most women do, or even WANT to do. If a woman feels dissatisfied in a relationship, she will either talk about it and try to fix it or she will end it and walk away. Only a handful actually view cheating as an option.

"A girl will play several men in order to fufill these needs."
AGAIN with the generalizations. NO. Stop it. This whole take is basically about a very small minority of women, stop acting like this is normal or true when in fact not even MOST women behave like this.

[myTake Owner]

i wrote this about lady players

[DaveyYourFavey]

Get over yourself. It's clearly about a specific group of women. It's not always about you.

[LightsOff]

@DaveyFavey get over YOURSELF, asker already clarified that 3 days ago so wtf are you doing here. Shoo.

[LightsOff]

@DaveyYourFavey *

[DaveyYourFavey]

Backing him up, defending him obviously (take your pick) :)
I'll admit I didn't see how long ago he replied.
Haha "Shoo" :D

[PassiveAggressive]

This was oddly accurate and well informed. Never even fully realized what me/most girls do until you spelled it out. The money thing I feel like I can live without but you're right, I couldn't deal with my boyfriend if he was poor and not motivated to 'move up the ladder', but guys feel the same way about girls. Who wants a dependent girl with no goals? Maybe more traditional guys who just wants an attractive girl but wouldn't they still get fed up if she was lazy?

As for the other stuff, spot on. My boyfriend struggles with the emotional aspect but I usually just tell him straight out when he's not giving me attention. In the past I have felt the desire to flirt with other guys on the side to feel wanted, but my boyfriend 'always' tells me to be straight up about anything I'm worried about. Our communication is very good, he's just not that sexual or emotional.

The only reason the sexual part isn't good (for right now) is because we live far away from each other, so we can only see each other so much. It's tough!

AWESOME take. When I do some childish shit like in the last paragraph, my boyfriend alwaysss ignores it or walks away lol. Probably because he's older and knows what I'm trying to do.

[PassiveAggressive]

Also.. you're really insightful!! Is this from personal experience or what you've read?

[TheEroticJester]

As a guy you need to realize that you have an OPTION with a girl. Be her friend OR be her SO.

Yes you can evolve into more but that is only if attraction was there from the beginning.

DO NOT become her shoulder to cry on if she needs it. DO NOT emotionally comfort her. unless you are content being her friend and only that. Then by all means.

This goes both ways, any girl I am not interested in sexually but seems to like me I just put her into 'friendzone' and be all emotional with her. It turns her off, it lets me get rid of steam and thoughts that I wouldn't dare mention to a girl I was pursuing and it makes me look like a 'player' all in one go. Great for self esteem. And despite all this our relationship is positive because she sees me as someone who can at the least, emotionally fulfill her and she sort of 'needs' me despite her never admiting it. AND she thinks she's USING me when its the other way round.

If I like a girl I'll just go for it. Talk a little and make intent clear and yallah habibi. Girl who wants to play will realize that if she doesn't give me a definitive response I'm just gonna look somewhere else.

[AleDeEurope]

It has always been like that, but most women don't wanna admit it cause it goes against their own benefit. There are way more women with groups of men following, than the other way around.
I know I may get lota of hate from them by saying this, but it's true, because, to be honest, and we all know, a man provides more for a woman than what she provides to him.
I'd rather be a player than be played, we all prefer that, and once you experience what being played feels like, you're not gonna let someone else play you.

That's why I now stay away from emotional relationships with women, cause it's not gonna end good, especially with girls around my age.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for your opinion my friend
I think a lot of men our age are going through a similar struggle
And a lot of women

I think men are expected to provide more, but if you play your cards right and get lucky on the draw, you could find a girl who provides you with everything you need

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, many women go through this too, but you were just talking anout women players.

What I tried to say is that women expect more from a relationship than men. Women are very picky, way more than men, when it comes to the guy's personality and what he can provide. Men tend to settle more often when it comes to that.

[myTake Owner]

yeah i feel as though men settle, all the time, but i dont like the term settle
we appreciate when we have something good

[genuinlysensitive]

I would rather be neither player or played. Maybe we should stop beleiving all this play or be played crap and treat each other with basic human kindness and respect for a change.

[Anonymous]

What a bunch of generalizing shit. Not all girls have zillion phone numbers and call guys when they need something. Not all girls constantly need guys to give them money or sex or whatever. Not all girls play with insecurities or date multiple guys. I doubt less than half of girls are like that. Only bitches dothings lile that, and if you fall for a girl like that and tolerate that shut only cuz she is hot. Then suffer, but don't complain.
But since dating a hot armcandy is more important than havkng a stable relationship, most guys will feel cheated as they run after the popular girls.

[myTake Owner]

Of course this doesn't apply to all women
But in my experiences, my girl friends do a lot of these things

I don't know if you read the whole take either
I said it's ok that players do this its up to the people who aren't the player types to be aware of the signs

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think it's okay but if one is too stupid or blinded buy love to notice, I quess player isn't only one to blame. It is only natural for human nature to manipulate a little to get what they want, but there is a limit where person turns into a narcissist/player or a psychopath.

[myTake Owner]

I don't know if you read the whole thing cause it was kind of long but
I do mention how some people have better more genuine intentions than others
The whole take was about, not blaming the player and seeing if you are getting played or not
To recognize some things and know what's going on

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but I don't get why player can't be blamed. If player knows he/she will hurt someone really bad, and still do the thing that will hurt them, then player is the one to blame. If player does not tell about his/her intentions, plsyer is the one to blame. And it isn't always okay to use other people to fulfil your needs. That is just selfish. Narcistic. The thing is, whrn you give something back, it is okay. But if you just take and take and ignore others, then it is the wrong type of using.
I don't think I said this earlier, but I do agree that you win by walking away. Smartest thing to do.

[myTake Owner]

Well, a player can be blamed if they misuse your trust and take advantage of you, if you fell for them unknowingly

i completely agree
that relationships should be give and give, not take and take
relationships should be about selflessness but sadly often times that isn't the case

Walking away is the always the best move when you realize you are getting hurt

[apexalpha]

good take bro
It seems that the reason why these women are playing the player or are in this mind game is so that they dont want to lose and be humiliated. its a game after all winners and losers, but I personally think its silly why as an adult with limited life time span would I be wasting my time with games?
Most people as you pointed out are attracted to a person because the things they can provide (sex, money) or how they make them feel (emotional), and as you further said if one of those things are missing the other party see no point in staying around if they can have those things fulfilled from a different person. No genuine love there thats why a "unconditional love" is the best way to go with a relationship I know it seems cheesy but its the best guarantee of a healthy relationship you know the other person will stay even if you lose a limb lol

[myTake Owner]

Dude, i totally agree
I wish people could be mature about it and not play these games
But i too hope to find "unconditional love" i think all people do

[Floyd790]

Money doesn't equal attraction

[myTake Owner]

@Floyd790 well of course not
Women are attracted to success
man successful men have money

But a majority of women want a man who is financially secure, and can take care of them

[Floyd790]

That is bs because plenty of men nowadays stay at home while the wife works women are outpacing men in college degrees which is good sugar mama's all day.

[myTake Owner]

@Floyd790 , although i do agree that there are an increasing number of stay at home dads, i think women are still more attracted to a man who has his own wealth, and who is more wealthy than her

[Kshppatel]

A lot of the girls that say "I don't date players" are the ones that usually end up dating players lol. It's pretty much "do the same shit expect different results" type of mentality. If you see signs he may be a player and is talking to and banging different many different women, just go no contact. It can't hurt you. Lol at giving people the benefit of the doubt and trusting the good side of people nowadays. Just like guys have side pieces, girls monkeybranch. It's a fact. It happens. Maybe not all girls do it but it doesn't change the fact that it happens. Stop with the not all women/men nonsense. No one is saying its all, all people are saying is that it happens and to accept that it happens.

[hellionthesage]

Very accurate. I myself am not a player but while being on this site there have been so many comments/questions by women essentially asking how they can use sex to get a guy interested in them. Its fairly obvious, at least to me. Personally I have had a life of drama and bull**** manipulation to be tolerante of it, probabley why I am single. Over all good take, though I would say that using someone and using someone with disregards to there well being (ie playing them) is diffrent. I want a girl to fullfill my needs which is perfectly natural, wanting to fullfill my needs and not caring if that harms them emotionaly or otherwise is what makes you a player.

[myTake Owner]

I agree on that last part, I mentioned genuine intentions near the end of my take
And how some people are less player than others

[hellionthesage]

I know, its just bares repeating, a lot of people don't realize that or that it extends to every aspect of life. Your not friends with someone who treats you like crap and that you hate, your friends with people who have your back and make you feel good about yourself, same concept.

[myTake Owner]

exactly =)
couldnt have said it better myself

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

It's so sad that this generation of men are a bunch of whinging little mommy's boys. It's pathetic, the whole thing is pathetic and no wonder dating is getting so hard when everyone walks around acting entitled to pussy and crying about being rejected.

So glad I don't have to deal with this shit.

[zagor]

So they should be a good macho man, like old Ronald Reagan, and just take what they want in the back of the car, whether she likes it or not?

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@zagor what part of my statement said I wanted to be raped by a demented ex president?

[zagor]

You are complaining about this generation of men. Apparently you would prefer someone from a previous generation who isn't such a wuss.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@zagor so why does that mean I want to be raped? Is it either pussy-hole men or rapists? Is that all men have to offer? Just because I don't find wet-behind-the-ears, self pitying children who think they are owed vagina attractive doesn't mean I want to be sexually assaulted in the back of a car...

[phanindra554plus]

what is the difference between you and the take owner. you said all the men are bad and she said all the woman.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus Ok, for one the take owner is a guy, not a female. Secondly, where did I start saying I was nothing like the take owner? What from my statement makes you think I am attacking the take owners opinion while holding the same one myself? If you people are going to start picking at my responses at least have an iota of intelligence and READ THE FUCKING WORDS.

[phanindra554plus]

you said this
It's so sad that this generation of men are a bunch of whinging little mommy's boys. It's pathetic. in that fucking sentence there is fucking word "this generation of men"
you said all the men.

[phanindra554plus]

how can you speak for all of our minds.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus where did 'she' say all the women are bad? What exactly are you trying to say here? What is your issue? That I made a generalisation? Shock. Fucking. Horror. Of course not every single man is like that, if they were I would have shot myself a long time ago because this modern wave of pathetic losers who can't stand up for themselves is just depressing as shit. This type of man which is becoming ever more prevalent is just awful, who would be attracted to such children? To such bitter little losers who blame everyone and everything for their lack of success in this world.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus I never said I spoke for all of your minds, stop putting words in my mouth so you can get angry at me.

[phanindra554plus]

and you are saying fear of rejection. why don't many girls don't approach guys, if they don't approach then they have no right question others about there fear of rejection.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus what are you on about? Look, everyone gets rejected, you just need to learn to deal with it instead of crying over spilled milk. Why don't women approach men? Erm... because men are so quick to label a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality as a slut or easy.

What is your problem, are you one of these guys who goes home broken because a girl he doesn't know wouldn't go out with him?

[phanindra554plus]

i am not that type of guy and i know i am confident enough to win this world.
what we think you are slut if you approach? if guys think in the same way like if we approach first you think we are essay.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus Nope, doesn't work like that.

[phanindra554plus]

why that dose not work?

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus it's called a double standard.

[phanindra554plus]

no it is called answering. don't try to cover. and you said why men are compliant? this whole universe know who complaint more.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus oh my goodness, please use the words correctly, why are you asking me questions and then changing what you asked to make me look wrong?

My answer was: it's a double standard. That was my answer, I am sorry you do not understand what that means, would you like me to explain? Please don;t say yes - I really can't be bothered to.

[Jaydog666]

Was Ronald Regan a rapist?

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@Jaydog666 I have no fucking clue, haha! No idea why Ronald Raegan is this person's idea of a Real Man.

[phanindra554plus]

guys can go topless but woman don't have to. this is double standard but you are taking then why don't you take this anyway this is not a double standard this is just a question. but i already proved all my statement and leaving because you are not comfortable with this.

[Jaydog666]

he's right about the topless thing. I too would demand that more women go topless.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@phanindra554plus what are you talking about? The double standard was the answer to why can't women approach men, because they are seen as easy or sluts. That is what the double standard comment was about, jesus you know how to drag out a conversation.

[AleDeEurope]

What many women didn't understand about this Take is that it was aimed towards women that are players, not all women. When he said stuff like "they all have a phone full of numbers" he meant all women-players.
He's not talking about all women, just a few of them, those that are players.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

@AleDeEurope I made no comment on his view of women did I? I wasn't taking offense to that. I'm sure there are women like that. I was just stating that I thought it a sad state of affairs, the modern world and man's place within it.

[muspelhem_5]

What a load of sexist crap. I get that women aren't attracted to men that show any hint of weakness. But I'm tired of hearing about it all the time. It's getting on my damn nerves. Go fuck some gang members and leave the rest of us alone.

[AleDeEurope]

Given that your comment was mad on this post I assumed it was directed towards him, meaning he (and any guy that agrees) is a whining little mommy's boy for writing this take talking about women players.

[noneoftheabove]

@GirlsScoutsRevenge

I asked a question a while ago and stated what i thought

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1469711-do-some-guys-on-here-need-to-man-the-hell-up

I know of a guy who gets friendzoned all the time but he refuses to give up and i respect him for that. He doesn't come on a website and moan what bitches women are. He keeps trying and i think one day it will pay off

[noneoftheabove]

@GirlScoutsRevenge

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

I fail to see how this is sexist, I find whining, complaining girls who mope about waiting for Prince Charming to save her from the dick heads she's choosing to date annoying as hell. They are cut from the same cloth, entitled children.

[Master-Fuuk]

women are whinier than ever too.

[NoFcks2Give]

@noneoftheabove
Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.

I think your friend maybe insane.

[Goldie757]

"They understand the value their body has and how they can use it to manipulate men for their sexual needs. "
This body, umm I don't think so

"Most girls have a phone with numbers, full of men who will give them what they need. "
I wish.

"One need is unfufilled for long enough, and she will cheat on his ass"
Most women would leave their ass instead.

"Girls will play on your insecurities."
Thats more of a people thing

Interesting take. Both sexes can be players but its quite presumptuous and is heavily based on stereotypes.

[Goldie757]

Most of these can only really be applied if the girl is really attractive.

[Anonymous]

Some people are players some people are just looking for a good time some are just curious enough to try something out. Not everyone has the motivation of a player or a phone stacked with chicks/dudes. Some people are sincere. IMHO MyTakes like this reveal more about the author than the topic. ;)

[myTake Owner]

this, take was supposed to highlight that girls can be players too, so watch out!
and dont get upset if you do get played, just see the signs and avoid getting played

[Opinion Owner]

Well here's how I see it: To me people aren't here "to use". They're here to understand get to know and see if there are things in common to build a relationship from. If it doesn't work out it's okay and if I can honestly say I tried when it came to XYZ person and my intentions were aligned with what I see as the truth of myself then I see nothing wrong with jumping in and giving someone even a known player a chance. If they do something childish and spoiled to hurt me I know I've done my best and I can grow from the experience.

[myTake Owner]

well of course people are here on gag to better understand other people

And i completely agree with the rest of what you said
its ok to date a player

[Opinion Owner]

Well you do make it seem like you (person interested in a player) need to reflect upon why you're attracted to said player. Maybe we have, or at least I have and there's no explanation other than "I like this person", so I'm gonna give it a shot, if it works cool if not at least I tried no biggie.

[myTake Owner]

haha yeah, just a bit lol!
i realized i was getting played and wrote this :)

But i walked away, like you said, i tried no biggie

[Opinion Owner]

In you're case just take it as a lesson learned. I think the biggest thing it's teaching me is to be a little more courageous, perhaps follow my heart a little more by taking some calculated risks and try to trust in another person. To me that's a big deal because I tend to be really reserved. :)

[myTake Owner]

Thanks man
Your opinion was really appreciated

[Opinion Owner]

Aw, you're welcome bro!

[dragracergirl]

Not all women cheat to get what they need! So what do you do when your husband can not satisfy you sexually anymore for the rest of your life due to ED? The testosterone shots and the Cialis works but only for a short while. Yes there are toys but theyre not the same as the real thing and never will be. Truth, there's nothing that can replace having the ultimate "bang job" sort of speak by a real penis. Playing him and going elsewhere for sex is not an option as I am faithful and always will be. Yes we still have sex but it doesn't last long enough and I'm never satisfied and he won't try to go at it again later. My sex life is over at 45.

[genuinlysensitive]

Ok well, while there are to many women players out there who go unaknowleged, because our scociety has trained us to blame men, let me start by saying that women cheating, despite what you say it is not always the fault of the man because he "failed" to satisfy her needs. That is simply a bullshit justification, that too many people beleive. The real motivation is pure selfishness. Simple. Try and justify it all you want, that is what cheating boils down to.

Secondly enough of this play or be played nonsense. Dont play people, avoid others who do, and treat people with the dignity amd respect they deserve.

Thirdly, aren't you the guy with the Im asexual take?

[Anonymous]

So many girls getting so angry about generalizations and what not. It's not all about you. This is clearly about a specific group of women. Try not to take things so personally and get over yourselves.

[myTake Owner]

yeah dude
i didn't expect this take to be taken so seriously lol!
i thought the part about girls "finding their way back home: was funny but a lot of girls mentioned it lol!

[jjmarvin]

i avoid making dogmatic statements in general. and when you make them about sociological constructs it gets even more erroneous.

TRPers and sociopaths exist but its a little presumptuous to say every member of both genders uses the opposite like a sociopath.

[myTake Owner]

well of course all ladies aren't players as is the same for bros

[myTake Owner]

well, maybe not "Players" in the sense that they are taking advantage of others selfishly

[Mustachekitteh]

This made me think of the quote. "Don't hate the player hate the game." :D

It's pretty funny seeing some women on here ranting and raving over this. Just taking things way to personal. When there are some women out there that are like that. Not all women or men are sweet, spice, and everything nice.

Avoiding anyone like that all you have to do is just look for key body language, how they talk, and their actions.

[myTake Owner]

i agree, its about realizing if the girl seems to be a "user" if she is using you for slefish reasons than she is being a negative player

yeah, this was supposed to be about Lady players but things got turned around fast lol!

[XRabbitHeartX]

" Most girls have a phone with numbers, full of men who will give them what they need."

ROFL... seriously? You actually think this is true?

[myTake Owner]

I know a lot of girls that do
Maybe this isn't the case for all girls
But i know girls that have a lot of options
So they are less willing to settle

[XRabbitHeartX]

That's bullshit man...

[myTake Owner]

It might not apply to you
but its not total BS

[XRabbitHeartX]

No it doesn't apply to even MOST women.

Maybe supermodels or really social women but we're not all that way. Not even most of us.

[myTake Owner]

Haha all the girls i hang out with in real life are considered really hot...
so maybe i have been given the wrong impression by them...

[XRabbitHeartX]

Depends how social you are. Not all "hot" girls are in clubs every night picking up guys.

[myTake Owner]

i didn't really mention clubbing but i get your point :)
of course this article is generalized

[QuestionMan]

Lies
If you want a guy all you have to do is ask.

[KAZ-2Y5]

I have 15 contacts one part is family members another part is pre-instaled ATT numbers and my best friend, Alee. As you can see I have a phone full of numbers little miss popular over here. And guys all over me. I am kidding I have not been asked out in the last 2 years and I am waiting outside a math class for my brother honestly I can't wait to get home so I can't wait to get home so I can sit on the couch in my sweatpants and do nothing with my boyfriend, netflix

[Anonymous]

With men it's called manipulation. With women it's called normal.

[myTake Owner]

It's the same either way you slice it
It's our job as men to be aware of the player ladies

[complicated_soul]

I really liked this sentence, " There are 3 needs, that need to be met. Emotional needs, sexual needs, and financial needs. Different girls will prioritize these differently."

[myTake Owner]

thanks
Some girls won't prioritize, one of those at all

but i think most older girls 21-25 will have some sort of standard when it comes all of these

[complicated_soul]

That's true. They do start to have those standard at that age. :)

[myTake Owner]

Also this take only applies to female players lol!
or girls who are players but dont realize it! lol!

[complicated_soul]

Haha :p yes, I have noticed :)

[Floyd790]

Wrong this take and that sentence can and does apply to men too.

[myTake Owner]

@Floyd790 well it can and does, but this take was about ladies