No matter why you broke up the issues should be resolved prior to getting back together with your ex, otherwise you are basically putting lipstick on a pig. The lipstick is bound to come off in the future again and you will be back with the same problems. Here are a few suggestions if you are thinking about remaking a commitment to your ex:
1. Learn together and stay together. You and your ex must constantly be learning what to do and not to do from your previous relationship experience. The mistakes that were made are in the past and you need to do things differently this time around. Communication is key and you both must agree to be heard and to not just dismiss each other.
2. Must have some COMPROMISE. Give and take is crucial. It cannot be one person always giving and the other one always taking, balance is key. Agreeing to disagree must become a cornerstone in your relationship. Knowing that you don't have to agree on everything will be a healthy path instead of a destructive "I am right" "you are wrong" path. You need to also give each other space. Make it mandatory. Do not get rid of all your friends just so you can tell the other they can't have theirs. Friends or no friends space must be given for a period of time. The old saying is true... absence makes the heart grow fonder.... and more appreciative.
3. Appreciate each other. It is important to take some kind of action in order to indicate where you are both going now that you are back together. Appreciating one another is something that was probably lost in the prior relationship due to taking advantage of one another or the boring comfort that a relationship can sometimes provide. Compliments, hugs, spontaneous calls can all be a great start in really showing that this time is going to be different.
Getting back together is never an easy task. I have seen it done successfully and not so successfully. Hopefully with these tips you can do it different this time. Communication and honesty is always important. Communication and honesty without the fear of being dismissed is NECESSARY. Respect one another equally and most of the time little arguments don't turn into big ones.
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