What are leagues?
It’s a class of people who you are (statistically) expected to date. Leagues class people based on the value of their physical attractiveness, education, wealth, and status. Leagues are social constructs but that doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. Most of the time people date someone who is within their league, so that means that there is a low chance of dating someone who has way more value than you do. Just because something is a social construct, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist and doesn’t play a huge role in reality. So many social constructs dictate our reality.
What does "out of my league" mean?
It either means you have way more mating value than them or you have way less mating value than them. It’s either a good thing or a bad thing when you say that someone is out of your league. If you say that someone is out of your league, that statement itself logically implies that you are out of their league as well.
But because most attractive people don’t want to sound like condescending assholes, they won’t go around saying that somebody is out of their league to mean that they are too good for that person. I think the meaning of that statement can depend on where you live because, where I live, people mean it as a bad thing and that’s because I live in a city where people are mean to each other. I remember one of my family friends going through the yearbook and her brother told her that the guys on the baseball team like her. She looked at the team picture and dramatically said “Ew out of my league!” That was a funny moment to be honest. It was obvious from the tone of her voice that she definitely meant that she is way too good for them. I have heard many of my friends saying that a few girls are "out of their league" because they believed that they are too good for the girls and don’t want to have anything to do with those girls.
How do leagues work?
Most people desire to be with someone who is just as good (or almost just as good) as they are and/or someone who is better. Barely anyone desires to date someone who has way less, overall value than they do. That’s how insecurities occur. Most average looking people (five out of ten people) don’t want to date a conventionally unattractive person who is a zero out of ten. Celebrities tend to go out with someone who is within their league (looks, wealth, and/or status), which is why typical people barely have a chance with celebrities. Sometimes one person has a lot of mating value in looks and the other partner has the same amount of mating value in wealth. So it cancels out and compensations for mating values can occur, but it’s not that common in real life.
Understand where you stand in the rating system. You are likely to have a successful relationship with someone around your attractiveness (3 points below to 3 points above).
Understand where the person you like stands in the rating system. Don’t over rate or under rate. Make
a best guess on what their average rating would be. If the person is way more attractive than you, don’t keep your hopes too high because they are more likely to reject you and find someone better.
Sorry that’s just reality and people aren’t always going to be fair to you. If that person obviously doesn’t want you, please don’t be persistent and annoying.
If you believe you are dating (or about to date) someone who has way more value than you, don’t be insecure when you are with them and always be positive/optimistic. Figure out if you are compatible with them, keep them and don’t take them for granted if you are compatible with them.
If you believe you are dating (or about to date) someone who has way less value than you and you believe you deserve better, don’t waste your time with them. Never lower standards because you are most likely not going to be happy with the results. Don’t be ashamed of desiring someone better. Your happiness is more important than someone else’s happiness.
If you have high standards, you don’t have to lower them if you don’t want to. But remember that it’s very unlikely of you to be with someone who has way more mating value than you. Don’t complain and become bitter, and then turn mgtow or wgtow who hates the opposite sex just because you can’t get want you want. Either say alone forever, lower your standards, or keep trying harder.
the brutally blunt honest, ten out of ten guy who is just trying to give truthful and helpful advice.