Ah sounds like the "too picky" option. But I am the same way and I believe it's important to only involve yourself with people you're compatible with in order to prevent unrequited love in a breakup
Staying is generally the easiest, least risky, and better option because divorce is generally irreversible and causes a lot of financial and emotional problems, especially for any children involved. Personally I believe marriage is forever and would do whatever it takes to remain married to someone if I felt like he was worth marrying in the first place
I also read somewhere about how a significant number of people who divorced regretted it but that most people who stayed together were glad they did
You left off losing the gene lotto. But even that is minor compared to the fact there's 450M more men than women. If most believe in monogamy and considering the fact the vast majority of that surplus isn't gay that's 100's of millions that are single just because of bad luck, even when a sizable fraction of those settle for someone they are not even attracted to. Contrary to the meme there is NOT someone for everyone.
You beat me to it , in fact it's around 600 million " surplus " males , and ever growing male heaviness , the cultures / regions that breed the most , tend to only value boys. This seems to be always overlooked. Well put !!
That falls under the "afraid because you're insecure" category. No not everyone gets married in life, but there's always something you could do differently if you really want to settle down
I'm single because I don't want to make the same mistake a third time. I'm going to wait for God to choose the right girl for me, although I'm getting tired of waiting!
It takes time to find the right person for you. I didn't find anyone I could love until my first boyfriend a couple of months ago. Unfortunately things didn't work out, but now I know I'm capable of love, so I can love someone else
Exactly one year ago, I said the same exact thing. I've taken the last year to help fix my trust issues and figure out what I want from a relationship. I think that definitely helped me to leave my ex once I found out he cheated on me because I had already planned ahead what I would do in a situation like that
I used to be that exact same person until about a year ago. Then I got cheated on by the first guy I gave a chance to. I wonder myself if I'm being too picky or not picky enough
I gave being less picky a chance and it didn't work out too well. I didn't end up in any relationships but I casually went on some dates and did some stuff, and it wasn't very satisfying at all. I decided it's not worth the effort unless I'm extremely into someone.
Well I believe you should only involve yourself with people who have long-term potential. Sometimes you have to decide what side of the picky line you want to be on and wait things out. You should definitely aim for satisfaction in a relationship, so just keep your chin up and you'll find it someday
I'm single purely because I want to be... after be in a relationship for a period of time, I'm enjoying just worrying about me... there'll come a time when I'll be on the lookout again, but not now :)
Taking some time off for yourself is important between relationships to reassess what you want and to take care of your own self. I'm on one of those right now myself
Online dating is really a terrible place to look because most people there are only looking for attention or terrible at relationships. Not sure where 30+ year-olds meet though other than work or through kid's friend's parents
No I didn't. Your assumptions are incorrect, and ha e been since you started harassing me. It's no wonder you have no friends or girlfriend with the way you go on
You should be asking him why he's trying to get you into his ridiculous argument rather than actually leaving this like he's claimed he would do several times. You should be asking him why he thinks it's ok to call someone a whore and retarded (especially when said person doesn't fit the definitions). You should be asking him if that's what his mother raised him to do or if she would approve of his misconduct. You should be encouraging better behavior from him
@Idonthaveausername What do you truly believe you are? Do you believe that you are all-knowing and that you can see my future, maybe that you have special powers?
I don't feel anything towards you because you're not worth it. Claiming you've won is only another delusion of yours. You have proved me right since the beginning. Your misbehavior and degree of harassment towards only proves that you're not relationship material. The longer you drag this out, the further you prove my point
I've already predicted your future and you're assimilating without hesitation. I wrote months ago that you wouldn't leave me alone and yet here you still are, like a guy claiming he's going to break out of prison but makes no effort to dig a hole under the wall. Look, we both know at least some of my advice is starting to resonate with you, so it's ok to admit it. I don't make fun of any of you trolls who come around and you're far from being the worst one I've rehabilitated. If you really are some 16-year old kid, you have enough time left that it would greatly behoove you to let this insecure, self-loathing, misogynistic ideology go
As for what do I believe I am, that has a metaphysical answer we don't have enough characters for. No I don't have special powers. I am entirely human. But I'm unlike any other human in most ways humans are the same. I am human in flesh and blood, but not in philosophy and desire. I understand humans from both a subjective and objective standpoint, but prefer objectivity as it removes individual emotions and encourages rationality and logic. I have a purpose in this life to leave the world better than I found it, but that doesn't necessarily mean it will be better for me. I understand what ways my presence affects others and choose to not abuse it. Everyone I meet in life remembers me even if I've long forgotten them
I am one, but not all. All is me. I affect all. I am a bridge, a link, a communicator, a catalyst, and a beacon. I am the one who doesn't fit in, but the only one who belongs
I'm not psychic, but know when things are going to happen, drastic changes
Thanks. Most people aren't insecure at 17 and I didn't start dating until I was almost 22 myself, so you're not really behind on anything. Confidence comes from within. Focusing on things you're good at and not being afraid to try new things will make you more confident. That's something I've considered writing a MyTake on in the future because s lot of people on this site seem to have the same problem
An unhealthy psychological adaptation is not an "orientation." It's time we stopped feeding that lie. And "denying" it is oddly enough a good thing. As for combating singleness, it doesn't count; categorically nor morally / ethically. It used to not count legally either; though judicial activists throughout the years have done their damndest to hijack that and make it so.
I'm focusing on strengthening my relationship with GOD, excelling in school and making new friends... basically getting my life together caz I'm not ready to be in a relationship
I am single for a list of reasons, one of which is the way that divorce law and courts destroy men. When a man forms a relationship with a woman, he takes a 50 per cent risk that she will turn on him and use the apparatus of the state to steal everything for which he has worked and then transform him into her impoverished slave for the rest of his life, via spousal and child support. I have spent most of my adult life working in the media. Men in my field have a divorce rate that is close to 100 per cent. I have seen colleague after colleague destroyed by lying, vindictive and often adulterous women. Would I want to sign up to a deal that carried with it a 50 per cent probability that I would end up homeless and penniless? I think not.
You fall into the "negative experiences" category even though they haven't directly affected you. You're scared of commitment and therefore not relationship material
Divorce laws are not keeping you single. You're choosing to keep yourself single because you aren't confident and secure in yourself to believe you will treat a woman properly enough for her to want to stay married to you for life
@Idonthaveausername I have had a lifetime of negative experiences with women. As I stated in my original post, the way that divorce law is stacked against men is just one entry on a list of reasons. All of those reasons involve pain. Some of them have been too painful for words to express adequately. One of the things that I learned the hard way was that 'treat (ing) a woman properly' led to the Friend Zone, or her moving on to a bad boy who treated her like shit, because women find that exciting. Being loved and cared for causes women to become bored and they see such men as weak. Another thing that I learned was to ignore everything that women said that they wanted and to, instead, watch for with whom they went home at the end of the night. The sociopathic bad boys get the girls every time.
Completely false. Women want men to care for and love them and only get bored when the guy doesn't show it. Most women hate being treated like shit because of bad boys. And girls may go home with bad boys at the end of the day but real woman live with the real men who commit and marry them
Your mentality is keeping you single because you're not relationship material and women can see that desperate self-pity a mile away. You're too selfish to properly care about another human being if you wallow in that negativity all day
@Idonthaveausername Your response is an example of the way that females use shaming language to try to manipulate men into doing what the female wants them to do. It is also an example of how people default to stereotypes that conform to their confirmation bias, to fill in the blanks. This causes the use of assumptions and a lack of cognitive process when forming a view. FYI after I turned 30 and went MGTOW (before there was a name for it) women began to be interested in me in a big way. Women have hit on me and sometimes straight out asked me on various forms of dates in every form of work or academic context in which I have encountered them. I can almost not sit at a campus cafe table without mature-age female students, or sometimes staff, inviting themselves to join me. More recently, since I acquired a private security provider licence, women have hit on me during every private function at which I have provided a security team. So, no, women have not shunned me for almost 30 years.
I'm not shaming men into anything. If you're single, it's because you're choosing to be so. You personally are single because of your poor attitude and views of women. That's not shaming because it's the truth and the truth isn't meant to shame people. You're a misogynist and that's why you're single whether you're consciously choosing that or not
nobody is choosing to be so, they're single because people reject them, until they find the right girl, they don't give up. you prove your stupidity again
Everyone chooses to be single. Women reject men who have no quality, are disrespectful, and have terrible personalities. You've proven that you fall into all three of these qualities, so you have a ton of improvement to make before women stop rejecting you
On the contrary, I prove my intelligence by basing all of my opinions on facts, using proper grammar when I write, and by being respectful to people, even when they treat me like shit like you have
I've been close to dying before, but my body just didn't want to give up because I have so much to live for. I'm going to live a long time, probably 90+ years as is the standard for healthy women in my family
Again I am not a bitch, so no amount of you calling one is going to make me feel like one
I really don't know what female dog or otter you're referring to here, but I'm pretty sure they don't know how to use computers and their claws would destroy a smartphone touchscreen way too quickly to write anything
ROFLMAO! Again, I can't "whinny" because I'm not a horse
A whore is someone who sells sex, so I cannot possibly be a whore as I'm still a virgin
Considering my mental capacity developed much more quickly than other children my age and that I fully understand social cues as well as am not handicapped, I don't fit any critereon for retardation
Really it does pay to know the definitions of words you use
Way down low where the streets are littered I find my fun with the freaks and the n*ggers I don't want much man give me a little Or I'm gonna take my chances if I get em I love them whores they never judge you What can you say when your a whore? They cast that pearl and it don't upset em They take their chances if they get em Hear me go off! Give me some more! Motherf*cker! Need a little more Godd*mn you! Give me some more! Motherf*cker! Give me some more! You give me breadcrumbs I'm tired of living the bosses' dream They'll squeeze you dry man if you let em Better take your - take your - take your chances If you get em Hear me go off! Give me some more! Motherf*cker! Need a little more Godd*mn you! Give me some more! Motherf*cker! Give me some more
We came to battle, baby We came to win the war We won't surrender till we Get what we're looking for We're blowing out our speakers There goes the neighborhood A little scissor-happy Little Miss Understood
We can turn you on Or we will turn on you... Daughters of darkness Sisters insane A little evil goes a long long way We live forever No we're not afraid Daughters of darkness Daughters of darkness
Gnome [nōm] NOUN a legendary dwarfish creature supposed to guard the earth's treasures underground. informal a small ugly person informal a person regarded as having secret or sinister influence, especially in financial matters: "the gnomes of Zurich" a small garden ornament in the form of a bearded man with a pointed hat
It seems that you are a gnome considering the informal definition per your own description of yourself
You told me 'I have concluded that most humans live shallowly' What percentage live shallowly? you do definitely, i see that by the way you talk to me stupid bitch
Every human lives shallowly in giving into earthly desires. Even the Pope doesn't live a life entirely free of shallow desires. But people are capable of being selfless as well as satiating a minimal number of important selfish desires as well as committing large acts of selflessness while maintaining overwhelming incorrigible acts. That's why we divide people into generally "good" or "evil" and allow a little bit of selfishness in those who are generally good. A human who is entirely selfish but does not harm others would still be considered good while someone who commits many perceived selfless acts could be much more evil dependent on other selfish acts (Harvey Weinstein whose multiple accounts of rape and assault are more selfish and evil than the "selfless" acts of charity that were really just a tax write-off)
You are not a Human! I tried to make you feel like one, but before I got the chance, you put me down. I wish that REAL people continue to pester you about being a robot. A cold, heartless robot.
Now we're getting somewhere! I am human, but I do not feel like one, you cannot force me to feel like one, and you cannot force anyone to feel anything. You can encourage someone to feel a certain way, but you cannot force them. You can encourage a girl to appreciate you by bringing her flowers if she sees it as an undesirable advancement, she may view you negatively or be scared because she thinks you have an unhealthy obsession with her or are a stalker. (For the record, I thank everyone who gives me flowers because they make me feel appreciated). People make jokes about me being a robot all the time, but they know I'm real, just like you
I'm shy, I lack self-confidence, I'm probably too ugly, all of my loves were unrequited, I might be too picky, but girls are even pickier. PS - I'm not rich either.
Unfortunately being insecure about all of that makes you even less attractive to women. You need to work on better accepting yourself. You can't know how to love someone else unless you learn how to love yourself first
True there is no medicinal cure (although one could argue alcohol temporarily can be), but there are ways to fix it. Cognitive behavioral therapy is the best way, but you can practice it yourself as well. Confidence comes from self acceptance within, so you have to stop worrying about the judgment of others
Alcohol doesn't work on me like that, it only makes me sleepy, and I have to go to toilet more often, until I start feeling too dizzy, and then I have to go home, but I feel no confidence at all. Ok, then I'll try behavioral therapy, I hope it's more efficient than alcohol.
I'm a nice-looking guy, I'm not shy, I pick up girl, and I'm still single. Well... yeah deep inside I like being single, and I like all this freedom. But I just dislike seeing uglier guys than me having pretty girls. I know I'm better than them.
The problem with jealousy is being unhappy with your own self and life. Uglier guys might have girls because they have a better personality than you, and you might not be compatible with the pretty girls anyway. Being jealous makes you worse than other people on the inside no matter what is on the outside
I just can't understand how on earth, guys who are fat/beardy/hairy and they look like your typical Pirate, could get a girl who isn't bad looking. It's unbelievable.
You can't blame you being single on other people not liking you. Forcing them to be in a relationship with you would leave both parties unfulfilled. At 17, there's not a whole lot of serious relationships being made anyway, so you'll be better off waiting a couple of years before really considering one anyway
Everyone thinks they're shy and ugly at 17, so you shouldn't worry too much about that. I'm glad you're working on yourself, that way you'll be in a better position when you get to an she where people are actually interested in serious relationships
Yeah but still i will remain ugly i can work on my confidence but not on looks people think that i am ugly and also say that one day someone will find you good but its just a myth no one is there for people like me
Most men get more attractive as they age. I personally wasn't even attracted to 17-year olds when I was 17. I've always found men aged 25+ to be the most attractive because they're physically matured and those traits are more attractive to me. Don't give up hope because you're probably going to look a lot different in 5 years than you do now and you might be more attractive then (Unfortunately I can't use myself as an example here because I've looked the same since I was 13, but this happened to several of my cousins)
Personally I'm more attracted to confident ugly guys than insecure hot guys any day of the week. My ex's face was slightly disfigured in an accident, but I still find him attractive enough to date because he put himself out there
I see, well I don't think people should be forced to date outside what they're attracted to, but it does seem to me that you may be a bit too picky for your city's demographic
@AlwaysBelieving Okay. As a black man, I feel like I should go out with a black woman and if I don't then people may think I'm racist and think that most black women aren't attractive.
That's kind of screwed up if people think you're racist for not dating your own race. Screw society's judgement. If you're attracted to a girl of any race, she likes you, and you share compatibility, you should go for her despite what other people think about you
Yeah, but if I do that then, I'll feel like I letting my people down if I don't date black women if people believed that black women aren't attractive.
That's the problem with using race as a part of your identity. People are no more or less your people" based on skin color. You should only feel like you're letting someone down if they personally care about you as a person
Oh, makes sense. So, you're saying people should date whoever they want not because of skin color? Yeah, but some women who aren't black aren't attractive.
Yeah. If you're attracted to someone, it shouldn't matter what color skin they have. Haha. I can agree with that. There are attractive and unattractive people of every race, but I don't think anybody should be forced to date outside their racial preferences or only inside their own race if they like other races as well
I'm American. My family is almost entirely German, but enough Irish squeezed in there to give me red hair lol. I might have some Russian and Polish in me as well
I've only dated one guy and he was a Slavic immigrant. In case you're wondering, i don't generally find myself attracted to guys with darker skin, but there are exceptions as is with all races (black, Mexican, Asian, Middle Eastern). I mainly look for personality in a guy (intelligence, good sense of humor, drawn to the macabre things in life, and confidence) and rarely find myself attracted to random strangers without getting to know them first. But I don't care what color a guy's skin is if I'm attracted to him
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I'm single because most dudes that I have met lately have less personality than an Adidas sandal and I just can't be bothered. Yawn.
Sounds like your looking for someone to entertain you
Ah sounds like the "too picky" option. But I am the same way and I believe it's important to only involve yourself with people you're compatible with in order to prevent unrequited love in a breakup
@Mandude we all are. Plus, being an engineer, most dudes aren't on my level or they believe that I should be vapid and treat me as such. Double yawn.
Truthfully, I didn't read it fully. In order for me to be too picky, I would have to be interested in picking one eventually. I'm not.
Great take.
I had a choice between staying married and becoming single again after 14 years of being with the same man.
I decided to stay.
Thank you
Staying is generally the easiest, least risky, and better option because divorce is generally irreversible and causes a lot of financial and emotional problems, especially for any children involved. Personally I believe marriage is forever and would do whatever it takes to remain married to someone if I felt like he was worth marrying in the first place
I also read somewhere about how a significant number of people who divorced regretted it but that most people who stayed together were glad they did
You left off losing the gene lotto. But even that is minor compared to the fact there's 450M more men than women. If most believe in monogamy and considering the fact the vast majority of that surplus isn't gay that's 100's of millions that are single just because of bad luck, even when a sizable fraction of those settle for someone they are not even attracted to. Contrary to the meme there is NOT someone for everyone.
You beat me to it , in fact it's around 600 million " surplus " males , and ever growing male heaviness , the cultures / regions that breed the most , tend to only value boys. This seems to be always overlooked. Well put !!
That falls under the "afraid because you're insecure" category. No not everyone gets married in life, but there's always something you could do differently if you really want to settle down
I'm single because I don't want to make the same mistake a third time. I'm going to wait for God to choose the right girl for me, although I'm getting tired of waiting!
Waiting for the right person is the best reason to be single and that person always comes when you least expect it
BECAUSE NO ONE LOVES ME AND I LOVE NO ONE.
Very emo of you.
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It takes time to find the right person for you. I didn't find anyone I could love until my first boyfriend a couple of months ago. Unfortunately things didn't work out, but now I know I'm capable of love, so I can love someone else
I have never dated because I have trust issues and don't know what I want.
Exactly one year ago, I said the same exact thing. I've taken the last year to help fix my trust issues and figure out what I want from a relationship. I think that definitely helped me to leave my ex once I found out he cheated on me because I had already planned ahead what I would do in a situation like that
I'm single because I'm emotionally unavailable and too picky and I don't talk to new people much. And I agree that it's of my own choosing, mostly.
I used to be that exact same person until about a year ago. Then I got cheated on by the first guy I gave a chance to. I wonder myself if I'm being too picky or not picky enough
I gave being less picky a chance and it didn't work out too well. I didn't end up in any relationships but I casually went on some dates and did some stuff, and it wasn't very satisfying at all. I decided it's not worth the effort unless I'm extremely into someone.
Well I believe you should only involve yourself with people who have long-term potential. Sometimes you have to decide what side of the picky line you want to be on and wait things out. You should definitely aim for satisfaction in a relationship, so just keep your chin up and you'll find it someday
I'm single purely because I want to be... after be in a relationship for a period of time, I'm enjoying just worrying about me... there'll come a time when I'll be on the lookout again, but not now :)
Taking some time off for yourself is important between relationships to reassess what you want and to take care of your own self. I'm on one of those right now myself
Because I wasn't really looking when I was younger, and now I never meet any single women. And yes, I've tried online dating.
Sounds like you made yourself unavailable
Online dating is really a terrible place to look because most people there are only looking for attention or terrible at relationships. Not sure where 30+ year-olds meet though other than work or through kid's friend's parents
I know, it's especially sandy in the summer with an extra dose of UV rays to really get a tan!
@razor97
I don't tan because it increases your risk of skin cancer. As a redhead, my skin actually absorbs vitamin D more efficiently from sunlight
That is not witty, nor is it funny, intelligent or appropriate, learn proggie dood, pick become inspired, avoid the negative so on and so forth... (:
@razor97
I attempted nothing of the aforementioned. I simply stated another scientifically-proven fact
Yes you did. Unless you have bad memory
@razor97
No I didn't. Your assumptions are incorrect, and ha e been since you started harassing me. It's no wonder you have no friends or girlfriend with the way you go on
Why are you two arguing on my post, about something that has nothing to do with it?
Technically this is my thread
You should be asking him why he's trying to get you into his ridiculous argument rather than actually leaving this like he's claimed he would do several times. You should be asking him why he thinks it's ok to call someone a whore and retarded (especially when said person doesn't fit the definitions). You should be asking him if that's what his mother raised him to do or if she would approve of his misconduct. You should be encouraging better behavior from him
@zagor
I think we both know who is wrong. You, I beat a robot at it's own game, how does it feel?
@Idonthaveausername What do you truly believe you are? Do you believe that you are all-knowing and that you can see my future, maybe that you have special powers?
Im, but is mind, not me. Then, my hearth, or what do you want to call it, feels, and I hate it.
@razor97
I don't feel anything towards you because you're not worth it. Claiming you've won is only another delusion of yours. You have proved me right since the beginning. Your misbehavior and degree of harassment towards only proves that you're not relationship material. The longer you drag this out, the further you prove my point
I've already predicted your future and you're assimilating without hesitation. I wrote months ago that you wouldn't leave me alone and yet here you still are, like a guy claiming he's going to break out of prison but makes no effort to dig a hole under the wall. Look, we both know at least some of my advice is starting to resonate with you, so it's ok to admit it. I don't make fun of any of you trolls who come around and you're far from being the worst one I've rehabilitated. If you really are some 16-year old kid, you have enough time left that it would greatly behoove you to let this insecure, self-loathing, misogynistic ideology go
How would you feel if I told you that you were going to die in a few years?
The world is corrupted and it will take time and patience to save it
@razor97
As for what do I believe I am, that has a metaphysical answer we don't have enough characters for. No I don't have special powers. I am entirely human. But I'm unlike any other human in most ways humans are the same. I am human in flesh and blood, but not in philosophy and desire. I understand humans from both a subjective and objective standpoint, but prefer objectivity as it removes individual emotions and encourages rationality and logic. I have a purpose in this life to leave the world better than I found it, but that doesn't necessarily mean it will be better for me. I understand what ways my presence affects others and choose to not abuse it. Everyone I meet in life remembers me even if I've long forgotten them
I am one, but not all. All is me. I affect all. I am a bridge, a link, a communicator, a catalyst, and a beacon. I am the one who doesn't fit in, but the only one who belongs
I'm not psychic, but know when things are going to happen, drastic changes
That was very mean. Why would you say that to me? I thought we were becoming friendly toward each other.
Great my take! Insecurity/Lack of confidence is definitely why I've never been in a relationship. I don't know how to change that.
Thanks. Most people aren't insecure at 17 and I didn't start dating until I was almost 22 myself, so you're not really behind on anything. Confidence comes from within. Focusing on things you're good at and not being afraid to try new things will make you more confident. That's something I've considered writing a MyTake on in the future because s lot of people on this site seem to have the same problem
An unhealthy psychological adaptation is not an "orientation." It's time we stopped feeding that lie. And "denying" it is oddly enough a good thing. As for combating singleness, it doesn't count; categorically nor morally / ethically. It used to not count legally either; though judicial activists throughout the years have done their damndest to hijack that and make it so.
I like being single at times when i can be alone to reflect to think, learn and grow
when in a relationship, i like to share that new me with my partner... and hope he will do the same
I'm single because I don't have the energy to focus on someone else right now.
This is genuine.
Honestly is the best policy, especially with yourself. Maybe you'll get to a point where you do have that energy in the future
I'm focusing on strengthening my relationship with GOD, excelling in school and making new friends... basically getting my life together caz I'm not ready to be in a relationship
That's the best reason to remain single and you'll be a more attractive person on the other side
That's a win win!! I better myself and have side effects to my liking
I am single for a list of reasons, one of which is the way that divorce law and courts destroy men.
When a man forms a relationship with a woman, he takes a 50 per cent risk that she will turn on him and use the apparatus of the state to steal everything for which he has worked and then transform him into her impoverished slave for the rest of his life, via spousal and child support.
I have spent most of my adult life working in the media. Men in my field have a divorce rate that is close to 100 per cent. I have seen colleague after colleague destroyed by lying, vindictive and often adulterous women.
Would I want to sign up to a deal that carried with it a 50 per cent probability that I would end up homeless and penniless? I think not.
You fall into the "negative experiences" category even though they haven't directly affected you. You're scared of commitment and therefore not relationship material
Divorce laws are not keeping you single. You're choosing to keep yourself single because you aren't confident and secure in yourself to believe you will treat a woman properly enough for her to want to stay married to you for life
@Idonthaveausername
I have had a lifetime of negative experiences with women.
As I stated in my original post, the way that divorce law is stacked against men is just one entry on a list of reasons.
All of those reasons involve pain. Some of them have been too painful for words to express adequately.
One of the things that I learned the hard way was that 'treat (ing) a woman properly' led to the Friend Zone, or her moving on to a bad boy who treated her like shit, because women find that exciting.
Being loved and cared for causes women to become bored and they see such men as weak.
Another thing that I learned was to ignore everything that women said that they wanted and to, instead, watch for with whom they went home at the end of the night. The sociopathic bad boys get the girls every time.
Completely false. Women want men to care for and love them and only get bored when the guy doesn't show it. Most women hate being treated like shit because of bad boys. And girls may go home with bad boys at the end of the day but real woman live with the real men who commit and marry them
Your mentality is keeping you single because you're not relationship material and women can see that desperate self-pity a mile away. You're too selfish to properly care about another human being if you wallow in that negativity all day
@Idonthaveausername
Your response is an example of the way that females use shaming language to try to manipulate men into doing what the female wants them to do.
It is also an example of how people default to stereotypes that conform to their confirmation bias, to fill in the blanks. This causes the use of assumptions and a lack of cognitive process when forming a view.
FYI after I turned 30 and went MGTOW (before there was a name for it) women began to be interested in me in a big way.
Women have hit on me and sometimes straight out asked me on various forms of dates in every form of work or academic context in which I have encountered them.
I can almost not sit at a campus cafe table without mature-age female students, or sometimes staff, inviting themselves to join me.
More recently, since I acquired a private security provider licence, women have hit on me during every private function at which I have provided a security team.
So, no, women have not shunned me for almost 30 years.
I'm not shaming men into anything. If you're single, it's because you're choosing to be so. You personally are single because of your poor attitude and views of women. That's not shaming because it's the truth and the truth isn't meant to shame people. You're a misogynist and that's why you're single whether you're consciously choosing that or not
nobody is choosing to be so, they're single because people reject them, until they find the right girl, they don't give up. you prove your stupidity again
@razor97
Everyone chooses to be single. Women reject men who have no quality, are disrespectful, and have terrible personalities. You've proven that you fall into all three of these qualities, so you have a ton of improvement to make before women stop rejecting you
On the contrary, I prove my intelligence by basing all of my opinions on facts, using proper grammar when I write, and by being respectful to people, even when they treat me like shit like you have
go die stupid bitch
@razor97
I've been close to dying before, but my body just didn't want to give up because I have so much to live for. I'm going to live a long time, probably 90+ years as is the standard for healthy women in my family
Again I am not a bitch, so no amount of you calling one is going to make me feel like one
die stupid whore, die!
@razor97
I am quite alive and plan to be so for another 70 years or so. Again, I'm a virgin, not a whore. And I am much more intelligent than you'll ever be
you're dying inside, your brain can't take anymore of the truth, stupid bitch
@razor97
"Fully Alive
More than most
Ready to smile
And live life"
The truth is what I spread. I study the truth and explain it in Layman's terms for the uneducated folk like you to understand
fuck off bitch
@razor97
I really don't know what female dog or otter you're referring to here, but I'm pretty sure they don't know how to use computers and their claws would destroy a smartphone touchscreen way too quickly to write anything
fuck off whore
@razor97
@razor97
I'm a virgin, so I don't fuck and I'm not a whore
i didn't say that you're virgin, i said that you are whinny female, but you're too retarded to even understand what does the word whore means
@razor97
ROFLMAO! Again, I can't "whinny" because I'm not a horse
A whore is someone who sells sex, so I cannot possibly be a whore as I'm still a virgin
Considering my mental capacity developed much more quickly than other children my age and that I fully understand social cues as well as am not handicapped, I don't fit any critereon for retardation
Really it does pay to know the definitions of words you use
shut up whore
@razor97
I can't possibly be a whore as I'm still a virgin. This is my thread, so you can't bully me into silencing myself here
shut up whore
@razor97
Jan'es Addiction
Whores
Way down low where the streets are littered
I find my fun with the freaks and the n*ggers
I don't want much man give me a little
Or I'm gonna take my chances if I get em
I love them whores they never judge you
What can you say when your a whore?
They cast that pearl and it don't upset em
They take their chances if they get em
Hear me go off!
Give me some more!
Motherf*cker!
Need a little more
Godd*mn you!
Give me some more!
Motherf*cker!
Give me some more!
You give me breadcrumbs
I'm tired of living the bosses' dream
They'll squeeze you dry man if you let em
Better take your - take your - take your chances
If you get em
Hear me go off!
Give me some more!
Motherf*cker!
Need a little more
Godd*mn you!
Give me some more!
Motherf*cker!
Give me some more
shut the fuck up
@razor97
We came to battle, baby
We came to win the war
We won't surrender till we
Get what we're looking for
We're blowing out our speakers
There goes the neighborhood
A little scissor-happy
Little Miss Understood
whore
@razor97
We can turn you on
Or we will turn on you...
Daughters of darkness
Sisters insane
A little evil goes a long long way
We live forever
No we're not afraid
Daughters of darkness
Daughters of darkness
Cool! But I don't think I would like to be a gnome
@razor97
Gnome
[nōm]
NOUN
a legendary dwarfish creature supposed to guard the earth's treasures underground.
informal
a small ugly person
informal
a person regarded as having secret or sinister influence, especially in financial matters:
"the gnomes of Zurich"
a small garden ornament in the form of a bearded man with a pointed hat
It seems that you are a gnome considering the informal definition per your own description of yourself
O: I love that song. Can you believe they broke up? Dx.
@razor97
Lack of capacity to understand is not going to help you in this world
Nice, you have gotten a lot better! In fact I'd say you are starting to get more relate-able and more interesting than most other people!
@razor97
I haven't "gotten" anything. I've always been the same person. If you weren't so assumptive about me and other women, you would've seen that long ago
You told me 'I have concluded that most humans live shallowly' What percentage live shallowly? you do definitely, i see that by the way you talk to me stupid bitch
@razor97
Every human lives shallowly in giving into earthly desires. Even the Pope doesn't live a life entirely free of shallow desires. But people are capable of being selfless as well as satiating a minimal number of important selfish desires as well as committing large acts of selflessness while maintaining overwhelming incorrigible acts. That's why we divide people into generally "good" or "evil" and allow a little bit of selfishness in those who are generally good. A human who is entirely selfish but does not harm others would still be considered good while someone who commits many perceived selfless acts could be much more evil dependent on other selfish acts (Harvey Weinstein whose multiple accounts of rape and assault are more selfish and evil than the "selfless" acts of charity that were really just a tax write-off)
You are not a Human! I tried to make you feel like one, but before I got the chance, you put me down. I wish that REAL people continue to pester you about being a robot. A cold, heartless robot.
@razor97
Now we're getting somewhere! I am human, but I do not feel like one, you cannot force me to feel like one, and you cannot force anyone to feel anything. You can encourage someone to feel a certain way, but you cannot force them. You can encourage a girl to appreciate you by bringing her flowers if she sees it as an undesirable advancement, she may view you negatively or be scared because she thinks you have an unhealthy obsession with her or are a stalker. (For the record, I thank everyone who gives me flowers because they make me feel appreciated). People make jokes about me being a robot all the time, but they know I'm real, just like you
No; I have reached my maximum patience with your tone. I believe if you talked to me without the bitterness, I could continue 'perserving'.
I'm shy, I lack self-confidence, I'm probably too ugly, all of my loves were unrequited, I might be too picky, but girls are even pickier. PS - I'm not rich either.
Unfortunately being insecure about all of that makes you even less attractive to women. You need to work on better accepting yourself. You can't know how to love someone else unless you learn how to love yourself first
I know, but there is no cure for being insecure, no pills for self-confidence :(
True there is no medicinal cure (although one could argue alcohol temporarily can be), but there are ways to fix it. Cognitive behavioral therapy is the best way, but you can practice it yourself as well. Confidence comes from self acceptance within, so you have to stop worrying about the judgment of others
Alcohol doesn't work on me like that, it only makes me sleepy, and I have to go to toilet more often, until I start feeling too dizzy, and then I have to go home, but I feel no confidence at all.
Ok, then I'll try behavioral therapy, I hope it's more efficient than alcohol.
I'm a nice-looking guy, I'm not shy, I pick up girl, and I'm still single. Well... yeah deep inside I like being single, and I like all this freedom. But I just dislike seeing uglier guys than me having pretty girls. I know I'm better than them.
The problem with jealousy is being unhappy with your own self and life. Uglier guys might have girls because they have a better personality than you, and you might not be compatible with the pretty girls anyway. Being jealous makes you worse than other people on the inside no matter what is on the outside
I just can't understand how on earth, guys who are fat/beardy/hairy and they look like your typical Pirate, could get a girl who isn't bad looking. It's unbelievable.
I'm single because none of the girls I like like me.
You can't blame you being single on other people not liking you. Forcing them to be in a relationship with you would leave both parties unfulfilled. At 17, there's not a whole lot of serious relationships being made anyway, so you'll be better off waiting a couple of years before really considering one anyway
Yeah but it really sucks to be single.
i am shy, introvert and ugly
but i am working on these things
Everyone thinks they're shy and ugly at 17, so you shouldn't worry too much about that. I'm glad you're working on yourself, that way you'll be in a better position when you get to an she where people are actually interested in serious relationships
Yeah but still i will remain ugly i can work on my confidence but not on looks people think that i am ugly and also say that one day someone will find you good but its just a myth no one is there for people like me
Most men get more attractive as they age. I personally wasn't even attracted to 17-year olds when I was 17. I've always found men aged 25+ to be the most attractive because they're physically matured and those traits are more attractive to me. Don't give up hope because you're probably going to look a lot different in 5 years than you do now and you might be more attractive then (Unfortunately I can't use myself as an example here because I've looked the same since I was 13, but this happened to several of my cousins)
Personally I'm more attracted to confident ugly guys than insecure hot guys any day of the week. My ex's face was slightly disfigured in an accident, but I still find him attractive enough to date because he put himself out there
Yeah i hope that something improves in the next few years and thanks for the reply 😊😊👍👍
You're bound to look different in the next couple of years. Guys usually hit the end of puberty in their early 20s, it's girls who stop in third teens
And you're welcome. I try to reply to as many people as I can to try and help out as well as keep the conversation going
yeah i hope so i will change lol i look childish for my age
Because I want to go out with a woman of specific race. Most women downtown is not black, which means I'll not date them.
I see, well I don't think people should be forced to date outside what they're attracted to, but it does seem to me that you may be a bit too picky for your city's demographic
I'm African-American so I think I should go date a black woman.
I would say date whoever you are attracted to, regardless of skin color.
@AlwaysBelieving Right, so I should date whoever I want. I'm not being racist.
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@AlwaysBelieving Did you just facepunch me? Why?
Fistbump dude. I need to keep reminding myself that G@G doesn't like different colored emojis
@AlwaysBelieving Okay. As a black man, I feel like I should go out with a black woman and if I don't then people may think I'm racist and think that most black women aren't attractive.
That's kind of screwed up if people think you're racist for not dating your own race. Screw society's judgement. If you're attracted to a girl of any race, she likes you, and you share compatibility, you should go for her despite what other people think about you
Yeah, but if I do that then, I'll feel like I letting my people down if I don't date black women if people believed that black women aren't attractive.
That's the problem with using race as a part of your identity. People are no more or less your people" based on skin color. You should only feel like you're letting someone down if they personally care about you as a person
Oh, makes sense. So, you're saying people should date whoever they want not because of skin color? Yeah, but some women who aren't black aren't attractive.
Yeah. If you're attracted to someone, it shouldn't matter what color skin they have. Haha. I can agree with that. There are attractive and unattractive people of every race, but I don't think anybody should be forced to date outside their racial preferences or only inside their own race if they like other races as well
Okay, that true. What is your race?
I'm American. My family is almost entirely German, but enough Irish squeezed in there to give me red hair lol. I might have some Russian and Polish in me as well
I've only dated one guy and he was a Slavic immigrant. In case you're wondering, i don't generally find myself attracted to guys with darker skin, but there are exceptions as is with all races (black, Mexican, Asian, Middle Eastern). I mainly look for personality in a guy (intelligence, good sense of humor, drawn to the macabre things in life, and confidence) and rarely find myself attracted to random strangers without getting to know them first. But I don't care what color a guy's skin is if I'm attracted to him
That's amazing. But, people are entitled to their own preferences.