If you know anything about dating then you know how hard it is to find someone you truly want, someone who has everything you want in a partner. Some guys can't seem to find such a person and settle for less, but others they seem to sleep around with a lot of women, end up with a pretty virgin when they choose to settle down, their woman always cooks for them and overall they seem quite wanted by most women, so why? What makes such guys so attractive and how come they end up with the kind of woman they want?
I will explain it according to what I myself do, what I see other guys doing and how all that affects your chances of getting the women you want (keep in mind not all women are the same, and this is not a 100% accurate dating guide since exceptions exist).
These men do not play by the rules, what do I mean by that? What are rules? These days there are unspoken rules. For example: if you want her, shower her with attention, if you sleep around she gets to sleep around too, if you want her to cook, cook for her too, men and women are equal and what applies to one applies to the other otherwise its double standards, except...
Such men do not care about such rules. If he wants to marry a virgin, he won't settle for a girl who had sex before even if he himself is not a virgin, sounds like an asshole? Double standards? Is he dreaming? Well then how come that same guy ends up with a virgin? I will tell you why. The girl's opinion is irrelevant to him as long as she is not a virgin, if she's a virgin then he starts caring about actually meeting her standards, as long as she is not then he won't give a crap what she has to say about him "breaking" the rules. The moment you ignore the shaming, the "it's double standards" and "she gets to have sex too" you will realize that you have no reason to even care, these women are not your target so why care what they think of your standards?
In short, set your own rules as long as they are realistic enough (asking for a virgin, who plays five instruments, is a straight A student, and a master chef is not realistic so keep it real), this is just one example I am sure not all men want virgins or care about that.
2. Being different
So what do most men do when they like a girl? Shower her with attention and compliments, make life easy for her, try to get close to her and stay "close", does it work? Well for some it does but for most men no not quite. So what do men that actually get women do?
They show enough interest to spark some kind of a reaction and then distance themselves. To some it's natural and normal, to others it's torture "why distance myself if I like her?" For me it's natural to be introverted and aloof. I literally couldn't care less if I had 10 girls around me or just 1 it makes no difference and I have no problem keeping a distance...
Such men, who can speak a reaction and disappear (Not literally just keep their distance) fare well with women, they message her a few times a day, every couple of days til things get more serious and they go on enough dates .... so why does it work? Because it allows women to feel safe that you're not all over them or "viciously" trying to get them. You're cool, laid back, you're not dangerous, you're not clingy, you're socially healthy and "normal" .
Okay I am not gonna lie some women just love money and if you have it you will be able to get such women. Of course not all women are like that and some actually have enough self respect to not throw themselves on every guy with a nice car/house even though it can be tempting for some.
4. Being nice
Do you have to be an asshole and super tough to get women? I don't think so. You need to have enough character to be able to say no and basically don't be a pushover. Being nice as in genuinely nice is a good quality. Don't be clingy though, just nice and respectful. Tease her but dont insult her, refuse to do her a favor that you feel is too "big" but do it nicely, kindly tell her you are not into something, no need to yell, hit her or be an asshole but being assertive is a must.
No matter how many women try to deny it looks are the number one reason a guy is actually noticed. The first thing women notice about you is looks. The reason some guys can cold approach and get numbers is because of the way they look and the reason some guys who are aloof and still manage to get a decent amount of attention is also due to looks. Of course most of the time you can't exactly change the way you look, but you can improve it, a sexy hair style, neat facial hair, good style and not too tight clothes (you'll look feminine ) is a good start. Smelling good is important as well.
P.S. keep in mind though, some men get lucky sometimes for no apparent reason. Maybe they have great game or the girl is simply in the mood, while others have a status so high that women are ready to fulfill anything they wish just to keep them around, such guys aren't common but they exist.