Dating a much older man can be heavily looked down upon in society. Being automatically stereotyped as a gold digger with only slabs of fresh candy meat and a rotten peanut-sized brain to offer? Well congrats to me, it happens. There's nothing I could do about it but to suck it (calm down, not dick) up and not give a fuck about what others think.
Let's just say my boyfriend and I are about a DECADE apart.
Before you scream in horror, I'd like to make a quick announcement in well... a desperate attempt to prove my innocence. Please bear with me.
Oh hi there, I am not a typical sugar baby. And nope, my boyfriend doesn't ever give me money and even if he offered, I'm definitely not accepting it. No, I am not saying this to show how fucking wonderful and special I must be, but as a form of disclaimer. Cheers.
Anyway, here are a few things I have learnt while dating my 32 year old boyfriend. On a sidenote, yes it doesn't apply to every men in their 30s. I'm just speaking from personal experience. :)
1. Sex is amazing
I get to call him "daddy" and be his little girl while he fucks me hard or plays with my assets. Also, the fact that he is highly intelligent and experienced(not necessarily in terms of sex) absolutely turns me on for some reason.
2. He is loyal
Once an exclusive relationship has been established with a high level of trust, he is committed. No cheating. No mind games to make me jealous whatsoever. No bullshit.
My man wants to settle down and get married to me someday. I realise I am not someone he's just looking to have fun with. I can't speak for all but it seems that men in their 30s make up their mind easily on who they want to marry and will tell you right away without a doubt within 6 months. Even better is the fact that he will go out of his way to tell his family members and friends about us.
4. They are sick of gold diggers
Blond hair, blue eyes, handsome and fit, my man has had many people asking what he works as and how much he earns. When we first met, my boyfriend was actually surprised that I was not at all curious about his finances and how I wasn't desperate to impress him. In fact, I remember I was making a huge fool out of myself by sending him a voice record - me pretending to be a grandpa with a deep low voice and talking random crap. My bored weirdo ass expected him to be creeped out and scoot away in disgust but to my amusement, he stayed.
5. A lot of arguments but we always make up
I used to think that having no arguments or fights at all in relationship meant the relationship was perfect and I always would fantasize for that. Now I have come to realise that fights are essential in relationship and there should always be open communication. My boyfriend doesn't mind calling me out on my bullshit every once in a while and despite the fact that I was upset about being confronted in the very beginning, I have learnt to look at it from a positive point of view. Without these fights, we would be bottling up our frustrations which would later reveal its toxicity. My older boyfriend has taught me to quit being sensitive and be open about our thoughts and feelings in our relationship.
My boyfriend likes to tell people to keep the change when buying food and riding cabs. Even when the change is quite big. He's very friendly with taxi drivers and restaurant owners. And I fucking love that.
7. Such a chivalrous gentleman
He opens doors for me. Of cars, malls, hotels. You name it. On a sidenote, I do not expect him to do so but I appreciate it.
Ps: I could go on and on but I can't continue for now. I'm literally in desperate need of a shower as I am frantically scratching my neck and knees from the itchiness after having spent the day out under the scorching sun. I don't even know why I decided to be so extra and write this unnecessary bit of what is happening in my life at the moment but I'll shut up now because I am an uncanny creature living in Asia. By the way, I don't eat dogs. oh yeah before I dash for a refreshing night shower, thank you for reading and feel free to shoot comments of any kind. Goodbye lovely humans!