This one is for everyone who is afraid of making the first step.
Yes I have been there and done that way too often.
1-Get your thinking correct.
Approaching someone isn’t the end of the world. It`s actually really awesome form you, to have the guts and do that. You have all my respect.
Think about all the great things that could happen, if this person says yes! Just imagine, once when you`re old you can tell your grandchildren, how you met. Like damn. You could do the whole How I met your mother shit lmao
I mean the worst thing that could happen is that this person says no. And then? Life won`t end. You won`t die. Honestly it won`t even matter in a week. Not at all. It will be just a No. Oops wrong person, wasn`t meant to be, moving on to someone who will be right. Life will go on.
Also if you had a crush for a long while, talk to this person and say how you feel! Better get it out instead of walking around through life wondering what could have been. Talk and get your answer and then either work towards something together or move on.
2-Make the step.
It doesn`t matter if you start talking to someone in a café or at the bus station or in school/work or in the club. There is no perfect timing or place to start talking to someone. Just do it.
Also don`t think much about it, just go for it and see where it leads you. Also trust me the first one is always the hardest, after getting used to how it works well to you, it won`t be hard to do. It`s so easy.
I tell you what I do nearly all the fucking time. I will touch his arm and say: “Hi I`m Melanie, I just wanted to say hey to you” they say hey back and you go on asking for they name and ask how they`re doing.
If there is a vibe, a conversation will start. You both will start talking and if you like the vibe you can ask for the number or the other person will do that. And well look at you, you did it!!
Sometimes there are people you don`t know what to say and it`s super awkward. In those moments I will be like “I have to go” and just go away. Because I personally don`t see a reason in talking to someone where you feel awkward or uncomfortable around.
Also it`s fine if you don`t talk to everyone you find attractive or interesting. But that doesn`t mean you should wait years wondering around. That means it`s fine if you see someone interesting and don`t talk and move on with your life. You missed your chance and it`s fine, move on.
There are so many freaking fishes in the ocean. And I believe there is not only one person who so right for you, but a few. It`s just hard to find that few fishes who will be right.
If it`s meant to be it will be. Doesn`t mean you will meet someone just by sitting around and wishing someone will talk to you first.
It means you talk to someone and see if you both vibe or not. If you get a rejection, then this wasn`t meant to be. Be glad that this person rejected you. This person was not right for you. Don`t hold on to someone who doesn`t want you. Go out and try to meet someone who wants you and meet someone who is right, where it was meant to be.
Cause you should be the first person in your life and you should love yourself as much as you can.