Today I'm dropping some black pills on looks and dating.
(First off I'm sure as people get older this is less of a thing but I'm coming at it from my perspective)
Think you don't judge a book by it's cover well YOU'RE WRONG. Looks are the initial impression of a person and maybe you aren't thinking about it but your subconscious is and it's been like this throughout history.
Propaganda and the media in general exploit this idea to dismiss an opposing side or convince themselves they are right.
Actions are even viewed through how you look, it's sexual harassment if a cave troll says you look good but flattering compliment if Casanova says the same thing, this article sums up an experiment of a fake tinder profile where the guy has terrible game saying the creepiest stuff but it's irrelevant.
But what about personality?
don't get me wrong a relationship can only last so long if personality is incompatible before it flies into the sun but why is that important if you can never get your foot in the door in the first place and your great sense of humour isn't going to do that.
Furthermore as shown above it would seem that even personality is based on attractiveness it's either that or people who are uglier actually do have worse personalities and I honestly kind of agree with this because I see it as a self-fulfilling prophecy. And this theory has data backing it up
It is generally thought more attractive people are viewed with open hearts and this preferential treatment affects their social lifes job opportunities and personality.
Discussing this study Dr Ellen Berscheid said "It is clearly a myth that 'Beauty is only skin deep' " and "Genetic determinism is anathema to Americans, who want to believe everyone is born equal, with an equal chance for a happy life,"
And remarking "It's simply not so. The most important factors governing success in life are genetically determined: appearance, intelligence, sex and height.''
I strongly advise everyone to read that article it also brings up interesting points about how babies are cared for may depend on looks and is an interesting read.
So the next time this guy says "just be confident bro" take it with a lunar-sized grain of salt.
Also a really good channel that shows and explains how looks can affect our perception is looks theory here's a video showing how skull shape determines who people are:
Thanks for the bad news, what now then?
I myself try not to be so judgmental but I think we all have a perception bias however NEVER think you are worthless because of your looks don't let society try to define what is good and what is bad. You don't need to do anything to be better than someone else or compre yourself to someone else at the end of the day are you trying to better yourself as a person physically and mentally and as long as you believe you are good don't let it phase you that others disagree.