Hey person reading myTake, I thought it would be nice to share some advice I was told by my parents to keep me in perspective of what a relationship is, which has benefitted me greatly.
The advice is never forget that you’re in a partnership when dating. I know that sounds a little obvious but you wouldn’t believe how many people I see in a relationship where there’s none. In order to be a healthy partnership, you need to remember that they’re human too. So if ever you get upset or annoyed, just remember we’re not perfect either. So instead of yelling and arguing just let them know. If the behaviour repeats, again and again. Then that’s definitely an issue, that you need to measure as of factor of whether its worth ending it or not. These issues can range from small annoyances to breaking the relationship kind.
For example, I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for two years, he’s unable to clean up after himself. As in she makes the food, cleans up after him with both dishes and laundry, and also still goes to work. This may not seem like such a abd thing at first, but after being together for two years, and he still hasen’t helped out. That’s a red flag. Major red flag. Her job isn’t to take care of her partner. If you know your girlfriend/boyfriend is still at work and it’s 6pm, take the initiative to make food for them, clean up the house. Do something nice, the little things are really the things that make you realize they are the one. Most people who love each other and want to promote the best their partner can be, will do this automatically. (There are exceptions but make sure your partner is the one).
For today that’s all I’m going to write but don’t forget you’re a team, remember that. There are no sides when arguing, just ways to improve each other.