Ugh, I hate women. They’re all soooo shallow. I’m ugly, short and broke and this woman rejected me today! Why do I ONLY attract ugly, short and broke females? Women are SO shallow...
Seriously. This is how some men look like when they insult female preferences. This is how pathetic and amusing they look to everyone else.
Well having said that, I’d just like to begin with saying that women have been more selective than men since the beginning of time. Women are indeed visual as well and choose the best looking mates they’re able to “land” as well. And this is because it has been highly beneficial to our evolutionary process. If a woman chooses the best possible mate, the chances of conceiving the best possible offspring are basically entirely in her and her future generation's favor.
It is nature. That is how our sexual preferences are designed. There are obviously variations, but they mostly are inclined to 5 specific traits.
You've probably heard of women turning down even the hottest guys out there. Women usually take into account a variety of factors when choosing a mate, and it does include physical attraction, but it isn't the only thing.
Below are some very important ones that we, as women, consider when evaluating a guy's attractiveness:
A guy becomes instantly more attractive if he is able to take care of himself by brushing his teeth, making sure he looks decent and in order, and smelling good.
Yep, I know how much some men would like to believe that women don’t care about your body and how it looks. But we do - immensely! Women are attracted to men who are at least physically fit. You don’t have to be muscular, but being in good shape is an indicator that you’re able to move around better, you’re able to make life an adventure. It shows a good decision making mental system. It’s a turn on!
Another one that triggers a lot of males, but it’s a universal fact that the vast majority of women prefer men who are taller than they are. Most men are also taller than women, so when I hear some of my fellow males complain about being rejected “because they’re too short”, I ask them - would you date a fat girl with yellow teeth and smelly hairy armpits? Exactly.
We’ve been constantly bombarded with the fact that confidence is one of the major ways to attract women, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only factor we take into account. This also applies to women who want to seem more attractive. Confidence is an extremely attractive trait on both men and women. Being confident includes being humble, so it isn’t about acting superior. Being cocky is actually a surefire way to turn a woman completely off.
NOTE: Being confident isn’t the same as being outgoing. An introverted male can be very confident, and he radiates it. People feel it. It’s a vibe.
The man in the picture above is not the most handsome man in the world (and certainly above average in terms of looks), but his demeanor signals genuine confidence, and it instantly makes him more attractive.
Lastly, one of the most important things we find attractive in a man (these are all the top traits we notice!) is stamina. When I say this, I mean that you're able to defend yourself, whether it's verbally (able to use wit, but doesn't make a fool of himself), or physically (is able to protect himself and his woman if there's an obvious physical threat). Also his stamina in bed (in my opinion, most women like to be dominated - NOT treated badly - in bed. It makes us feel very feminine. It's simply attractive).
Now, this all needs to be measured. There needs to be a good reason to use his stamina (or "balls"), and he needs to be careful to not use it at the expense of his dignity. Some guys go too far, and end up using violence and aggression at an extreme level. This isn't attractive at all. It isn't masculine - it's childish.
Stamina also includes being able to choose the right women. Just because a guy is able to attract lots of women doesn't mean he should sleep with all of them. Au contraire, females find it highly unattractive if the guy on demand isn't selective. If he has many options, him being carefully selective is an immediate turn-on.
These are the 5 things women generally find incredibly attractive. If you have all 5, you're ultimately able to actually choose which woman you want. Choose wisely. Good looks aren't everything. <3