It’s popular to believe that some other guy is getting all the girls on Tinder if you are a guy that uses Tinder, because, well because the app doesn’t necessarily work as advertised (for men).
See my other take on the results of a fake Tinder profile using a hot guy’s photos.
The match rate is still below 10% for a hot guy. Compared to the 0.5% match rate for an average guy.
The match rate for a hot girl, on the other hand, is 83%.
So what is going on here? How is it that women are getting so many matches but even the hot guys aren’t getting a lot of matches? Wouldn’t it be that all the girls are matching with the same guys?!? Actually, no.
Here’s an alternative that I think could actually be true.
A large majority of the men are swiping right on all the same women, but all the same women are not swiping right on all the same men. That’s what’s actually going on.
Male Tinder users swipe and pray. Indiscriminately liking nearly all the female profiles before them (and they may genuinely feel attraction for 80% of all women on earth (very likely imo)). But the girls do not reciprocate this, nor do they all zone in on a few 10% or 20% of hot men.
Rather, they go after what they like. Which seems sporadic and seemingly different for every girl. We know this because the hot guy isn’t getting all the matches. He’s down below 10%!
Sure he’s 15x more likely to get a match than an average guy, but 7.5% match rate is nothing. And, the normal average guy was 20% more likely to receive a response to his message than the hot guy.
And sure, hot guy receives more sheer messages simply because he has more women matches to try and talk too. Some men might prefer having more options. Some men might prefer fewer, but more high quality connections.
This just about busts the 80/20 hookup culture theory. But, ya know. People want to see a hotter guy with a shirtless profile photo and see how he stacks up. I’ll be on the lookout for that in order to settle this thing once and for all, and to find out for sure if it’s true or not true that some few guys are getting all the girls. Because maybe this fake profile just wasn’t hot enough (but it’s doubtful, though possible).