How To Get Girls If You Aren't Attractive

[Avicenna]

Even guys who are shouldn't just rely on their looks, but this Take is oriented toward the guys who women generally don't find all that attractive. Never fear- all is not lost. There are some things you can do to improve your chances and even make yourself more of a catch than conventionally attractive guys.

1. Learn to Dance

This makes a big difference and will make you more attractive in the eyes of lots of women. You can take charge and approach her when the music starts playing at a wedding, some other event, or at a club, and make a powerful impression.

I'd recommend salsa in particular, but two step and the waltz are also good for beginners. Note that in some communities, you can dance with an acquaintance or relative even if she is in a relationship and it's perfectly OK (Latinas, for example), and that is a good way to get other girls to notice you. It is also easier for lots of guys to ask a girl to dance than to initially carry a conversation.

2. Lift Weights and Do Cardio

Yeah, girls notice a guy's body and it's something you can change more easily than your face (which will also look better once you've lost weight).

As well as building confidence and making your body more attractive, you may also find yourself getting noticed by a potential girlfriend while you're exercising.

3. Be Funny And/or a Good Conversationalist

Yeah, guys who are naturally funny are often more skilled at getting girls than ones who are merely attractive. So what do you do if you aren't funny or your sense of humor doesn't match the one that prevails locally? Practice to find out what gains and holds girls' attention. Trial and error is a perfectly acceptable method for that. Just be sure to do it on the fly and not plan your lines.

You also get a girl's attention if you speak her language imperfectly, so don't be afraid to hit on girls if you aren't anywhere near fluent. She'll be glad to help you improve and you'll have her attention while she does that.

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Those are just a few things that everyone can do to up their game and improve their chances of landing a girlfriend IRL.

[Physics-Man]

I don't know how to dance. I practice 6 martial arts and workout 3 times a week. My friends have always told me that I'm a funny guy and that I talk about very interesting topics. I'm an expert shot in the Army qualification tests. I get top company scores in the Push-up and Sit-up events of the APFT. I get super fast times on the Gunner's exam for the 60mm mortar. male friends in the Army tell me that I'm a 7 or an 8 in looks and that I'm an intellectual too. I make $60,000 a year. I'm amember of 3 honors societies and have 3 AA degrees. I speak 5 languages decently. I've still never had a date or lost my virginity. I doubt dancing is all I need!

[Physics-Man]

I doubt getting a PhD, passing sniper school, obtaining a 400 on the APFT, becoming a Green Beret, speaking 10 languages, or making $100,000 a year is going to attract a girl's attention. I'm thinking about going to Asia to find love over there.

[Avicenna]

Well, I think you will find greener pastures in Asia (I recommend Vietnam in particular), but I don't understand why you haven't even had a date. Makes no sense to me.

[Physics-Man]

Thank you your help; I greatly appreciate it. It's nice knowing someone cares.

Why would you recommend Vietnam in particular?

[Avicenna]

I had a Vietnamese girlfriend and visited there. Very lovely women and hardworking as well. The country is really prioritizing education, so it's got a great future.

[VianneRoscher]

For some reason I just don't believe you 😂

[Avicenna]

@VianneRoscher: Which one of us?

[cavmanier]

"I had a Vietnamese girlfriend and visited there" sounds like you had a Vietnamese girl where you live and then took a vacation to Vietnam. I hate how people are not clear when they write 😂 it's not just you though of course.

[kk430]

I had more than one boyfriend planning to go military and it was one of the reasons they're both ex's. Many girls try to steer clear of military guys because of the difficulty of military wife.

[Avicenna]

@kk430: That's probably balanced by the ones who are more interested because he's military.

[VianneRoscher]

I was telling that to Physics-Man))

[Avicenna]

@VianneRoscher: I was also surprised, but why would he say that if it weren't true?

[Physics-Man]

@VianneRoscher

Say what if it wasn't true? My accomplishments or that I'm a dateless 30 year old virgin?

Let me go over what I said...

I have an advanced green belt in Seidojuku karate, a green sash in Kung Fu SanSoo, a yellow belt in Hapkido, an orange belt in Judo, a 2-stripe white belt in BJJ, and 7 months of Muay Thai.

I work 3 jobs. My employers are G4S (Full-time: 48 hours per week, $20 per hour), National Cinema Security (On-Call: work twice a month, $19 per hour), and Guard Source Security (On-call: $16 per hour, work once in awhile). I'm also in the California Army National Guard. My unit is 1st Battalion, 160th Infantry Regiment, B Co. I'm a Specialist in rank. I make between $55,000 to $65,000 a year.

I usually score above 35/40 on the Rifle marksmanship test with the M4 Carbine. This doesn't make me the best obviously.

I speak Spanish and English fluently. I speak Japanese at an intermediate level; I know about 500 Kanji and know all my Hiragana and Katakana. I speak Portuguese and Italian decently.

I have 111 push-ups and 95 Sit-ups for the APFT; the highest in the Company. My run isn't very good though.

I regularly score expert on the Gunner's exam for the mortar system (90%-100%).

I have 3 AA degrees because I've been in college for a decade. I completed them last year. They're in Social and behavioral Sciences, physical and natural Sciences, and humanities. By the time I transfer, I should have another 3 in Pre-Engineering, Mathematics, and Physics.

I'm an inducted member of Phi Theta Kappa, and Alpha Gamma Sigma. I'm a Pre-Inductee of Sigma Alpha Pi; I just need to complete my essay requirements.

There's no way to show that I work out 3 times a week or what my friends have said about me or my looks unfortunately.

There's no reason for me to lie about being a virgin or being dateless.

[VianneRoscher]

I just wouldn't ever think that (first of all) a man who has accomplished so many things would have a profile on such an app (not trying to insult all those who actually do, including me 😅) and (secondly) I wouldn't think that a man who has accomplished so many things would end up a virgin in his 30s. BUT, reading your reply, maybe me think you're so busy that maybe you didn't even have time for something else. And another observation was that, maybe sex wasn't something that interested you all these years, so you just didn't go out of your way to get it.

[Physics-Man]

Thanks for MHO.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

Maybe stop writing paragraphs about how awesome you are and try talking to women from a place of genuine interest.

If you have female friends you'll be much more likely to date a woman. Just saying.

[Massageman]

Maybe you can open an MMA studio for women only. The you would be able to take your pick of the students: they would all have to admire their teacher!

[Alopit]

It's all about personality, man. And you're honestly a really good catch, it's all about the community and your social circle. Join groups on facebook, a community of like-minded individuals, a religious place, somewhere. But don't jump into a relationship out of desperation like freakin' Vietnam.. I'm Asian myself and personally, a LOT of vietnamese girls only go to guys for money & they're more or less that of a sugar daddy relationship. Trust me you can do SO much better. Don't ever settle for less, you got this my dude. And also, even though you hone a lot of these skills, don't brag about it upfront as it'll just a turn off to girls. You sound very confident through your message but the way you deliver it is EXTREMELY important to girls. Google how to talk to girls, start off with humouring them and entertaining and be a respectable gentleman, not jump straight into the nitty gritty because while the Army is direct and blunt, girls aren't. And if anything, you could end up offending them. Just a bit of words of advice from someone who left the army a few years ago too.

[Avicenna]

@Alopit: Although that's good advice regarding presenting himself, I wouldn't assume that he presents himself to women in person the exact same way he answered me.
Gold diggers can be found everywhere, and it is usually obvious when they are.

[doyuevencarry]

Do you even talk to girls? It's very simple...

[pizzalovershouse]

what works is not always working for all

[pizzalovershouse]

thanks for mho6

[pizzalovershouse]

I don't mean the 6 part sorry

[AmandaYVR]

I like it, Avicenna. Nice job. Not as long as many mytakes, but I think you said what you needed to say and it's a nice, workable list for guys to follow. Use them together, and it's like a one-two-three punch, an attainable trifecta of dating. (I'd say with heavy emphasis on 'words'. You can attract them, get them to say yes to a dance, and theeen you've got to keep them with your words. Easy peasy, right?

[Avicenna]

I definitely agree with you.

[Gstacy703]

Overall a sense of humour is what wins girls over I think lol😂😂

[Legendhardon]

Mmmmoooyeah😂😂

[Joshyjay95]

I have a huge sense of humor and average looking and most girls will choose the fuckboy over me.

[ElissaDido]

I don't care about the dancing part but yes working out and being a good conversationalist is good help.

[CubsterShura]

Two more things that could help: Learn singing, bonus if you can play a musical instrument. I remember this nerd guy from our school singing on stage and all the girls were acting like they saw a completely different person on stage and everyone was super impressed.

Be social. Without socializing you can't get a girl. And don't just talk to girls to get a date. Make platonic female friends too! If you have female friends that trust you and share their feelings with you, overtime you will learn to understand women better and increase your chances of getting a girlfriend.

[Avicenna]

Excellent suggestions, especially the singing. I do think it's much easier to learn to dance, which is why I didn't add singing, but it's still a great idea.
I do think it's good to have platonic female friends, but it's a different communication and approach.

[CubsterShura]

Yeah but it can help increase your wisdom, comfort and confidence around the opposite gender.

[Avicenna]

That's true, and that's something I urge guys to do if they don't have enough experience. I just don't want guys to conflate the two that much. For example, buying your platonic female friend a present will be quite different than what you do for a romantic partner.

[CubsterShura]

Definitely. They have to know the difference, but it can still help. I have a guy friend who talks like he could write a book on how to read women's minds, in reality he is just very close with his sister and has a lot of his own female friends plus he's the one chaperoning his sister when she goes to see her friends and that ways he gets to be around girls a lot.

[Avicenna]

Interesting perspective, and I think that will certainly help guys.

[jss123]

It doesn't really work if you're not attractive. I workout a lot, I'm apparently really funny and a nice person but they still go for the bad boys. The only compliment I've ever got is I've got a big penis.. You can't exactly show that off to attractwwomen can you like women do with their breasts. I'd get arrested lol.

[Avicenna]

Being attractive helps a lot, we know that already. But I have seen lots if guys lits of women don't consider attractive land girls and gave other guys snickering about them. It can be done.

[SarahsSummer]

I concur. All of the above OR interesting/knowledgable

[Avicenna]

Yeah, I also meant that under being a good conversationalist

[kk430]

I had more than one boyfriend planning to go military and it was one of the reasons they're both ex's. Many girls try to steer clear of military guys because of the difficulty of military wife.

[kk430]

(Sorry this was meant to be a reply to someone else)

[Massageman]

Good ideas. Also might consider learning to play an instrument- piano or guitar might be helpful. Especially around the holidays.

[Avicenna]

Excellent suggestion, especially given how much women love musicians.

[ChiTown33]

I love 3 because it is the biggest lie ever sold. Chris Farley couldn't get a woman to save his life and he was famous.

[Avicenna]

I've seen it work got some guys

[Avicenna]

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[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

What the hell are you talking about? Chris Farley got laid all the time. One of the most reliable testimonies to the final days of his life was told to press by a fucking call girl he hung out with.

[ChiTown33]

@Grande_Beefy_Swirl getting laid isn't that hard. And you've never hears of "starf*cking". Also i'll take rhw word if his friends vs. Some silly girl on tne internet.

[alice55]

Be confident, have humor, have ambition and be able to make good conversation. This is what girls like in my country. They often date guys they find unattractive here.

[Nik1hil]

Be rich, dominating with high social status...
And if you can say the right words.. At right time to her..
Than you get any women even if you have a 4"inches or less..

[zagor]

And I thought this was going to involve a stun gun and ropes...

[Avicenna]

Nope, sorry!

[lsjr16]

You might be on to something cause I can dance but I am skinny I lifted weights for a month and a lot girls start talking to me

[Avicenna]

Sounds about right to me. Good job!

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

"Funny" is EASILY the sexist trait among men.
I don't think I can be with someone who doesn't make me laugh.

[ChiTown33]

Yeah but that's not hard to do when you like someone. a lot of women say erroneously say being funny when the simple fact is if he's attractive and showing interest in her she's already smiling. Really all it means is just not being devoid of a personality.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

Lmao i think you have some weird ideas about what people find attractive. Particularly women.

[ChiTown33]

You're a 21 yr. Old girl sweetie most your age don't think anything for longer than 3 seconds. You're like goldfish.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

You would know, right? You're the expert on women here, I'm sure.

[ChiTown33]

About as expert as they get. But hey your 21. You already know everything.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

Pretty sure I know more about women than your crusty ass.

[ChiTown33]

🤣🤣🤣

[Mooddie]

The third point is very true... ladies have cheated because the guy is funny..
Nice piece 👌

[kespethdude]

None of these work in most cities. Here's more useful steps 4 and 5:

4: WIn the lottery. or
5: Give up.

[Avicenna]

It's not that bad. Just don't expect models and you'll be fine.

[ohayoo]

Well, you basically need charisma and not the worst looks, also have game

[RedThread]

Confidence and a sense of humor.

[Gottabsavagee]

I think you have to be a good talker

[moviedude714]

It's a behavioral transformation

[bamesjond0069]

Go for ugly girls? That would work too.

[apple24]

Just tell me I’m pretty

[Mooddie]

Is that all... lol.
You are pretty

[Legendhardon]

Mmmmoooyeah i wish most girls were like you.

[Avicenna]

@Legendhardon: For real

[Legendhardon]

😂 did you nean it in a bad way ir good way? I meant it in a good polite way

[Avicenna]

@Legendhardon: I did mean it positively