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Didn't read. Your complaints are worth less than nothing. You know since online dating works for women and doesn't for men. Any point made by you here is valueless and meaningless.
You want to complain about online dating, set up a profile as an average looking dude. I mean a truly average dude, not what you feel is average. Do some actual research and see how annoying it really is on the other side.
I think it's unfair for you to belittle this take just because "women has it easier on dating apps". She's not trying to unilaterally complain about what annoys her on dating apps, but rather giving her view on a matter on which she already asked the other side's view.
I think you should actually take it as a chance to have an insight of a women's experience on those apps and not as a list of "what-not-to-do"
I agree with you, men's experience on dating app is terrible and often humiliating and infuriating, but I think that belittling this take as "worthless complaints" just becouse of that is plain rude
dude I am a woman and NEVER had luck with dating sites.. and I am not butt ugly.. men are just as picky.
@MissLlyn and yet, your life is easy mode compared to the lives of even attractive men.
Do explain?
@MissLlyn There's really no reason to. You won't understand let alone be able to comprehend the simplicity of life as a female in comparison to the difficulties of life as a male. Such is the plight of the privileged
Ok incel detected. Yawn
@MissLlyn Incel? Lol, I have like 3 women hitting on me everywhere I'm a regular. Incel my ass.
You're just too damn immature to understand your privilege.
They must be desperate or you're hiding your true colors.
@MissLlyn Or, I'm secure in myself and my education and experience.
or hey, maybe in an alternate universe maybe you're right. Then again maybe in that universe Hitler cured cancer. Who knows since it's your fantasy.
😂 ... right. Thanks for the screen cap material.
@MissLlyn Be sure to tell your loser friends about how communism works it just hasn't ever been truly applied or that women are more mature than men.
Hmm only a very kind of women so go on them shallow dating sites, afterall you never find a good guy online, online is for superficial people who don't even bother , smiling at the guy beside them in a bus or at the grocery, while sitting with there nose deep into there mobile, and never notice the gold in front of them
99% of online daters lie so nobody is going to take anything you post on a dating site seriously. Add on that how, as you noticed, women gets ton of attention on those sites. That means the guys don’t have time to care. It’s more like they’re tossing worns on a line into a lake. You don’t need to study each fish to go fishing.
And no, I don’t do online dating.
I've always left"in my opinion" nice lengthy messages I've joined... I don't know how many dating sites this past 6 months and I haven't gotten so much as a phone number it's the first time I've been online for many years and I didn't think it was possible to meet anyone from the internet turns out I've been right so far if you have any tips or info on sites I really do eather need them or need to text with you about them please I've been lonely to long
Have you ever matched someone and the saw something in their profile that instantly turned you off? If yes what do you usually do?
What do YOU normally do?
@On_cloud_wine normally I’ll unmatch asap. Seems mean but I don’t want to give them any hope. It’s better than having them message me and just ignoring them. The latter is more rude in my experience.
I thought you said it’s best to be assertive. Why ignore them?
@On_cloud_wine no I said unmatch them immediately before messaging. Don’t create any false hope of you accidentally swiped someone.
Do you want me just to say “hey I matched by accident. I didn’t realize you are fat. But but best of luck!” Nah. That would be cruel. Better to cut it off immediately.
“Hey I matched by accident” would suffice.
@On_cloud_wine I’ve had girls say that to me in the past. Bit insulting tbh. They are flat out telling me that I’m not attractive to them.
Nah better to unmatch BEFORE any conversation starts.
I’d feel relieved.. less work on my part.. just helps narrow down to your potential mate.
Do you not believe in soul mates?
@On_cloud_wine I once did. But the woman I thought was my soul mate literally told me “your an ex tough luck” and MEANT IT after went through a horrifying situation years ago. I accepted her wanting to break up as the best thing at the time. But not a molecule in my body predicted her treating me like that.
So the answer is no. I don’t believe in soul mates.
I don’t understand what your ex girlfriend meant by that...
And I’m sorry you don’t believe in soul mates.
Anything political or racist would be #1. Men being overly romantic... chill dude you aren't Gomez Adams? 🤣🤣
I wish dating apps would ban all political statements on profiles. I’m sure you don’t agree with it. But it’s so much complicated than people oversimplify it as
Honestly, women haze zero clue.
The choice for me was to date online or to give up on women. Entirely, never have children and be celibate the rest if my life.
I would rather die, litteraly die then ever use online dating again.
I would prefer to be doused with gasoline and lit on fire then destroy my self esteem online.
This probably (hopefully?) isn't common, but I was chatting with a guy who kept saying he wanted to meet for coffee. We had a date and time planned, but he wouldn't tell me the place. When I asked where to meet him, he just kept naming a city. Ummm... there are like 15 coffee houses in that city. I stopped asking for details, and he never said anything else. Weird...
The girls that message first are usually hookers or scammers just fyi. Some of them will message back and forth a few times before asking for a number. The other common hint is you'll match up then the next day get a message saying hey I don't get on here often, do you have snapchat or they will just request your number. This happened the other day and I said no give me your number and i'll message you, she refused and I reported her.
Totally spot on from my experience and my observations of female friends... its either full of horny men or scammers pretending to be women which doesn't help either side!
Perhaps the old fashioned ways are the best! :D
Your picture reminds me of a photo I put on line. It's a good 20years ago. You were either male or female. There were no bits in-between. So at the time I was passing as female. I was working my way up to being allowed to have the op.
I love corsets this one was a blood red. Pulled in gave me a great waist and pushed out my boobs.
But getting back to what you said . I thought I could have va great time, I mainly wanted to talk to girls. But all I got was guys being a pain..
I do appreciate the unsolicited messages I get from girls on OKCupid. But you just have to understand that while I'm attracted to many types of women, I'm not attracted to ALL women. So most of the time I decline politely. I do respect them for reaching out, though.
Good take. To me online dating itself is the nuisance. I'll tall and fit, but otherwise Joe Average. I get lost in the crowd, and most women pass me by looking for a Chad or Tyrone face. Instead I cold call in real life. I might strike out 80% to 90% of the time, but at least we both get a more real picture of each other that we do online.
The way I see it what's the point of the guy writing a lot of info about themselves if they end up not being able to actually talk to you. Girls and guys that respond with hey or hello do that to start a conversation.
saying hey is easier and takes less effort which is better for guys, you never know it could be your soulmate saying hey, and you just brush him off like that, chance lost, destiny shattered
Thanks for the support, Natalie. :)
After looking at your pic, I'd probably make "Nice tits!" my opening line. How would that work?
Oh! That's right! We're not supposed to notice.
Silly me. ;-)
Can't say I have any problems with this take at all really. If I were really nit picking, it'd have to be at the first point. Greetings can only go so far. Though I understand the most minimal effort first messages that are literally one word.
Good take.
Nobody has time to write romance novels. Us guys go on dating sites to fuck. As simple as that. And also, you are a stranger remember? You can't write long sentances to someone you never met before in your life. You gotta test the watters first.
I've mentioned things in their profile before. It works marginally. better, but inwant to say they are morenenthused about having a nice conversation then actually meeting up. So it's probably. more. of a. waste of time.
@red324 Indeed man. It's unreasonable to think that anything less than "Hey." is unacceptable. Most women just crave attention.
Dating Site are made for women
Point one: women only look for a certain type of man.
Point Two: he has to a alpha male or dominant man, can't just a Man who want to get know you for who you're.
Point three: just get pass what's your snapchat or show your boobs or cock pic guys
Point four : Real Men like myself are out there.
Man, getting fucktons of attention, wow gee. Poor females. That must be rough.
Nobody is going to write you a love letter just to be ignored.
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