The Stripper Mentality Is Running Rampant

[fashionguy17]

A post shared by Suki With The Good Coochie (@sukihanagoat) on Oct 2, 2020 at 7:18pm PDT

This myTake is in reference to the video see above. Click that link, watch it, read the comments and then read this myTake.

My life is so busy, so I barely participate on GAG; HOWEVER, this is something that has caught my attention lately. I'll be 30 next month... and as a I get older, I really start to care less and less what those are doing around me. Yet, this is something I would like to discuss. It's just something I notice more and more from this younger generation.

When I was in my in my early 20s, I used to spend time in strip clubs. What I noticed about strippers is that they all have the same mentality about money and men. You are only a good man if you can pay their bills. When I used to go strip clubs, women would literally ask me to pay their light bills, their car note, their rent... you name it. When I would refuse, they would get upset and call me a "useless" and "cheap" man and call me "broke".

As I got older and became more confident with myself and started becoming better with women, I noticed that a lot of women have that stripper mentality. In fact, it seems to be ingrained in the rap/hiphop community.

What is that mentality? The mentality is... if you, a man, are with a woman, you are supposed to want to pay her bills and spoil her. Even if she doesn't need help, you as a man, should offer to pay her bills because that's what men do. If you don't offer to pay her bills or spoil her with gifts, you are a useless man. This kind of mentality is running rampant all over the place.

While I don't have a social media account of my own, I run social media account for some of clients... and some of the stuff I see from women is crazy. I see women saying things like, "don't talk to me, unless you have money for me" or "if you're not paying my bills, we have nothing to talk about" or "the quickest way to my heart is to pay my bills". Hell... I remember asking a girl on a date before and she asked me, "oh, are you going to pay my bills also?"

Maybe I was raised differently, but I never liked women who asked me to pay their bills or expected me to spoil them right off the bat. Maybe I'm just a different type of man. Hell... maybe I'm the one in the wrong?

I am a man who has his own money, so I expect a woman to have her own money. I always found it attractive when a woman didn't expect anything from me at all and can pay her own way. I would NEVER pay a woman's bills, especially if we are not married and there is no real commitment. If you are not married to the woman, you shouldn't be paying their bills.

I also don't spoil women. I may buy you a gift here and there, but you need to earn it. I am not going to go to the store and buy you a gucci bag and hundreds of dollars worth of clothing. That is what these women mean by "spoiling them". If you want me to spoil you, I will give you flowers to show I appreciate you. I will take you to your favorite restaurant if you get a promotion at work. I will go all out for you on your birthday and make it the best birthday you ever had. But, I am not going to "spoil" you with expensive gifts every week.

Basically, in that video, it was alarming to me to see how many women agreed with her. I feel like today women expect a lot from men, but they don't want to put in a lot of effort. There is more to life than "sucking" and "fucking" and you should not expect a man to pay your bills if you "suck" and "fuck" him. That's prostitution. Not indepence. If you want and expect a man to pay your bills and spoil you, you are not independent.

A relationship should be about the time you spend together. A man and woman should be equal and partners. You are a TEAM. That seems to be forgotten in today's generation. If you don't bring nothing to the table, expect good sex... you shouldn't expect anything. Have some morals. Have some respect for yourself.

[ExplodingToad]

If you're going to strip clubs to try to find women to date, I assume you're not going there for their minds. You're going there for shallow reasons, looks. In return they treat you in a shallow way as well. No surprises there. I've never dated a woman like the ones you're describing. I know they are out there, but it hasn't been an issue for me. Perhaps because I meet the women I date due to shared hobbies and interests. If I get my girlfriend a gift it's because it made me think of her and I wanted to see her smile. Not some weird transactional thing.

I agree with you that the attitude you're describing isn't healthy, but I don't think it's as prevalent as you seem to. It's also very much related to women objectifying men in a similar way that they themselves have been objectified. It's a "if I'm going to be treated like a sex object either way, then I might as well use it to my advantage." It's sad and not healthy, but understandable in a way.

To be fair too, there are plenty of men who are also dead weights or financial vampires in their relationships. I've known women who are with men who don't deserve them.

[Silverio_Stieger]

Ok, didn't watch the video. And for real just read 1st third part of your speech. But, I think you just had bad luck with strippers. I have almost 37, began to go to strip clubs at 18 and continue to go sometimes (I now live in France and here you have much less strip clubs than in Mexico, where I came from). Every time (except one time) I gone there was great and never had your "pay my bills" problem. NEVER. Here in France it's quite different. You have a 75% of the chicks who only think about "pay me more drinks, but you'll have barely nothing in exchange from me" and a little 25% who'll be simply fine with what you'll want to give them.

[MzAsh]

Are you serious with this? Lol! What do you expect from women at a strip club? Did you honestly expect anything else? Men go there to see women as sex objects. Women see men who frequent strip clubs as money objects. I find it funny that you are so offended by this. Seems like a rather even exchange to me. If you want a relationship with an independent woman who sees you as a person and not just a wallet then you quit going to strip clubs first! YOU gotta earn it!

[likelyOK]

I don’t think most women are like that but their are some.

[wankiam]

maybe you personally had a sheltered life but stats show that this generation are the least permiscuous in recent decades plus i would also mention that its supply and demand so yes girls may see stripping as a career but its men that are paying so we can't just attribute the trade to one gender... a good mytake though and im pleased you didn't do what so many others do and use a question format instead to tell us all exactly how they see it

[Lochlan]

Yikes! That is a ratchet dame. Hahaha. There's a certain breed of women that are "extortion artist hustlers" that want to be "spoiled". A lot of them are implicated in a culture where the males devalue women, there's a deficit of good role models, and a prevalence of vain ambitions. There's certainly some popularization in social media but I feel like that's more to do with the nerds' tools having become more palatable and accessible.

[Unit1]

We call them whores and yeah, they exist. Sadly.
They're using men for money. I stay the hell away from these bitches. Too bad simps won't stop simping.

If money is gonna be spent, make it at least worthwhile or just hire a prostitute.

[IlluminatiExposed]

What you call "stripper mentality" other folks might call "traditional gender roles".

Feminism is looking better now isn't it?

[honestGUY45]

She's not funny, entertaining or intelligent. I wouldn't do anything with that nasty trick, even if she paid me.

[Anonymous]

Haha yeah this is common the uh "rap/hiphop" community as you put it.

[Anonymous]

You are correct Sir