I disagree with that. Most times mixed signals are just invalid perception. If you're not sure ask. Get clarification directly from the source so you remain on the same page and then mix signals don't exist. I'm not saying it works out every single time but it definitely does more often than not
Sure an example would be your partner has a bad day and seems very disengaged and your perception is that they're simply not interested in you which is just not the case. Ask them about it let them vent let them talk it out so you can get back on the same page.
True, but with a partner I’d say it’s a little different, because they’re already with you, and you both probably already feel more comfortable asking those things. I’m talking more about the initial stages of dating where people are playing guessing games.
Being direct is good, but you can’t always trust that they’re being honest with you. In the initial stages people will often tell you what you want to hear, especially if they’re trying to string you along or you’re just a one of a few options to them rather than the main person they want. Their behaviour tells you more about their intentions or their interest level than anything else.
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That's one way to look at it
It’s the best way. If you move on whenever you get mixed signals you’ll save yourself a lot of wasted time, frustration and game playing.
I disagree with that.
Most times mixed signals are just invalid perception. If you're not sure ask. Get clarification directly from the source so you remain on the same page and then mix signals don't exist.
I'm not saying it works out every single time but it definitely does more often than not
What do you mean by invalid perception? Do you have an example?
Sure an example would be your partner has a bad day and seems very disengaged and your perception is that they're simply not interested in you which is just not the case.
Ask them about it let them vent let them talk it out so you can get back on the same page.
Shit like this happens all the time
True, but with a partner I’d say it’s a little different, because they’re already with you, and you both probably already feel more comfortable asking those things. I’m talking more about the initial stages of dating where people are playing guessing games.
Being direct is good, but you can’t always trust that they’re being honest with you. In the initial stages people will often tell you what you want to hear, especially if they’re trying to string you along or you’re just a one of a few options to them rather than the main person they want. Their behaviour tells you more about their intentions or their interest level than anything else.
I disagree.
But whatever works for you
Mixed signals are manipulation