So recently I have been noticing a lot of takes on "How To Make A Girl Like You" and "How to make the girl you like approach you", the thing is, these takes aren't going to get you anywhere. I'm a girl, and have had to approach guys I have liked since I didn't want to play the waiting game with them anymore. I have also been approached a lot, and can tell you from a picky girls stand point, what is good and what isn't. I know from experience it is very hard to ask someone out, or even to admit to your feelings. So I hope you enjoy my take on this.
Show Her You're Interested, Without Saying It
I know a lot of times its hard to show someone that you like them, but this is a great thing to do before the big leap. By this I mean give her more attention than the rest of the people you talk to. Listen to her when she's talking to you, and give a decent response back to her to show that you are paying attention. Look her in the eyes when you two speak, smile at her when you don't know what to say, look at her from across the room. With girls, we all notice the little things that people do and read body language pretty easily. It's the things we go to our friends and say "omg does he like me? he did ____". Us girls analyze every action a guy makes and try to find the hidden messages within it. So remember your body language and how you converse with us makes a big impact.
Read her In-Person Body Language
Don't worry about how she is with you over the phone or social media. People can be much different depending what medium you are conversing through. Read her body language towards you in person, it gives you the best results. Does she smile at you when you talk? Shuffle her feet or seem nervous? Look away when you speak or get a bit mummbly? Or maybe do some quirky things when you are talking (aka. touch her hair a lot, or play with things that are near her). These are all different signs of how she is around you. Now compare these to how she acts around her friends or others she talks to. If they are different, she might potentially have feelings for you.
Be Yourself
When you tell someone you like them, don't over analyze how you are going to approach them. Thinking too much over it just leads you to be stressed and nervous. Remember to be true to yourself, and to stick to it. What other people might tell you to do, might not be what you really are into. If you have a great idea, or think of something quirky to say when you say how you feel, DO IT!
Rely On Your Gut Feelings
If you gut feeling is to do something, chances are its the best option to go with. If your gut is telling you its not the best time to pull a move, chances are it's right. Always trust your gut and never rush into a situation like this just to get it done and over with. You may regret it later and wish you would have waited a bit longer.
Get Her Alone To Tell Her How You Feel
The best results are always in person. It's difficult for a reason. Hiding behind a screen to say your feelings is much easier than to actually have to say them to the person you like. Keep it old fashioned, us girls love it. Even if you are nervous or feel a bit awkward, the fact that you did it in person gives you many brownie points. Most people don't do this, and it shows you actually care about the other person a lot to make a move in person. Texting your feelings is comparing it to a high school relationship, doing it in person is a more grown-up approach. It also shows you are confident, and confidence is a big thing a lot of girls appreciate. Keep where you go as simple as possible. Ask her out to dinner, or ask if she'd like to hit up a new restaurant in the area. Keep it casual and laid back.
Be Confident
Be as confident about the situation as you can. You got this, and you know it. Wear your favorite shirt, play your favorite songs before you meet up with her. Keep that lucky rabbits foot on your keys if you have to. Just know that you have to tell her how you feel at one point in your meet up, and just get to know her during the rest of the time and enjoy yourself. You got her all to yourself, and enjoy the time you are having together. I suggest telling her before she leaves how you feel, because it is a better way to end the time.
Telling Her
When you tell her how you feel, keep it simple, and stay true to how you feel. It doesn't need to be a romantic love scene from a movie, but it just needs to be as simple as:
"I really like you and would like to get to know you better, would you like to go out again this weekend?"
Don't think too hard about what you are going to say, but just have it loosely planned out. Nothing ever goes as you think it will through your head. As long as you have a good idea as to what you are going to say, and are confident about it, you should be good.
When you tell her, just make sure to be true to your feelings. Say it when you think its the right time (you will know for sure, I promise) and see how she reacts. Remember, you can't make her feel the way you want her to, and that all you can do is tell her how you feel and hope its reciprocated.
If things don't go as planned, don't worry. Life's too short to beat yourself up over it. You just have to remember that you tried, and that you were confident about it. Learning from these experiences really help you down the road, and help you know what to do next time. Don't dwell on the situation either, it isn't worth it.
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