I told some guys at the start that I'm not really interested in dating them. They said they were happy to be friends. A short while after, they again try to get into the dating zone with me. When I tell them again that I'm serious, that I'm really not interested in dating them, they cut me off and our friendship all together.
Girls put a lot of thought into who they'd want to date. If for some reason or another, I'm just not into you in that way, I mean it. There's no returns or second chances. Most of my girlfriends are the same. When I see a guy as a friend, and he starts ignoring me just because I was honest about not wanting to date him, it does hurt me and make things very awkward.
So guys, I just wanted to hear your opinion on this. If a girl you were romantically interested in friendzoned you, would you be happy to be friends or would you just drop them?
- Not interested in being friendsVote A
- Would stick on as friendsVote B
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I'm sorry to say that I would probably bail.
I know that it's difficult to go through that; to lose someone whose friendship you value. From the guy's perspective, though, it is incredibly hard to be around a girl that you have romantic feelings for if she does not share those feelings.
Imagine how he would feel, having those feelings, if you were to start dating someone else (other than him). It would be very, very hard for him to accept that, and it would probably crush him. He is simply trying to save himself the inevitable heartache of that situation.
He knows that he doesn't have a shot a dating you, and he has apparently accepted that, otherwise he would continue to pursue you. In time, he may find a way to deal with those feelings, and gradually come back into your life, but I'm sorry to say that it's not very likely.1