How long should you wait to have your first kiss with a guy?

[Anonymous]

hey so i like this guy and he asked me out. I've never had a boyfriend (nor have i had my first kiss). how long should i wait to have my first kiss with him? like first date or second? third? idk. also, i like him a lot but if i dont want to kiss him on the first date, how can i say no while still making him want to kiss me later on?

[rUinSAYAN]

first your age? 10-12 its oke to wait for a kiss
13-14 most girls your age are already bitchy
15-16 kissing is a normal thing. blocking it is a bit strange at first but if she dresses and behaves like a woman then its oke.
17-18 most know will kiss 1-2nd date. if I don't kiss her she's gone.

[croxy]

Everything from first to third date is okay, I would prefer second myself, possibly first.

[Asker]

and if he tries to kiss me on the first date, how do i say o and make him not give up on me (and dont just say if he likes me he will be willing to wait. i know. i just want him to still want to kiss me a lot and not feel hurt by me saying no. like should i say "not yet:)" or something?

[croxy]

I had no intention of saying that :P

but you have to tell me how long you wanna wait before I can give you a proper answer to this.

[Asker]

i would think maybe a week so 2 or 3 dates? or 4?

[croxy]

Ooooooooooh that's not easy for a guy to handle hahah. Well I think what she could have done to make me wait for it ( I don't know if would have worked ) is to state how much she really is into me without giving it all away, while somehow between the lines tell me that I will get A LOT if I wait.

[Asker]

ok, too young for that A LOT stuf lol but i mean by normal convention do people (teens) usually kiss on 1st, second, or thrid date? i want him to think i am something worth waiting for, not desperate, and classy (cause i am lol!)

[croxy]

Hmmm yea okay... I guess I was thinking what I would want and I'm 20, after all age matters.

Tell me about his experiences with previous girlfriends and stuff, and I could get an idea of what he would be willing to wait for and what not.

[Asker]

i dont know if he's a virgin or not. he's a gentlemen, he's gone out with a lot of girls, he's not a player, he's had his first kiss

[croxy]

Hmmm, be a bit teasy about it, but NOT too much, you have to show him he will get more and more. Get more touchy with each other etc if not a kiss for every time you see each other.

Make sure he knows there is at least a BIT new everytime you see each other in the start.

[croxy]

Thanks for MH, so how did it go?

[Asker]

well i didn't kiss him and we've had one date since then, on that note, can you answer a follow up question? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1051734-is-tickling-a-form-of-flirting-in-guys

[rUinSAYAN]

wow most guys in your age get scared by Girls who block even such a small thing.

[Asker]

what do you mean block? i liked it!

[rUinSAYAN]

when its time to kiss its time to. when you block the special moment it will take some time to find a new special moment

[Asker]

well now that we've had 2 dates, i think its ok now. only thing is im not going to see him for a while because im going on vacation and then he is and our schedules just basically are plotting against us:(

[croxy]

That guy is overestimating it a bit, don't worry to much, when you both are comfortible with kissing, it's not hard to find a moment for it! Both of you just have to be 100% secure about each other!

[rUinSAYAN]

there are girls who put guys that don't kiss on the first few dates in the friendzone or even dump. I didn't get a dump with that reason but some girls told me that. shy guys get no food

[clearheart]

see his feellings 1st, if he wants it then you can mke the 1st move, or be bold let him do it, but got to know his feelings towards u :)

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

It doesn't matter everyone is different and its ok to kiss on the first date but only if you are feeling it

[sean1234]

How long should you wait to have your first kiss...
-31 years

That's how long I have waited... so far.

[SakuraWarrior]

I'm in the same boat. Never be too hasty with these things, but you'll probably know when the moment is right.