Yes, you're being unreasonable. He probably wouldn't have asked if you didn't offer going dutch on the second date anyway. Also, if you are truly for equal rights, if you expect him to pay for you the first date, you pay for him on another date? Or am I taking this too far?
Anyway, I did not intend to make this sound harsh, but in my opinion, this is pretty normal.
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I think that if his financial situation is much better than yours he should offer to pay no matter if it's the second, the third or the twentieth time you go out. But if he doesn't offer first you could at least choose places that both of you can afford without being short afterwards.
Hmm that's a tricky one. My ex didn't let me pay for a date.. not once. But all guys are different it really just depends since a lot of people are not traditional. You should probably observe how he treats you in other ways.
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There is a weird segment that thinks going Dutch somehow makes it not a date. He probably expected to pay for you, and he may believe the thing I said in the previous sentence. Dutch dating shouldn't be a surprise: it's supposed to be arranged in advance.
Unless I'm going Dutch: the person who asked should be the person who pays. I have limited experience, but if the other person is unclear, insisting that you pay could show "I mean this to be a date".Maybe he just wants to avoid feeling used for his money, not saying you would, but there are some grimy women who will use a guy for a couple of good meals or some temporary excitement. It all comes down to what you've been used to, this guy just happens not to be like the others you've dated. Don't let this become a dealbreaker as you could miss out on someone great, maybe not now, but eventually.
Given how many women use men and dating as a free meal ticket and a source of entertainment while having no interest in getting serious, I cannot say I blame him for taking this stance.
I usually pay the bill and do not mind until like a month. That is if we go on dates at least twice a week. After like 10 dates if the girl doesn't even attempt to split then I got a problem...
I think you need to check your white cis-hetero female privilege!!!
You are just being a woman. It's ok.
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