How do you feel when your boyfriend gets more attention from others?

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Me and my boyfriend usually hang out together.
He is above average in looks but has got an amazing body.
He also knows how to dress well. I never had to be his style advisor like in my previous relationship.

Girls , Guys , Young , Old always check him out.
Like the other day at the mall... I saw several girls licking their lips while passing by him. He gets checked out every single time we go out

I hate it when he gets all the attention. It's like I don't even exist.
I love him though.
Girls, you ever been with someone like this? and how did y'all deal with it?

curbin · Accepted Answer

Wait, do you mean that you're mad that other girls look at him, or that you're made because he gets more attention than you?

If it's the former, then I get irritated, since my boyfriend gets looks from girls as well because of his physique. At the same time though they also pay attention to me, who is giving them a long, blank stare to make them feel awkward and back off, haha! I don't like it, but I think it's just human nature to acknowledge when someone is attractive. He does the same every time we go into a store and guys pay attention to me, except he gives a death glare back at them. :)

If it's the latter, then I don't know what to tell you. I mean I'm definitely not jealous of the attention my boyfriend gets. He works hard to maintain a fit body. Being active makes him happy, which makes me happy that he's happy. The attention that comes with being attractive is just a part of it, I don't resent him for it at all. Just like how he doesn't resent me for the attention I attract in different situations.

I think you should be capable of being happy for him, since he probably works hard to maintain his looks as well. Maybe focus your efforts in finding something that makes you feel good about yourself.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Did you let your boyfriend know how it makes you feel?
It used to be like that with my current boyfriend. We would hang out with some of his friends after class, one of which was a girl I've got to admit was pretty hot, and happened to like him. She was completely shameless, wearing spandex shorts so short they were pretty much booty shorts.

Back then, we had only been together for a month or 2 so I didn't really know what to do. I got upset and kind of left it alone, letting him know how I felt when we left. Now that some time has passed, whenever I see girls playing the same games, I get a bit more feisty. I see them making eyes at him, which is my cue to pull him in for a kiss, put my hand on his inner thigh if we're sitting down, etc.. Gotta lay a claim on my man! :P

But yeah, most importantly let him know how you feel so hopefully he'll be more understanding towards you.

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

Style advisor? since when does anyone have the right to tell someone how to dress? lol definitely not you or anyone so i think let guys dress how they want, if they aren't stinky then i think you should be fine with how guys dress and accept them for who they are not how they look. I think it's a bit childish getting worked up over who gets more attention too, i'm pretty sure men will look at you too you just don't know it because your too busy looking at who pays attention to him, so i think don't focus on it and enjoy yourself, it's not about who gets what it's about being a nice person and a good gf.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I hate this -.-
My girlfriend goes through the exact same thing and I'm not saying I'm good looking or popular but I always run into people or someone will say hi that I forgot the name of or a bunch of girls will come up to say hi and try to start a conversation when they can see I'm with my girlfriend. It really gets to me. I've never spoken to her about it, to me their just people, both the boys and girls and I love her and only her regardless.
And then the whole checking me out thing -.- I've noticed it more now that I'm in a relationship, and it is really annoying. I mean sure it's flattering but I have eyes for only one girl and I am sure as hell that if I can tell their checking me out she can too

Do I talk to her about it? What do I do? Leave it?

CootiesInfection · Accepted Answer

They're licking they're lips because you're with him. Girls always want what they can't have. I don't fucking understand it, its just how they are. Get used to it, or date Zach Galifinakis.

SensualScribe · Answer

I have never been with anyone that has gotten that kind of attention. My boyfriend now tends to draw attention to me. I recently lost a significant amount of weight and yes, he compliments me himself on how good I look, but he also makes it a point to make it known to other people. I think he just does it because he is proud of me and wants to keep encouraging me. He gets attention from strangers, women a lot of times if they are more than just passers by. He has these eyes that just penetrate you they are so blue. He gets compliments on them daily. None of it bothers me.

rthomas43 · Answer

My girlfriend loves it. Granted, it's for the most part her friends telling her I'm handsome or that she has a great guy, but she gets a kick out of me getting attention from random females as well. She's not the jealous type, she knows who has my heart.

Hannah591 · Answer

It annoyed me with my ex but he often ignored it. He knew he was good looking though and that just increased his ego to a whole new level (probably why he left). I didn't mind it too much, it made me super happy to be by his side and I wanted to kill any woman who dared try to take him from me. Just appreciate it.

overthinkingmind · Answer

I think I understand you, because sometimes I am introverted when I'm around friends that aren't. Maybe it's because he is more social? try to talk and participate in conversations, too. Don't just stay feeling invisible in the background. You are able to change that :)

Ishtar · Answer

You should take it as a compliment girl, he is getting all that attention and he is with YOU not anyone else. That is saying he has chances with many people but he chose YOU. That makes you even more special.

just don't worry about anyone else and enjoy your time with him.

bunnyy · Answer

people always do that to my boyfriend and he will try to get behind me or text me right away and he freaks out it's kind of cute. Then when guys check me out when I'm with him I will just grab him and slowly kiss him then look at the other guy like "do you comprehend that I am not single?"

WhoTheHellKnows · Answer

Honestly, I see guys check out my girl ALL the time. They always look at her tits. I just smile. I have the satisfaction of knowing that they can look all they want, but she's mine. And I get to touch every inch of her. :)

Anonymous · Answer

I totally getyou!!
I met my SO at collage and he was the oldest guy there at the time. He is also incredibly attractive. Girls would always want him and flirt with him. Now we are at university it is happening again and these girls on his course won't stop being like this! I suppose in my case it is a little different, he always makes it clear he is in a relationship but they do it when he is not with me.

It is so true that a lot of girls can be disrespectful in the sense that they don't care about your relationship they just want what they can't have.

KianaLinay13 · Answer

I haven't had a problem like this to your extent but I have been jealous before. When you see someone staring at him do something so they notice you and that he's off limits. Kiss his cheek, grab his hand, get his attention somehow. But you won't ever be able to stop the intrested glances and niether can he

TakeMyHand · Answer

Yeah it does suck, that happens to me with my girlfriend sometimes everyone's complimenting her and looking at her all the time but remeber doesn't matter how manny girls check him out you're the one he's with at the end of the day, that should help just alittle :D

Cmasterson · Answer

I don't really mind, only do when the line is crossed and they go out of their way to add him on social media, and that is beyond my control. I like knowing i'm dating an attractive person, but if he's not reacting to it then it keeps me more at ease. I know it feeds a persons ego, but aslong as they're not putting other peoples attraction to him, before me then I'm alright.

Anonymous · Answer

My boyfriend doesn't get THAT much attention, but I see what you mean and why this could be annoying. My boyfriend is a bit more attractive and there are a lot of girls who ask him out right in front of my face. But I know he loves me and would never cheat on me. But hey just think of it this way, all these girls are basically drooling over him running as fast as they can trying to catch him, when you already DID catch him! That basically makes you the fairest in the land!

DamanMannn · Answer

You have fun with it,

give him some tongue in front of the h*es and b*tches
they'll look at you in total dominating jealousy...

Some may find it hot. ( you have been warned )

and in the end, you'll both have fun !
Plan it out with your boo of course, don't just surprise him and do it, unless he's into that sorta thing lmao.

bethhh29 · Answer

I know it's hard to not let it bug you, but I would try to not worry about it if I were you. This guy is attractive, but this guy is yours. You're right beside him while he's getting all this attention, so these girls know that he's yours. You probably get attention from guys like this, and even if you feel like you don't, you may not notice it, but just as those girls know that he's yours, those guys that that you're his. They can all look, but they can't touch.

misscoffeehead · Answer

Yeah I feel like this pretty much nowadays, I would know some certain girls crushing over my partner or physically lusting over him (my god 😒), it makes me want to bang my head on a wall..

But in all honesty, like who bloody wouldn't, my partners fucking hot lol
i just tell myself "well his mine and not anyone else's" it just makes me giggle

BBPForever · Answer

I just wanna freakin smack all the girls who like him and smack him upside the head for being so sexy. I know it's stupid and really weird but I do. My bf has a lot of girls (and a few guys) after him, and after a particularly desperate attempt by this one guy, I just told him, "Look baby. You just need to stop being so sexy when I'm not around to beat the shit out of other girls who flirt with u." He laughed at first but gave me this crazy look when he realized I was completely serious.

TheoneandonlyJessica · Answer

If he truly loves you then you don't have to worry about hose things. Like yes you might get jealous sometimes cause no one likes it when your significant other gets more attention. But if he is the 'one' then he won't bother paying attention to all the other eyes he gets except yours.

CatInLove · Answer

You are pretty. If you feel he is that hot and handsome, why not working on yourself? Longer hair and a nice dress. Some eyeliner and a pink lipstick. You would get the attention yourself. :-)
lookbook.nu/.../5054520-Romwe-Peach-Top-With-Peter-Pan-Collar-And-Heart
This look would suit you.

babyface21 · Answer

My boyfriend to me is my superman, he's not the social standard of attractive but to me he is my own model he says that i dont have to worry about other girls but i do and i think its normal when you love someone to worry tho, but at the same time im happy and proud others notice his attractiveness and i trust him.

AnggieGirl · Answer

You have a valid concern. I think as long as your guy isn't soaking up the attention and enjoying the other women paying attention to him like that, then it shouldn't be a prob. Address this to him and if he's a good man he will give you regular reassurance until you feel better. Be sure his reassurance isn't just to get more attention ;)

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