I blocked her number, is there a way I can found out if she has tried to text or call?

[brettb]

WE broke up 3 months ago, I blocked her number a month ago. I did it for the both of us cause I still wanted her back but she was moving on so I didn't want to hold her back, is there a way I can check and see if she has tried to get a hold of me at all during this time period?

[u04ajf3]

i know the feeling mate, it messes with your head. I'm not sure why you bloked her number but I'm sure it was for a good reason at the time.

My ex of 2 years broke up with me and it turned really nasty in within 2 weeks so I blocked her emails. Looking back it was the right thing to do. because I couldn't care less what she was sending me even though she was horrible but I couldn't trust myself not to bite and rise to it so I thought the best thing to do was block it all.

To this day I wonder what if? has she been in contact? its pathetic and I know she will not of been but the not knowing is the hard part. Its all in your mind and I hate myself for feeling that way about it.

I guess it means we are not over it as it shouldnt bother us. That's what worries me

[brettb]

I blocked her number so I couldn't call her. Everytime I heard her voice, it made me angry, p*ssed but also happy at the same time. Hard to describe. She said she can't give me another chance so that's another reason why. I felt like I was holding her back by still being in her life because I was still in it. So I figure if I can't hear her voice, ill can get over her cause when I blocked her number, she was over me.

[ArtistBboy]

1) No, you have blocked her number and as such there is no way for her to contact your cell phone from the number you blocked.

2) That was an immature solution to a problem. I am assuming she took that very harshly and doesn't want to be in touch with you

3) Why would you want to hear from her, you blocked her. There is no reason to ponder about the past/future... Just live in the moment.

[brettb]

No it was a very mature thing to do. If I could still keep in contact with her, I would tell her that I still love her and sh*t like that. Why would I do that if I knew she didn't want to hear that coming from me anymore. she is a real nice girl and I would like to still be friends but I couldn't take watching her leave my life and go into some other guys life. And like I said she was moving on so I didn't block it a day after. She told me she didn't want to be with me anymore so it didn't matte

[ArtistBboy]

The immaturity comes from "Well, she said this... so now she is blocked" - it was a rash decision from my perspective. You could've bottled up your emotions and saved them for the right girl while maintaining a good friendship with this woman. She doesn't sound like she has caused many problems other than deflecting your feelings. This is very common, it takes a mature individual a lot of effort to correspond with someone that doesn't reciprocate their feelings.

[brettb]

Well it wasn't about what she said. I seriously was putting my life and her life on hold so I can try and get her back. No guy is going to want to date a girl if she still has feeling for her ex. I didn't want to do that with her and that goes vice versa. Not to many girls I know would appreciate a guy having a good friendship with their ex. I was holding her back and that's why I feel like this whole thing was nescassary so we both can move on. well at least her without having me in her life

[ArtistBboy]

You have definately thought about the situation quite a bit. It shows.

My question - why do you feel a need to get back in touch with her?

Do you still care about her? It shows in your previous responses.

[brettb]

Yes in my heart I love her still but my head is asking me what the f*** am I thinking. I guess I was hoping to see that she actuaally cared about me as much as I do for her still. I know it wouldn't be good for me at all but my heart still beats for her. I don't know why as I just found out today she's dating the guy that she always told me she would never see more as friends when we were dating.

[ArtistBboy]

Especially with what is going on, I would walk away - and you should too.

Your heart and head is confused, which means you are enfatuated with her, not that this is a truly loving relationship. In the right relationship, your mind will never think like that. You will be able to argue with the other person but still remember how much you love them.

I hope things work out, she is being very sheisty.

[brettb]

I know I know my therapists told me about that conditional and unconditional love stuff. it just kills me to know what wwrong I did in the relationship and to know that I was only a teenager. I still am but I'm mroe experienced and more mture. I think on a level that my head and my heart are not confused. Have you ever asked urslef were is ur mind? its all thru out ur body. that's why you get a gut feeling about something or ur heart actually feels like its broken. my heart wants one thing and

[brettb]

Head wants anothe thing. its just there not corresponding with each other right now. I seriosuly cannot blame her for moving on since I didn't really help in any way. I just feel bad that I wasn't given another chance and that she didn't even warn me about how she was feeling. I just need to find a new girl that will make me feel better. I know it would help but I seriosuly been with the same girl for so long, I forgot how to play the game. so I don't even know where to start.

[ArtistBboy]

With your best foot forward. We all are intimidated at a point in time- Taking a risk will make your mind more at ease, and in turn, it will also help you realise where your mind is - which yes - it IS throughout your whole body. If you have anything else write me a message, I'd love to talk further =)

[AlanHB]

Nope. Unless you get some sort of court order against her and access her phone records. Unlikely.

What's even more unlikely is that she tried to call. Sounds like she dumped you after a relatively short relationship. You should move on too.

[brettb]

No I think you got it backwards. I blocked her. and no, we were together for 2 years.

[AlanHB]

Sorry my mistake. In that case she had put a lot of thought towards ending your relationship and dumped you. Move on.

And by the way, blocking her is exactly what I would do/have done. The idea is to cut all communication from them so that you do think of them. You're over a couple of months, just wait a bit longer and focus on other stuff in your life.