Why do we have types?
We have types because each of us has out own preferences for potential partners. Some people like tall people, some like short. Some people like blondes, and some like brunettes. It's all a matter of preference.
What did he mean by "you're not his type"?
To put it simply, he'd prefer someone other than you. Maybe he doesn't like your appearance or your personality, but there's something about you that he'd prefer if it were different.
What should you do?
MOVE ON! I know it seems hard at first, but think about it. You have feelings for a guy who bluntly told you that he's not into you. Why waste your time trying to make someone that doesn't like you like you. It's like trying to ram a square peg into a round hole. It's not going to work, and you're going to end up frustrated. So move on. Find someone who likes you, for you. You're bound to be somebody's type. Find a square hole for your square peg.
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You can have great qualities and be not someones type.
People having a type means that they would find themselves more compatible with another for whatever reasons.
I am like you a bit...
I am a bit more open-minded when it comes to dating.
I don't completely X someone out because they have a few things I dislike.
But some people are like that.
If you even have one quality they see as negative or they don't like (even personality trait) they would be unwilling to pursue things with you.
Some people are more picky when it comes to having a type.
Others are more open.
People are just attracted to particular traits that appeal to them, from appearance to personality. If someone has personality traits you don't like, or isn't what you're attracted to, that immediately can cause conflict in the possible relationship. This is why people develop a basic "type" in their mind, to avoid people who they don't see themselves having a successful relationship with.
Type just refers to the pattern in which you date, or that the people you date all have a similar characteristic. Everyone had something they're attracted to more than other things, and that my dear is your type. Might take you a little bit to figure out what it is though lol
A type is formed by our experiences, what we are naturally attracted to, and what we find compatible with ourselves. My ex was just like you and said that she didn't have a type. This annoyed me to no end because I cannot grasp how someone doesn't have a type, and I know she didn't mean it in a bad way, but it was insulting to me because I could be anyone and she wouldn't care. I could be wrong, but I honestly believe that people who don't have a type are either so desperate that they will take anyone, very inexperienced with relationships, or they have not yet figured out what they want.
Maybe he wanted to just hook up with you. Some people use the "you're not my type" verse as an excuse whenever they don't want a serious relationship with someone. On the other hand, what that phrase basically means is that you don't like the girl's personality. There are some personalities that I dislike and avoid.
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Personally, its based on what you like and what you think is compatible.
I myself have a specific type of girl I like, but it's cool if she has a few characteristics that don't exactly fit. Not like she's a shoe. Can't go around and find a 100% perfect one right off the bat.
Like someone like me can't possibly date a close-minded person. Therefor, my type of girl is very open-minded.Everyone has a type. And I bet you have a type you just don't know it. We all have turn ons and turn offs. For instance I can't stand a show off! Or people who are too freaking loud!!! So if a guy approached me with those traits I would say you're not my type.
Simple. He just doesn't like your personality. Your looks are fine, he just isn't into your personality. That doesn't necessarily mean you should change, it just means you should find a guy who likes your personality.
I have a very specific type of girl that I'm attracted too, as well. Many people do.Because we all have preferences, everyone has a type. If types wouldn't exist, I don't think finding a connection would be easy... All of us attracted to the same things... sounds super boring to me lol
Technically that means "you are not a person based on appearance or behavior whom I would want to date".
I think his version sounds a bit less harsh.It's been my experience that when someone says, "you're not my type," they're not attracted to you. flat-out.
People have types based on experience. What they like etc in a specific person they want in another. In your case, maybe his type was a one night stand and you didn't want that.
I don't necessarily have a type but the girl has to be somewhat attractive, some common interests, and a decent personality. I don't think that's too much to ask for.
Because I don't want to hurt a girl by having her fall in love with me even though I'm not attracted to her personality and then asks me if I love her and I say I don't feel the same
U seriously don't have "a type"?
Meaning you like ALL MEN?I like people to surprise me with who they r. Having some inherent checklist of prerequisites is just to static for meh.
We all have things we like and do not like, We can't all like the same things. Human nature simply wouldn't allow it
You should have something in common if you want to have a meaningful relationship. Like you both enjoy reading or something as opposed to "traits".
Some people like chicken some like steaks u can't force people to choose only one thing
When it comes to sex for men if you have a pussy you are every guy's type
It's more fun that way
nothing wrong with it, if that is what he likes.
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