What does it mean when ur dating a guy who's affectionate in the first 2 weeks and after that it's kinda faded away even in text Help?

[Sarbearrrr101]

He was sweet and cute and sent me adorable mushy messages but lately We text like buddies or those people who can't hold a good convo, I like him but sometimes he'll say things that make me roll my eyes but I don't show it, and it gets so boring in messages that sometimes i
pretend in busy but I'm not so I don't text back, any advice

[LittleSally]

Well that's rough.. That fast?
Seems like he's just lost interest. Have you slept with him yet? Maybe he was just in it to win it and now he's ready to move on. There's this thing where guys are acting all distant and boring to try to get YOU to break up with THEM...
I can't say for certain - only he can - but see what's up with that. Definitely weird.

[Sarbearrrr101]

No because he took me out to a romantic expensive steak dinner and seemed so into me then and was asking me all serious so what do you think about us I said I think we'll be good with a :) im starting to think he said all
That to win me over to be his girl and now
That he has me not as much effort is needed u know?

[LittleSally]

Oh... well... Maybe you should make him see that you aren't in it to be bored... he has to woo you every day - you're that kind of a girl. =)
And why not? I know plenty of guys who are like that... So your best bet is to make him understand that there IS a problem and what that problem is. If you don't he's not going to get it - I'm sure of that.

[Sarbearrrr101]

I know I'm also that girl who's scared to confront lol I feel like it's still early we started dating sept 27 & interestingly he's told me he's been cheated on a lot and he said it cause his ex's said he "doesn't "show affection I hate to admit it but I can see what they mean...

[LittleSally]

Then all the more reason to say something. The thing is - if you don't say something now you'll end up breaking up with him for that exact same reason!
Ironic?

You have to say something if you feel like he's a good boyfriend thus far. If you want to be happy and stay in that relationship.

[Sarbearrrr101]

U have a good point I just feel bad that I'm another girl saying that to him you know?

[LittleSally]

Yeah...
Well it's no coincidence then. You know you're in the right because you're not the only one saying it. And he should learn something from this - never get too comfortable in a relationship - and definitely not that fast.

[Sarbearrrr101]

That's why I'm in two worlds right. Now do I speak up and defend the past girls who seem to say "the truth" what I'm seeing (the very little or no affection) with my own eyes... or do I give it time and not jump to conclusions

[LittleSally]

Say it right now. The more you wait, the more complacent he'll become and the more you'll resent him.

[Sarbearrrr101]

How would you go about saying this?

[LittleSally]

Make it clear how you feel and make it not sound rough.
Ask him to come to your place and make him a dinner... talk a bit and then get to the main point.
"Listen, I've come to feel like you've become too comfortable in this extremely new 'relationship' and I don't feel appreciated nor special any more. And that's saying a lot since we've only been together for 2 weeks. Could you make more of an effort for me too feel like you actually want me?"
- pause here and let him answer
"If not then I don't think you're made for a serious relationship, or maybe just not made for a relationship with me... or a girl who likes to feel loved every day."

[LittleSally]

Not the exact same as that... but you get the gist. :)

[Sarbearrrr101]

Damn that was deep lol I understand I
May sound whinny again but I'm literally scared to say this issue on my
Mind because I've never been in a serious relationship he's had a few, were very different in that area/dating/relationships

[LittleSally]

No need to feel scared. If you let your fear paralyze you you'll never truly be satisfied with your life. =)
Also - if you can't be honest with someone you're dating... how can you be honest with someone that means less to you than that person? Honesty truly is the best thing for everyone - the best shot to get what you want.
Haha Thank you. xD

[Anonymous]

Texting for most guys is really exhausting and is not as fun as it is for women. He probably was doing that early on to win your heart but didn't think he'd have to continue doing it indefinitely.

[Sarbearrrr101]

I understand that but I mean being his new girlfriend I expected a little more with the "honeymoon" phase they call it being so into wachother right? Or I guess he really did just say all that to be his...

[Anonymous]

Is this the friends with benefits guy you were doing?

[Sarbearrrr101]

No new guy haha

[Opinion Owner]

But I thought you liked the friends with benefits

[Sarbearrrr101]

We'll I did & told him I did but didn't react like I hoped he's studying in the medical field so he's always studying:/ but since I was talking to another guy my boyfriend as of now the friends with benefits guy seems a bit lonely or jealous that I left him

[Opinion Owner]

Ya think?

[Sarbearrrr101]

Yeah be even called me while I was with him saying I can do better

[Opinion Owner]

I was being sarcastic yo