I'm 30 and a virgin. Social anxiety has made it VERY difficult for me to even find a girl who likes me. However if it happens I want to have sex.
I was reading about older guys who are virgins and opinions of women what they thought. I lost faith in the human race for what I read.
Many women found this an instant turn off, and said they would leave the guy if they found this out. Reasons were inexperience equals bad sex, or it must mean something is wrong with him if he hasn't gotten any yet.
In my case my anxiety has affected my social experience and probably I do come off as low confidence or mabye just a turn off for women. But is rejecting me because of that really ok? My body works perfectly fine, I have a high desire for sex and to be in a relationship. I am not selfish and can care about someone else. Why is being a virgin an automatic no when you don't even know me?
Im going to be honest I'm scared right now. I cannot accept never having sex, death would be better than that at this point. But if women are going to reject me because I'm 30 and a Virgin and I've never even gotten to date or be in a relationship is there really any hope at all?
If this is true society makes me sick, if women don't have to cook or choose not to have kids and still can get a partner and get married, why can't male virgins have equal opportunities?
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I am in the same boat, no dating, no love from girls. Even now when i realize that some girl from the past may have liked me, she never made real effort. And everybody can tell that im shy, or have some sort of social inexperience.
Girls have said that i am cute and whatever, but mostly i took it as a thung of me being shy. But really i dont even meet girls. I dont know where they are. I dont know where to go to find them. I could guess that they go to the gym, i can guess that they go to work, but that isn't really a place to pick up women.
Besides i can't even get a decent job. i have my education but society hasn't let me have a good job yet. So where would i be able to go with a woman? Nowhere, so im not holding a candle out there for love and sex or anyhing like it. If it happens, it happens, but im not going to feel so bad about it that its going to make me hate everything about myself.
Even if i do find a girl to love one day or even go on a date and she finds out that I've never had sex. If she leaves i am just going to laugh at her, and i am going to spin her around to face me and i am going to tell her how pathetic she is. Yes everybody wants it, yes everbody wants it to look like the movies and or porn, but thus is real life. There is no such thing.
Just masturbate to yourself until you can get a girl. If you have a good job, and you have your own life, then you are halfway there2