Is Tinder an accurate representation of ones attraxtiveness?

Question

I'm a decent looking guy I'd say, my face and eyes get regular compliments the only real drawbacks I have physically are A im skinny, even after working out months I didn't gain any mass and doctors even told me with my hyperbolic system it's just my build, still Im not some pencil neck so I have a bit of tone at least and B I have to shave my head bald since I lost a lot of hair to a stress condition as a kid, so I get I won't be everyone's cup of tea but still I've like hundreds of girls pictures within 5 years of age and 100 miles and only got like 5-8 REAL matches (I was being pretty picky like I am in real life though so they were all more attractive)-now don't get me wrong I don't expect to meet a girlfriend on Tinder but it makes me feel a bit self conscious of how many must have 'swiped left' I've been told by some friends this is because I don't have tinder plus which helps by putting you out there more but still I live within a hundred miles of three big colleges, so people should I be worried or is tinder a load of crap really in terms of judging your own attractiveness

No, Tinder doesn't really reflect reality in that regard enough that it should worry you with those few of matches

With those few of matches, yes it should concern you some

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+1 y

I honestly don't like these apps at all

Answer 1

Tenxx

Xper 4

No it's not. A match is only set when you AND the other person likes you. So there could be women that you don't like but like you or maybe they haven't shown up yet. Then there's the point that even though you match, it doesn't say how attractive they think you really are. You may be okay looking or maybe you look hot to them. Then there's the point that most people have different opinions of attractive is so there no way you can ordinarily determine how attractive you are by using Tinder. Not to sound too douchy, but my comment will probably give you the answer you're really looking for. Well good luck and hope I helped :)

Answer 2

Alexious | 452 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Dude, tinder is fucking stupid.
Think about what you're up against. The other guys are all ripped 6ft + Football players and stuff.

These are sorta guys girls get with and get hurt by and end up breaking up with.

Tinder is all looks. Find a girl in person who you can truly connect with.

Beaver19

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Here's the deal, like I said I agree with you on tinder and online dating being bull but looks are step one to me, I wouldn't date a girl who wasn't slender and had a pretty face. I don't like to number but to give an idea usually the gorls I'm interested in are 7-9, so I admit looks so matter and are just as important as personality
Alexious

+1 y
Maybe you've gotta lower your standards bro. Just remember. If we're talking looks she can always go for the hench footballer dude.

We all have our preferences, but sometimes you've gotta let it simmer with a girl who isn't what you want. Love is strange. I'm starting to like someone who I didn't even find attractive.
Beaver19

+1 y
I'm sorry but I don't respect you're view on this, I wouldn't lower my standards if you put a gun to my head, and I'm not the kind of person who makes idle threats or exaggerates, hell I even skydive so I'm a pretty serious person when it comes to what I want, and to me no other aspect is as big as this, I've had s couple just okay looking girls after me before, and even after a lot of time hanging out I was still completely and adamantly against dating them due to the fact they were not attractive physically, shame because they were sweet. Seriously though I would never even consider dating a girl below a 7, true ratings are subjective but one size does fit most, and if I settled on a girl I'd end up treating her like frap because I wouldn't care for her and would see my own shortcomings in her
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Beaver19

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If you're wondering how skydiving fit into that, when you start you gotta make a promise about one aspect of your life that you will not accept less on and take chances towards (since we are making hundreds of jumps over months time the threat of death is there even if small) it was an easy choice for me as my standards on girls was already set and something I took seriously from the start. Like I said I would view a girl who wasn't physically attractive as a failure on my own part and there'd be no nice gestures or sweet ideas and gifts she'd get like id give to a good looking girl.

Sounds harsh but the saying never tell a girl she's beautiful unless she looks that way to you is true, even though rejecting her might hurt her, taking her in only for her to find out you're uninterested is even worse. You may call it cold or callous etc, but we value honesty over courtesy.
Tenxx

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Lol sorry but that sounds ridiculous. I've been on there and I have plentyy of matches. Not to mention you just managed to insult every woman on there AND simultaneously put yourself down.
Beaver19

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@Tenxx are you responding to me or to the opinion owner I'm confused
Tenxx

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You. I don't understand how you could possibly think like that. i don't understand how you'd come to have an opinion like that.
Beaver19

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An opinion like what? Having high standards? I believe in honesty over courtesy and I don't know how I 'put down all women and myself' I never said I disrespect girls who aren't attractive, just that I could not give my affection to them, and yes I wouldn't tell a girl who's not beautiful that she was, as then she'd expect me to feel for her and as you read before on my comments I would end up treating her badly if I had settled on her.

I'd rather be the guy with 1,000 defeats and one great success than a guy with thousands on average successes in this regard. With how important the person you'll spend your life with is, I will not accept a girl who does not make me want her greatly physically as well, it's not called being shallow it's called being human
Tenxx

+1 y
No no I get that. I wouldn't settle either. If you're not attracted to someone, you're simply not into them like that, so it would be a bad idea to be with them. I'm referring to your original comment about Tinder being stupid, nothing but football players, girls getting heartbroken, and Tinder being all looks.
Alexious

+1 y
Maybe my standards are lower than your's.. I don't know man. I don't set myself high expectations.
Beaver19

+1 y
Then you responded yes to the wrong guy haha I'm the asker, I think that Timder isn't great for anything legit in dating and is more hookups though
Beaver19

+1 y
To the opinion owner in not saying I desrespect you on your opinion I won't look at who you date and think you're bad etc, I just mean for myself there are a few non negotioable aspects of life and love is one of them
Tenxx

+1 y
I'm confused. Is the asker of the opinion owner the one that said the thing about Tinder being fucking stupid?
Tenxx

+1 y
I meant *or
Alexious

+1 y
Yeah, Tinder is primarily a looks game. They can't your personality through a picture.
About the football player thing: I didn't mean it literally 😂
Tenxx

+1 y
Haha I guessed as much. And I'm not denying that looks matter, I'm saying that the way you put it, you made it seem like all girls on there go for jerks and end up getting hurt. The truth is, most girls on there want to use guys just as most guys want to use them

Answer 3

Beaver19

Here's the deal, like I said I agree with you on tinder and online dating being bull but looks are step one to me, I wouldn't date a girl who wasn't slender and had a pretty face. I don't like to number but to give an idea usually the gorls I'm interested in are 7-9, so I admit looks so matter and are just as important as personality

Answer 4

Alexious

Maybe you've gotta lower your standards bro. Just remember. If we're talking looks she can always go for the hench footballer dude.

We all have our preferences, but sometimes you've gotta let it simmer with a girl who isn't what you want. Love is strange. I'm starting to like someone who I didn't even find attractive.

Answer 5

Beaver19

I'm sorry but I don't respect you're view on this, I wouldn't lower my standards if you put a gun to my head, and I'm not the kind of person who makes idle threats or exaggerates, hell I even skydive so I'm a pretty serious person when it comes to what I want, and to me no other aspect is as big as this, I've had s couple just okay looking girls after me before, and even after a lot of time hanging out I was still completely and adamantly against dating them due to the fact they were not attractive physically, shame because they were sweet. Seriously though I would never even consider dating a girl below a 7, true ratings are subjective but one size does fit most, and if I settled on a girl I'd end up treating her like frap because I wouldn't care for her and would see my own shortcomings in her

Answer 6

Beaver19

If you're wondering how skydiving fit into that, when you start you gotta make a promise about one aspect of your life that you will not accept less on and take chances towards (since we are making hundreds of jumps over months time the threat of death is there even if small) it was an easy choice for me as my standards on girls was already set and something I took seriously from the start. Like I said I would view a girl who wasn't physically attractive as a failure on my own part and there'd be no nice gestures or sweet ideas and gifts she'd get like id give to a good looking girl.

Sounds harsh but the saying never tell a girl she's beautiful unless she looks that way to you is true, even though rejecting her might hurt her, taking her in only for her to find out you're uninterested is even worse. You may call it cold or callous etc, but we value honesty over courtesy.

Answer 7

Tenxx

Lol sorry but that sounds ridiculous. I've been on there and I have plentyy of matches. Not to mention you just managed to insult every woman on there AND simultaneously put yourself down.

Answer 8

Beaver19

@Tenxx are you responding to me or to the opinion owner I'm confused

Answer 9

Tenxx

You. I don't understand how you could possibly think like that. i don't understand how you'd come to have an opinion like that.

Answer 10

Beaver19

An opinion like what? Having high standards? I believe in honesty over courtesy and I don't know how I 'put down all women and myself' I never said I disrespect girls who aren't attractive, just that I could not give my affection to them, and yes I wouldn't tell a girl who's not beautiful that she was, as then she'd expect me to feel for her and as you read before on my comments I would end up treating her badly if I had settled on her.

I'd rather be the guy with 1,000 defeats and one great success than a guy with thousands on average successes in this regard. With how important the person you'll spend your life with is, I will not accept a girl who does not make me want her greatly physically as well, it's not called being shallow it's called being human

Answer 11

Tenxx

No no I get that. I wouldn't settle either. If you're not attracted to someone, you're simply not into them like that, so it would be a bad idea to be with them. I'm referring to your original comment about Tinder being stupid, nothing but football players, girls getting heartbroken, and Tinder being all looks.

Answer 12

Alexious

Maybe my standards are lower than your's.. I don't know man. I don't set myself high expectations.

Answer 13

Beaver19

Then you responded yes to the wrong guy haha I'm the asker, I think that Timder isn't great for anything legit in dating and is more hookups though

Answer 14

Beaver19

To the opinion owner in not saying I desrespect you on your opinion I won't look at who you date and think you're bad etc, I just mean for myself there are a few non negotioable aspects of life and love is one of them

Answer 15

Tenxx

I'm confused. Is the asker of the opinion owner the one that said the thing about Tinder being fucking stupid?

Answer 16

Tenxx

I meant *or

Answer 17

Alexious

Yeah, Tinder is primarily a looks game. They can't your personality through a picture.
About the football player thing: I didn't mean it literally 😂

Answer 18

Tenxx

Haha I guessed as much. And I'm not denying that looks matter, I'm saying that the way you put it, you made it seem like all girls on there go for jerks and end up getting hurt. The truth is, most girls on there want to use guys just as most guys want to use them

Answer 19

throwit | 554 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Isn't it when you swipe that person gets a notification saying you found them attractive? If that's the case I would only be swiping the most attractive guys possible, but in reality I think a lot of guys are nice looking but since it's only based on appearance is have to only go for the ultra-attractive.

Answer 20

apple24 | 5.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

No, Tinder doesn't really reflect reality in that regard enough that it should worry you with those few of matches
Its just sex!

apple24

+1 y
Thank u!

Answer 21

apple24

Thank u!

Answer 22

Rawrzz

Yoda

Well, if it's anything like okcupid, women voted 80% of males as *below average* attractiveness. Either there's a bunch of fugly guys on okcupid, or women have high standards.

Females have innate social value. Males have no value until they prove it through accomplishment or occupation. Given this, a female is going to rate herself higher than a male of the same attractiveness, in general.

Answer 23

verticallyinsecure

Xper 6

Maybe thats coz this is india but i used tinder just once in my life and all i got was one match, talked to her for like 30 min never even planned to meet or anything (fuck man, she was hot though, but that ain't the point) so i hope not lol

Answer 24

Prof_Don | 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I'm rather spotty on Tinder in terms of success rate, but I know that statistically black men fare on the bottom tier of success % in terms of ethnicities of guy.

Prof_Don

+1 y
White men do far better on dating sites than every other ethnicity of man

Answer 25

Prof_Don

White men do far better on dating sites than every other ethnicity of man

Answer 26

aficionado | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Voted A. Tinder only represents how eligible you are for hook-ups in terms of attractiveness, and that's pretty much it.

verticallyinsecure

+1 y
i doubt indian women look for casual sex on tinder
aficionado

+1 y
@verticallyinsecure

They do, but they match with the profiles of only the hottest looking dudes. I personally used it for 1 week, just out of curiosity (because I never intended to date or even hook up at that time). I liked EVERY female profile I came across, and not even ONE match! Does that mean I am ugly? No friggin' way!
verticallyinsecure

+1 y
lol man, have u ever seen the guys here in india that use these apps XD. I doubt there is much competition lol
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aficionado

+1 y
@verticallyinsecure

Haha, you're right!

Answer 27

verticallyinsecure

i doubt indian women look for casual sex on tinder

Answer 28

aficionado

@verticallyinsecure

They do, but they match with the profiles of only the hottest looking dudes. I personally used it for 1 week, just out of curiosity (because I never intended to date or even hook up at that time). I liked EVERY female profile I came across, and not even ONE match! Does that mean I am ugly? No friggin' way!

Answer 29

verticallyinsecure

lol man, have u ever seen the guys here in india that use these apps XD. I doubt there is much competition lol

Answer 30

aficionado

@verticallyinsecure

Haha, you're right!

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