I met her on an online dating site at the beginning of December. First date we went out for 3 hours for drinks and I felt it went really well. She offered to drive me to my car and we exchanged hugs. The next week we went out again, for dinner and stand up comedy. Again I felt like it went well, but when I tried kissing her she turned her head saying she was sick. I felt rejected and gave up.
4 days after this date, she texted me wishing me a happy new year (Jan 3rd). I didn't expect to hear from her again so figured I'd try once more. From here on I've always been the one to initiate a text. She never asked me out after a week so finally I asked her. She agreed but said she was busy on the day I suggested. She suggested another day but I was busy. She then suggested sometime the following week. After this, that evening was the most dialogue we had had over text ever. It was 3 hours long and she thanked me before going to bed.
Monday of the following week she messaged me suggesting this Thursday and I agreed so we are going out a 3rd time - 3 weeks after our last date. She suggested something we could do but also said if I didn't want to it was ok we can do whatever I want. But I thought the idea was perfect.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm extremely nervous and don't know what to do. She seemed to have a good time on our dates, she responds to my texts, and showed initiative suggesting alternate days for us to meet. At the same time, she hardly ever initiates a conversation with me over text, she turned away from my kiss and our text conversations are usually short. I know she's a busy woman and I don't think she's all that shy but maybe she is and hides it well. I just feel not confident at all going in - I can't read her
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Considering various elements of your posts, I'm convinced she's into you, thus your pessimistic outlook is simply uncalled for.
Let's take a closer look at the facts, shall we? She offered to drop you off to your car. She's accepted follow-up dates, she replies to your texts, she's taken the initiative to basically plan a date, and she called to wish you a happy New year.
Okay, okay, on the flip side, she turned away from your attempt to kiss her. Perhaps she has a personal rule she strictly follows about kissing on the first date. Perhaps she was... sick, as she said. Regardless, she contacted you a few days after, which is, among other things, indicative of her interest in you.
And like many women, until she's reasonably familiar with you and convinced of your intent, she simply will minimally initiate with you. She will, nonetheless, make herself accessible to you.
You're okay, man. Go with flow.1
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