how i dealt with it tho? i said im not willing to be the second choice of nobody, let alone my crush. i moved away and now she seems trying to contact me.. dunno if she trying to be firendly but frankly im not willing to give up and grovel for her again
lol this. id go as far as to say, the average girl in todays society unknowingly likes being your second choice because it makes them work harder for your attention. women are so narcissitic as someone else pointed out they literally can't accept the thought of being someones "second choice."
Like the funny thing is even if they dont like the guy they will start to like you all of a sudden if they think you are making them your second choice... not becuase they like you, but becuase thats how bad they can't accept beign the second choice
@animus1988 Mmm, you lost me. I can accept I was someone's 2nd choice, so I don't know where you got that from. Is this an attack on me or women in general? Anon, how is this narcissistic?
im saying deep down whether you realize it or not part of you actually likes being the second choice because it gives you a challenge and you like most narcissistic women out there NEED the drama to survive. the small ounce of insecurity you feel when you're not sure if you're #1 AKA that drama, is what makes you more attracted
@animus1988 Nah I'm pretty sure I don't like it lmao. And nor do I like the challenge, I accepted it and backed off. I also don't believe I'm overly narcissistic.
nah girls just want what they can't have. when a guy presents himself as a challenge (you having to compete with another girl) it makes us more attractive. girls are too naive to realize this tho
@animus1988 But I was under the impression I was his first choice right up until he started dating the other chick (didn't even know there was another girl in the picture) and as soon as he started dating I backed off...
@animus1988 you say girls like being second choice? I don't think so, or at less I don't. I don't like a challenge from another girl. That's too much stress and the fact that you weren't even a thought of first makes you feel stupid. That's just the dumbest thing I've heard
@Daynada feeling stupid makes you feel submissive and that subconsciously creates attraction in your female brain. the grass is always greener on the other side and girls always wnat what they can't have. deal with it. if that same guy was single he would be less attrractive
so you are denying that an average man who is seen with beautiful women doesn't make him any more attractive? lol you are naive if you dont think it raises his status/attraction with lots of women
@animus1988 exacvtly. thats women for you. they can't fathom being the second. but also want you to be desired by other women cause they operate through validation from others.. .
exactly they are both against me now becuase they think im not "listening" becuase im not agreeing with them like every other white knight here. in a womans mind, disagreeing with her means your "not listening" LOL
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Yea a lot times is honestly hard though
I'm sure I have. Don't really give a shit tbh.
I've never been anyone's choice 😔
I haven't been anyone's first, let alone second.
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Feels brah.
@Chief16 https://i.imgur.com/Gcn7per.jpg
dont want to be anyone's second choice
Were you on a TV show H20?
@BubbleBoy69 nope
Looool, everyone mistaking you with celebrities now XD ahahha
I don't think I've got that close!
I Was Never Anyones First Or Second Choice.
I don't know maybe yes and that suckss
I guess I was. Really.
maybe for a prom date or somethin'
Never have been before.
No. Maybe 5th or 6th though
no
yet again that why probably i m single :p
I think I have always been
Stop being so sad alice. It's depressing AF
@Chico_brah I am sad girl
yeah. im trying to forget about it even nowdays
how i dealt with it tho? i said im not willing to be the second choice of nobody, let alone my crush. i moved away and now she seems trying to contact me.. dunno if she trying to be firendly but frankly im not willing to give up and grovel for her again
I'm sure most of us dont and won't know xx
narcissism first world problems at their finest... .
lol this. id go as far as to say, the average girl in todays society unknowingly likes being your second choice because it makes them work harder for your attention. women are so narcissitic as someone else pointed out they literally can't accept the thought of being someones "second choice."
Like the funny thing is even if they dont like the guy they will start to like you all of a sudden if they think you are making them your second choice... not becuase they like you, but becuase thats how bad they can't accept beign the second choice
@animus1988 Mmm, you lost me. I can accept I was someone's 2nd choice, so I don't know where you got that from. Is this an attack on me or women in general?
Anon, how is this narcissistic?
im saying deep down whether you realize it or not part of you actually likes being the second choice because it gives you a challenge and you like most narcissistic women out there NEED the drama to survive. the small ounce of insecurity you feel when you're not sure if you're #1 AKA that drama, is what makes you more attracted
@animus1988 Nah I'm pretty sure I don't like it lmao. And nor do I like the challenge, I accepted it and backed off. I also don't believe I'm overly narcissistic.
nah girls just want what they can't have. when a guy presents himself as a challenge (you having to compete with another girl) it makes us more attractive. girls are too naive to realize this tho
@animus1988 But I was under the impression I was his first choice right up until he started dating the other chick (didn't even know there was another girl in the picture) and as soon as he started dating I backed off...
@animus1988 you say girls like being second choice? I don't think so, or at less I don't. I don't like a challenge from another girl. That's too much stress and the fact that you weren't even a thought of first makes you feel stupid. That's just the dumbest thing I've heard
@Daynada feeling stupid makes you feel submissive and that subconsciously creates attraction in your female brain. the grass is always greener on the other side and girls always wnat what they can't have. deal with it. if that same guy was single he would be less attrractive
@animus1988 That's not true at all. You are so wrong!
@Daynada totally agree with you. And ignore him, anything we say is falling on deaf ears, I think :/
so you are denying that an average man who is seen with beautiful women doesn't make him any more attractive? lol you are naive if you dont think it raises his status/attraction with lots of women
Luci92 yes, I agree with you. He's doesn't listen and thinks what he wants anyway so there's no point in trying to say anything 😑
@Lici92
@Luci92 sorry
@animus1988 exacvtly. thats women for you. they can't fathom being the second. but also want you to be desired by other women cause they operate through validation from others.. .
exactly they are both against me now becuase they think im not "listening" becuase im not agreeing with them like every other white knight here. in a womans mind, disagreeing with her means your "not listening" LOL
Maybe yes, but I don't know.
Probably
No, I have not
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