How do I improve myself on getting a girlfriend?

[Barryallen123]

21, 5'3. Yeah i'm pretty short for a guy. A little chubby but not fat. So now i need advice on how to improve myself. This sounds weird but i wanna find a nice lady to settle or get a girlfriend. I don't date. I find it hard to date in a country where people are very conservative. Either you flaunt money to attract girls or you'd be a creep to ask a random girl for her number. None of my friends can fix me up with someone cause well... most of my friends dont have a girlfriend. Of course i dont go for girls who are taller than me. At most the same height or an inch taller.
1) looks - fairly okay, girls tell me im cute. Not hot or handsome. Just cute. I'd say im at least a 6
2) social life - i do socialize at events or party and i'm not shy when i talk to people. People find my presence very comforting and nice to talk to.
3) life - well i play video game on a daily basis and i usually play 2-3 hours at most. My other free time is either going out for a walk or meeting up all my guy friends for chat.
So how can i improve my life better to find girls at a good set of place and maybe get a girlfriend. Girls dont randomly approach me since im not hot or anything. Just a plain joe here looking for answers. Oh and i dont look desperate or anything. When i talk to girls it just goes well like a normal chat. Not even the slightest bit of boring in my personality.

[jp612612]

There are so many issues here. For one, you should date. I mean, how else are you going to meet a girl and get her to like you? Second, why do you restrict on height? You're pretty short and I don't know what the average heights are in your country, but 5'4" is the average American height for a female so why not be open to everyone? Women tend to not want to date shorter men anyway, but let the women be the restrictive ones, not yet. Lastly, work on your career. I admit, I'm a short guy but I've always been enormously successful with women. I really think that the big thing is that I know how to set up a date and I'm not cheap. You might want to call that flaunting money, but it's not... it's being able to provide experiences apart from having her come over to your place so she can watch you play video games with your guy friends.

[Barryallen123]

Im still a student but i'm planning on my career to get money and travel around the world to find even more beautiful women! The average height in my country are 5'2

[udolipixie]

How do I improve myself on getting a girlfriend?
Lose weight. "Chubby not fat" I find is often code for overweight/obese when it comes to guys as it seems it takes drastic weight for them to even acknowledge they are chubby.

Try online dating, meetup apps, and get active hobbies where you will interact and engage with people in real life thus leading to more gals to talk to.

"looks - fairly okay, girls tell me im cute. Not hot or handsome. Just cute. I'd say im at least a 6 "
Do the gals you're interested tell you that you're cute? if you're being told you're cute by gals you have no interest in then looks are likely an issue.

[Barryallen123]

Okay maybe i'm exaggerating the chubby or fat part. Im at around 145 pounds or less. So im not fat but could look better. Yeah girls i have no interest in call me cute. So i guess looks isn't the problem. Then what is?

[udolipixie]

Medically you're overweight for your height and age. So nah you're most likely not exaggerating the chubby part.

"Yeah girls i have no interest in call me cute. " "So i guess looks isn't the problem."
No dude that means looks likely are the problem. The gals you aren't interested in are calling you cute. Unless you want to date gals you're not interested in looks likely are the problem.

[Barryallen123]

Not interested in a way that i don't want any relationship with them. They are definitely attractive like a solid 8.5/10 but i'm more of a feeling guy. I find some women gorgeous to look at but inside i still longing to find the one. So i don't pursue relationship base on looks. Even if she's a 10 and approached me, i would be dumb enough to pass cause i'm either blur on why she would come to talk to me or tell myself she's way to hot to be hitting on you.

[udolipixie]

I didn't say anything about the gals looks just you not being interested in them. I said 'gals you aren't interested in'. I did not say 'gals that are unattractive/ugly'.

Yet you felt the need to tell me they're attractive... and not just attractive but give me a league rating. That you felt the need to bring up their looks suggests to me looks aren't as much of a feeling guy as you said.

Again: The gals you aren't interested in are calling you cute so your looks likely are the problem.

[Barryallen123]

Okay then, what should i do to improve on my looks? I jus think the cute thing is a bad thing. I'd rather be called handsome than cute.

[udolipixie]

Lose weight- diet/exercise. You're not chubby you're fat. Medically you're overweight.

I'd also suggest fashion advice and honest evaluations of your looks ie looks based community hotornot or rateme. In my opinion it's suited to get ratings from random strangers rather than female friends/acquaintances who may be biased and want to spare your feelings.

[Barryallen123]

diet and exercise is a breeze for me. I fluctuate my weight from 145-130. Depending on how active i am but most of the time i walk at 140 pounds. Even my waist size is a size 30 for men. Honestly i'm not that fat nor do i look overweight. Diet and exercise shouldn't be a problem since i've been down the weighing scale. My concern is the outlook approach. In terms of style people say i dress quite well. But the downside is i don't like idea of trying to hit on random strangers. I'd prefer another way if finding a girl like maybe join a club or a social event or something.

[udolipixie]

Again medically for your age and height you're overweight. You're fat at 145 pounds.
www.smartbmicalculator.com/result.html

Seeing as you're in Singapore if you're of Asian descent it's even worse dude because BMI is calculated for you to be at an even lower weight.

Before you go denouncing BMI I doubt you're a bodybuilder so you're not outlier to the bmi. The Rock is obese by BMI because it doesn't take into account his muscles and I highly doubt you have the same body as The Rock.

You don't look overweight in your opinion. You look 'chubby' in your opinion. If you didn't look overweight/fat you wouldn't look 'chubby' you'd look normal. Chubby indicates excess fat.

A waist size of 30 at your height and age is not a 'good' thing.

Diet/exercise would greatly help the outlook approach. A fat dude in X clothing is still a fat dude.

[Barryallen123]

don't ever trust the bmi calculator. It isn't accurate for 2 reason. Water weight and body fat index. Someone can still be healthy range but yet have body fat over 25% i'm in the same boat. You'd call it skinny fat. I seriously am not fat. And size 30 on a guy my frame is still considered okay. If i were to lose more pounds i'd be a skeleton and that wouldn't be nice. My face would be sunken in and i don't generally feel good. I like my body the way it is and again do not follow against medical terms like bmi. Used to go to the gym and that's where i cut all the weight rather than gain the weight

[udolipixie]

You're not skinny fat so that's no reason for you to not trust the bmi calculator. I highly doubt all that excess pounds is 'water weight'. Clearly your body fat index is higher than healthy since you acknowledge you have excess fat on your body by calling yourself 'chubby'.

Really 'people can be skinny fat' = "you as a chubby dude shouldn't trust bmi telling you that you're overweight". LMFAO

Like your body all you want. The results thus far is you're medically overweight and have only been called cute by gals you have no interest in.

[udolipixie]

As for you looking like a skeleton if you lost weight. Going by medical data this is what you'd look like at the ideal weight for your height.
weight.optyourlife.com/i03784mages/m_170.jpg

You can say you're not fat all you want but clearly you are. Chubby is fat. Just because you call yourself chubby doesn't mean you're not fat. That's denial.

[Barryallen123]

To be honest i look like the guy in a t shirt. Not exactly. Nice without a t shirt. I don't have a belly to begin with

[udolipixie]

If you looked like that man in the shirt you wouldn't have called yourself chubby as he is muscular. He's an active bodybuilder. Abs galore without the shirt but I find many guys aren't too keen on seeing a shirtless so I did not post that version.

I'm done here. You can keep thinking you're just 'chubby' not fat.. ignoring that chubby is a way to describe fat.