I told my boyfriend I loved him and HE SAID NOTHING?

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So we are having sex and my bad on my behalf but I said I loved him while he was thrusting so hard cause it felt good af. And he said nothing and I know his ass heard me. We are still new been together almost a month. He tells me he cares for me a whole bunch but why didn't he say he loves me too?

SLT93 · Accepted Answer

In a moment of passion or in this case a damn good seeing to, we do occasionally say the odd thing. He might take what you said as a in the moment thing i. e."I love you cos this feels so good". It doesn't sound as good as "I love you because you mean the world to me". Let's also be fair here... he was in that moment trying to give you pleasure and he continued to (I assume) climax. Kudos!

If you are truly in love with him then use the word in a neutral romantic moment. Love takes time to develop. Some people quickly, some slowly. Some never love but do care for the other. Your relationship is still in its early stage so I wouldn't be too worried that he said "I love you too" back.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Perhaps he was so into the moment that he didn't even hear you or realize what was happening? I don't know.

Maybe it's too early for him to say "I love you" back? That is also the case. Plus from my experience, most guys don't like using those words, ever!

Also, it's only been a month. Maybe he is still unsure of his feelings. That's quite possible, I would give him some more time!

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

Would you rather he just say it to make you feel better even if he doesn't feel it? It hasn't even been a month, for actual love to develop takes a lot longer for most people.
I didn't say it until 5-6 months in, and my husband a month or two after that but we were sure of our feelings by then. Lust is very different to love

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

After a month it would scare me too. Give him some time. Just because he doesn't say it, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't feel it. Also, he might have thought it was just something you uttered spontaneously during love-making.

Lopezz1999 · Accepted Answer

You were probably caught up in the moment. Of course he cares for you, but it's obvious that you two don't love each other yet, given the amount of time you two have been together. Give it time, and this infatuation will turn into love.. because you can't (rather than don't) love him either yet.

ninjast4r · Accepted Answer

So you said I Love You during sex, and you wanted him to drop everything to deliver a Shakespearean soliloquy right then and there? Dude was busy. Why not say it while his attention isn't so diverted?

Browneye57 · Answer

He's not ready, not there. He's getting free sex!
Women are the keepers of sex, men are the keepers of commitment. If you give your sex away for free there's not a lot of impetus for them to commit. A guy will pretty much fuck any woman that will let them, are at least are attracted to. Just because he's having sex with you doesn't mean he loves you.
This is the difference between the emotional feelings of the woman and the logical thought processes of the men. The are vastly different - something the FI is trying to negate.

GraveTruth · Answer

He probably was just uncomfortable because you caught him off guard. He probably was like "Fuck it feels good, I wanna slam her till she's screaming hard. YEAH, baby" then you are a like "I love you so MUCH, dear!!!"

That's going to mess with a guys head.

Anonymous · Answer

yo too soon hahaha... wait until you've had sex like more than 10 times and valentines day would be good cuz hell give u a gift probs.. dont rush it as much as u want to! haha there is nothing guys r more scared of than commitment no matter what lever... he's still probe getting used to the fact that ur just dating. A little too soon and he's probe scared even though he doesn't show it.. my boyfriend is the exact same and literally wanna kill him!

uknaked · Answer

Love is a whole different ball game to affection, lust and passion. He most probably is not sure, and if you said it at a moment of passion, you may not mean it either.
Declarations of love should only be made in a loving, sober, comfortable condition.
It is equally perfectly possible that even if you love him, or think you do, he may not be prepared to make a statement that suggests permanence in a relationship!

Rainie_ · Answer

You haven't even been together for a month yet... chill. Love sometimes take time to develop. I barely say I love someone unless I'm completely certain and saying it in the right moment.
Have patience.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

It's to early? Since you guys only been together for a month. Also maybe he thought you loved how he was having sex with you. Give it some time. Some people likes to say " I love you or I love you too " when they really mean it.

Anonymous · Answer

I would have lost my boner, nothing ruins a woman like the L word. Makes me nauseous, hearing the word especially before like the 5 year mark just makes me feel betrayed, scares me to death. Means im with a female who has zero control over her emotions.
If it were me id take drastic measures to vanish, were talking moving

idonthaveausername02 · Answer

He might be thinking that you love him coz he was good in bed and if nothing else (I am not sure but trying my best to answer since there is limited info)

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

Well that's awkward. 😯😕 You can't force him to say it though so just move along until he's ready.

sawno · Answer

During sex he might be caught up in the moment but i'd expect him to cuddle and/or express his love afterwards. This is a bit of an odd sign, i hope he is not using you as a hookup.

hawkeye92 · Answer

a month... lol. he needs to hit it and quit it. #yousoundpsycho

GingerGuy · Answer

It's probably too soon for him. A month isn't that long. Maybe he's not sure how he feels yet and doesn't want to say it if he doesn't mean it.

truthbeknown · Answer

Someone always has to say it first, just the way it is. One month in is a bit early. Don't freak out, he'll say it when ready!

chris1819 · Answer

I guess.. he is taking his time to reassure, the way he feels about u. OR he is just messing around u.. as he is getting what he wanted

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

He could be scared. You've only been together a month, so he could need a lot more time.

MermaidLove · Answer

You said it in the moment and thats a tricky thing. Lol its kinda early on to pop the L word

Littlett25 · Answer

at least he's not lying to you. Personally it would take me a long time to say I love you

JustinTheGreat · Answer

He w\either was caught up in the sex, or he doesn't love you

OrangeBoy · Answer

Men need more time to understand their feelings. That's how we work. Sadlly for you girls be patience.

Anonymous · Answer

So you just want to hear the words, you don't actually care if he means them?

ChocEyes1 · Answer

You can't force people to have feelings. People feel what they feel when they feel. Take care.

Liisjak · Answer

Dropping the L bomb casually like that lol, I'm surprised he didn't end up like Hiroshima.

Kgbmafia · Answer

not even a month together and told him you loved him. I would be scared and put off if I were him

LittleSally · Answer

Because he doesn't love you... Obviously.

April10 · Answer

Maybe he didn't hear you

cupidkisses · Answer

it seems he doesn't feel so

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