How to avoid them? I'm almost giving up on meeting a nice guys :(
Most Helpful Guy
#1 - accept that 99% of guys use dating apps to try to get sex. Increase that to 99.998% if it's a free app. Increase it to 100.324% if it's Tinder.
#2 - the exceptions are mostly on PAID apps, because they're actually willing to make an effort to find love, even if it costs money.
#3 - fill out your profile and be specific about the fact that you're looking for a relationship and NOT willing to have casual sex. Let them know that you don't have sex outside of a relationship, and that there will be a waiting period. That will filter out a sizable chunk (but certainly not ALL) of the guys just looking for sex.
#4 - Try actually leaving the house once in a while. Go places where single guys are likely to be, and, you know, TALK to them. Even still, accept that most of them will just want sex - which is why you're TALKING to them; to figure out if they just want sex or maybe something more.
#5 - Filter Filter FILTER! You may need to talk to 100 guys, go on 5-10 first dates, and 3-5 second dates, and 2-3 third dates, before you find a great guy to date further. That's normal - but if you keep a good sense of humor, the process can be a lot of fun, occasionally disturbing, and teach you a whole lot.4THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Oh, it's difficult to avoid them, you kind of have to check the message and then determine if the guy only wants a hookup or a fuck buddy. I feel you, I've gotten some really weird messages on dating apps. By the way, certain apps cater to different demographics. For example, most people use tinder to find a hookup while okcupid has less of that (they still exist though, just like I'm sure someone is using tinder to find a real relationship). Try to pick the optimal app for your end goals and then weed through the messages. I know on okcupid it also allows you to indicate what you are looking for (long term relationship, short term, etc.)1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE