Are white men afraid to approach black women?

[MissMulato]

Im black and I don't know if any other women other than white women have this same experience. I like all men but I noticed Asian men and white men seem scared to approach me. They will check me out and stare at me sometimes but never make a move. Im really nice and friendly with people do i don't know why they'd be afraid to come up and talk to me. Latino guys and black guys will just walk up to me and flirt with me.

Is it just me? does anyone else have this experience or is there a reason for this?

No. I have approached them.

Yes. I'm afraid to.

No. I love them.

Not my type.

Never happened so can't say.

[abc3643]

This is a form of racism. Not the hateful kind, but many of these white guys - like all guys - just doesn't want any drama. Unfortunately:
1. While they may not be racist, they may have racist friends and family, so these guys don't want any shit from their friends/family whether directed at them or you. There's not much you can do with these weak guys.
2. They may be guys who have stereotypes in their mind that you might be the kind of black girl who creates a lot of drama or is overly dramatic or "ghetto". So, that's a form of racism. Fortunately, this is the kind of racism that can be eradicated - at least where you are concerned - by being "least ghetto".
3. Penis size: they feel, as white guys, they won't "measure up" where it counts.

Unfortunately, many white guys fall in this category. This is a good thing in a way because none of these weak-willed guys are worthy of you. You want a white guy who will approach you - this shows 1) he's not racist, 2) he's not insecure about his dick, and 3) either he doesn't have racist friends/family and/or he's man-enough not to care about the feelings or indulge those racists.

That said, GOD, I miss Jackie... She was such a hot sister that I would have got into a relationship if she ever gave me the signal. Our sexual tension was great; it kept me alive. Sadly, she had 2 other white BFs at the same time.

[GraveTruth]

YES they are and anyone who says no is an total liar.

Mainly they are afraid of rejection because the chances are high.

generally speaking, most black women have this whole "I only date black men" thing going on. I've only seen black women date a white guy when he is super popular, famous, well off, or has a high social status.
I'm not saying black women are shallow. I'm just saying some women of all races are weakened by that stuff.

Let's face it. Black women do NOT date white guys. And I grew up in a black neighborhood.

[MissMulato]

yes that is true and it's stupid. I don't know how someone can only be attracted to their own race.

[MissMulato]

not all black women think that way. I definitely do not and most of my black female friends find white men attractive. Some of them are afraid that white guys or any other guys from other races don't like black women so they stick with black guys.

[GraveTruth]

It's good that people are open though. I always have preferred to date outside of my race but I have not really had much of an opportunity.

then again I'm too shy for anyone :)

[MissMulato]

I have as well and you shouldn't be shy. Most girls prefer if you're bold and upfront with them.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't date black women but I am not afraid of them.

[MissMulato]

well that's good? I guess?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I'm somewhat afraid to approach black girls in a bar or other setting to hit on them. There's a fear that you might do or say something wrong and be viewed as racist. Its hard to push aside all the baggage that comes with US race relations history in an awkward situation like that.

Those kind of fears and thoughts dissipate quickly once you meet someone. So I have flirted with black girls I knew or that I met in more casual settings. But in the already awkward setting of trying to meet strangers at a bar it's difficult.

[RedThread]

I live in a wicked rural area where almost everyone is white. My school is more diverse but the people I run into in my major are usually white or east/south Asian. In my daily life I don't really bump into black women very often. It's not a lack of attraction or fear or anything.

[WalterRadio]

It isn't a matter of "being afraid". It is a question of whether the woman is attractive.

There are not all that many black women I personally find attractive, and most, but not all, of them seem to be East African (as in born in East Africa).

[MissMulato]

well there's not a lot of attractive people in any rave so that's not an excuse.

[WalterRadio]

No, there are not "a lot".

I find certain traits attractive and certain traits unattractive. Those traits are not equally dispersed among races.

I don't care what a woman's race is that I date, but I do care what her characteristics are. It also just seems hard to connect to an American black woman. It is easier to connect with a Kenyan or Ethiopian. I don't know why that is.

[MissMulato]

I see and yes that would be your own preference.

[Bango]

why the fear?
I don't see a logical reason for a guy to be afraid of approaching a girl from another race
if you're beautiful, then everyone will approach you

[Sualtam]

It goes vice versa too. Black women have prejudices about white men only using them for sex (black fever), so it's complicated.

[MissMulato]

same with some white guy.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

It depends on the woman but there is a stereotype of them being loud and angry especially at white men. Of course not everyone is and I know a number of women who aren't like that but if that is a perception then it could have an impact

[MissMulato]

well there's a stereotype that says white people are known to be racist and scared of other races so should that have an impact on them?

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Sure why not, blacks are scared to death of whites.

[Anonymous]

I haven't voted

I know a lot of black women aren't interested in white men so I'd need stronger indicators of interest from her.

That said when i get signs of interest i find black women are probably the most obvious. K

[MissMulato]

that's a good point but a lot think like you do. they like you but think you are not interested.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah in my early 20s and earlier I never got any signs of interest from black women. Mid 30s on I've gotten it more.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I should also point out white men on average are gonna use more subtle flirting and look for more positive signs before continuing. They're going to be less persistent because that's what they are used to. And Asian guys even more subtle.

[ALPHALONEWOLF]

Asian and white are different from Latinos and black.

[MissMulato]

why?

[ALPHALONEWOLF]

Latinos and black guys...

black simple they are like so no problem...
Latinos are mostly from American continent and black are normal there and for them you are same like a other girls. they accept that colour and that is normal for them.

white people... they are open minded then no problem. but most of them like white women or colour which better brown or at least Brown. like in some parts of Europe and Australia (atleast70%) the are colour racist.

Asian. Asian some are scared ( don't know. why maybe more becuase Asian guys are shy they are really not like Latinos ).
i seen many black women in my country.

approaching... i think the truth is Asian are not colour racist but they like fairer skin. and there are very few Asian who dated black women. so dating a black is weird or difficult for them.
if a black women want a Asian guy then she have to make the first move. and other way is she must very attractive.
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[ALPHALONEWOLF]

other reason for Asian guys is...
due to culture religion and they society they raise.

[ALPHALONEWOLF]

and trust me there are many problem with Asian guys many means so many.

[Anonymous]

Are black women afraid to approach white men?

If you're interested in the guy why don't you do the obvious and approach him?