My mom called my boyfriend ugly?

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I've been dating this amazing guy for about a year and a half. To some people he wouldn't be considered attractive, and my friends tell me I'm too pretty for him. I honestly don't see it, I find him very attractive. Anyways, my mom made a comment to my sister while I wasn't around and said he was ugly. My sister told me and I'm pissed off by it. She rarely brings him up and she'll give me shit for not telling her my personal life. This is why, cause she talks behind my back about the people I love. He's never wrong my mom and he's been so nice, she's just a bitch honestly. am I overreacting? Should I just get over it? I would talk to her about it but she turns everything into a fight and I honestly don't have the energy for that. I don't know why but I feel extremely offended and hurt. To the world looks may be everything, but I've never been able to see the world that way so upfront. What do you think?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Wow, okay #1 you should not be calling your mom a B. Secondly, that is her shallow opinion and it doesn't have anything to do with who you pick. So unless she has some valid reasons other than his looks as to why you shouldn't see a possible future with him, she needs to just keep her mouth shut on this one. At the same time, your sister shouldn't be repeating back what others say. Besides, it's her word against your sister's word. You are getting angry over something when you don't even know if you mom even said that at all. It could have been your sister instigating.

So yes, you are overreacting. You do need to get over it. But I highly suggest you don't confront your mom until you get the full story. And even when you do get a chance to speak to her, do it respectfully. If she did say it, don't stoop to her level.

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

In all honesty I'd pull her aside and say something. Not confrontationally or aggressively, just that it's gotten back to you and you'd appreciate that in the future if she has nothing kind to say about him or your relationship she not say anything at all.

I'm fiercely protective of my husband. Not in a batshit bunny boiler crazy, but I don't stand for people speaking badly of him in that manner. He's mine, I love him and if he heard people close to me saying things about his appearance it would hurt his feelings and it's my responsibility to prevent that where I can

Notsohip · Accepted Answer

Oh my goodness I deal with the same issue, except my tactless mother is not afraid to say he's ugly to my face. Like okay are you the one dating him?

She especially resents that I didn't go for my "better" looking friend that liked me. It's definitly crappy of them to do. Just gotta roll your eyes and brush it off, because it's a trivial matter that is insignificant and not worth fighting over.

MadeInAmerica · Accepted Answer

I think your overreacting a bit. She spared your feelings by never saying a word to you about his looks to your face. Your sister is the real fire started here by gossiping that to you knowing you be pissed about it.

Nobody opinion matters but your own. She gave hers. To be honest I doubt I will think any man is going to be on par with my daughters to begin with. It's a parent thing too.

Walrus_au · Accepted Answer

reduce how much you include your mother in your life - minimise the hurt and harm she can cause.

Good for you for sticking to your decision and being comfortable enough to stand up for it.

If you don't have the energy for the fight, don't have the fight. just don't give her the air.

maddog19 · Answer

I feel like im reading my own post. It hurts so bad doesn't it? It's bc u love him so much and to hear someone u love say something so disgusting and messed up it hurts even more. My boyfriend has done no wrong either. Ur mom and mine are jusg jealous bc they are unhappy with their lives and love drama. If he treats u like ur his world like my boyfriend treats me dont ever let go! Hang on bc we hit a once in a lifetime

sadgirl2002 · Answer

Your mom is just being honest. She's saying that because she knows you can do better. My mom and all my friends have called every single guy I've had a crush on ugly, and looking back at it now they were pretty ugly and I'm glad I'm not with them because our kids would come out funny looking

Akesuke · Answer

umm if parents are like that it is okay to stand it for a bit until you can be totally independent and forget about parents, that will be your deserved revenge against them ✌

Izumiblu · Answer

If that's all that happened you're over reacting. You need to get hold of yourself so you can talk to her in a level headed manner about appropriate ways to talk.

Kreneman · Answer

The world can be a very mean place and even with family & freinds but dont follow what people say. If you find this man attractive, he treats you with respect, and your happy; that is what matter the most.

Penged · Answer

Thats their opinion of them. Just because he isn't good looking to some people doesn't change the fact of what you think of him. :)

ObviouslyBored · Answer

People are shallow.. if YOU are happy with him stay with him. Your mother is kissing those lips you are.

Cozybcuz · Answer

I would say confront hee about avoiding a problem will never solve it. It might be difficult short term but long term it willooks do you both good.

kayciesimon · Answer

does it really matter what your mom thinks? looks aren't a big deal in a relationship. it's what's inside that counts.

peachykeenjellybean · Answer

are you attracted to him? That's all that fucking matters

Nice_Guy_Last · Answer

It's rude, but unless she is being mean in a way that will effect him, I'd just let it go. Haters gonna hate.

Anonymous · Answer

hey thats good news with how much older women want the youngsters she probably won't try to sleep with him :)

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

Behave the same as they do. Give them the taste of there own medicine.

GoldFan1001 · Answer

I don't feel bad he's ugly I know the feeling since I'm ugly too I feel bad cause your probably gonna believe your friends and family after awhile and dump him.

zagor · Answer

Ignore your mom, in this case.

Pablo3000 · Answer

They are jealouse.. You are on the right way

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